Everybody knows a few Jealous Johnny’s who can’t be happy for anyone’s success and always have a snotty, negative comment to make. Those are the people who don’t succeed. The people who don’t get ahead. The people that sabotage themselves with their negative behavior. They see a successful person and they think “What an asshole! I can’t believe girls like him! What a prick! I could do that if I wanted to!“. Those people should simply be ignored. Those armchair critics can stay in loser-ville with the other Negative Nancy’s.
You, on the other hand, are smarter than that. You know that when you see someone who has an enviable life that he probably did something to obtain his good fortune. You know that if you can put together the puzzle of what he did, learn from his successes and mistakes, then you may be able to obtain similar fortune. And when you study the lives of many enviable Men you can let all of their combined advice, teachings and mishaps inform you of what it takes to be successful. You can let the envy motivate you. There is no time for negativity when you are busy becoming something better.
If you treat successful people as teachers and you the student there is much to learn. If you treat successful people as the butt of your complaint then there is nothing to learn and nothing to gain. When someone produces a twinge of jealousy in you think not “How the hell did that asshole do that? What a lucky bastard!“. Instead, think to yourself “How can I do that?” and then put together the puzzle. What one man can do, another can do. All you need to do is reverse engineer that success. Figure out what they did and then emulate it.
It does not take creativity to be successful. Most people are not creative. What it does take is recognizing an opportunity when it presents itself.
Next time you are jealous or envious do not think negatively about what an a-hole the winner is. Instead, think to yourself how you can accomplish the same thing. Visualize yourself doing the same thing. Learn everything you can about the winners process so you can emulate or modify the process and create success for yourself. One thing you do not need to do is re-invent the wheel. The wheel is already here and it’s a great invention - it is only your job to determine how you can emulate someone who is already making money from the wheel.
“But I don’t want to be a copycat!”
Yes, you do. You think you are the only person in the world to hold a job? You are the only person in the world to work in an office or a factory? There are millions billions who trade their time for money. People who work jobs are the biggest copycats in the world.
Everyone is already a copycat. Why not copy success instead of mediocrity? It truly does not take more work or thought to run a, say, successful internet business than it does to punch in a time card every Monday through Friday.
When I went into business for myself I did not re-invent the wheel. I did what hundreds, probably thousands, of other people already do. I studied their methods. Day and night I studied. I learned and I decided what would work best for me and my strengths. The only thing hard about going into business for yourself is being DEDICATED. If you can dedicate yourself, just like you dedicate yourself to your 9-5 jive, you can accomplish something. Maybe you won’t become rich but there is one thing that is infinitely more important than material wealth - TIME.
The time and freedom to enjoy life as you wish is the most precious thing in the world.
All it takes is the desire. Find the method you want to copy, find one that meshes with your strengths and sensibilities and get to copying. You can copy my step by step Spartan Entrepreneur method or you can copy any method you want. Damn near anything you want to copy can be found online.
If you cannot find a method on the internet there is a little known secret that Entrepreneurs have been using for centuries…
This secret is called….
ASKING QUESTIONS.
Find someone who does what you want to do and ask them questions. Take them to lunch or for a beer and pick their brain. Most people are happy to talk about their business and themselves. All you have to do is pick their brain. A tiny little nugget of seemingly throw-away information could prove to be invaluable to you. Instead of being Jealous of Johnny you can pick Johnny’s brain and find out what he did to build what he has built.
You may find out you were jealous for no reason. You may find out that most entrepreneurs are not super smart geniuses, they are just regular people who decided to follow and copy the method of other tried and true pros.
Heck, you may come to find out you can do the exact same thing.
Jealousy and Envy aren’t the same. They’re different emotions. It’s a common misconception.
I’m sitting here reading your blog, various articles… What you do is pretty cool. I really don’t think you do it for financial gain. Sure, its a bi-product. However, its very obvious, its not your main motivator. You know what, good for you man. Your someone who gives a shit about the world around them. I like that. Your mindset (our shared mindset) is outstanding. ONE MAN CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE. NEVER LET THE WEAK TELL YOU DIFFERENT.
I’m so sick of all the negativity in America. It bothers me. It doesn’t ruin my day. However, I look around and see a generation of men that are really boys. They have turned into whining, point the finger, food stamp collecting (I would rather starve, I’m not kidding. I do believe in state sponsored compassion for those that REALLY need it. Not able bodied men), sexual deviants, pornography accepting, physically inept, defiling their beautiful human body with disgusting tattoos, wretched stretched out earlobes, drug dealing, glorifying evil (such as that idiot Jay Z), media brainwashed men. Men that are abrogating their responsibilities of what it means to be American. Men that look for a government to support them. Forge your own path! Your goal should be to become a free man! Not a member of a socialistic, debt slave, non-firearm carrying society. THIS IS HOW SLAVES ARE MADE!!!
I think your blog hits this shit head on. You are a soldier in my eyes. Many are in a state of consternation when they come here. You help them open their eyes. Many of us come here, so we don’t feel quite so alone in the world.
Whatever the case, you would be wise to listen to this man’s words. His writings are NOT mercurial thoughts designed to hurt you. They are ideologies of a man. They are ideologies, that are constructed, to empower you. If you are someone that comes here with obdurate views towards Victor, its because you have been enculturated into a deception that has been orchestrated since your birth.
Stop accepting what people tell you is possible. I never did. People ridiculed me. Talked about me behind my back. Said I couldn’t do it. My business card reads CEO. What does yours say? I answer to no one except my customers. Its my honor to answer to them. Only a very wise sales person or business owner would understand that comment.
Vic, you don’t need my approbation, however thanks for having the balls to boldly put this stuff out there. Its good to know, that in this country, there are still men in our age group, that will draw a line in the sand & not submit to this pathetic liberal ideology (I’m not a Republican) of feeble-minded, degenerate, destabilization of the American male. WE WILL NOT SUBMIT.
Italian G,
You are on fire with the comments lately. This comment is gold. I have made this the featured comment in the side bar.
FYI - For other readers, the G in Italian G does not stand for gangsta or gangster. I feel that this must be noted.
Aha I totally agree about the skinny tattooed ‘men’ with stretched ears; I go to hardcore shows just to see if they’ll fight me. I think you can all guess the answer to that one.
A little late, but that is a superb comment. Best I’ve read here.
You have nice blog ! I enyoy it from Slovak republic !!!!
How is Your bussiness going lately ?
“Many men are
slaves because one is an oppressor;
let us hate the oppressor!”
One man is an oppressor because many are
slaves; let us despise the slaves.”
“Why not copy success instead of mediocrity?”
Brilliant!
‘There is no time for negativity when you are busy becoming something better’ Victor you speak the truth. Because when this happens you have tunnel vision and no time for negativity.
For me it’s been an evolution from jealousy & envy to admiration and emulation. I used to hate the successful due to their arrogance but since building the desire to leave loser-ville and move towards freedom-ville I have come to realise that what I mistook for arrogance was actually pride. There is nothing wrong with pride, its actually necessary to excel as long as it’s not used to be-little others intentionally. That’s arrogance.