In honor of Memorial Day, let's talk about 52 things that every Father should teach his Son(s).
1) How to Throw a Ball
It breaks my heart to see little boys who don't know how to throw a ball. They stay inside all the time eating potato chips and playing the newest video game system. Put a baseball in their hands and they look like a Deer caught in headlights.
No boy should ever be caught dead throwing like a girl. When I was a youngster we had a name for all the boys who threw like girls, and it wasn't a nice name.
2) How to Throw a Punch
Our single mommy world is raising a bunch of little pussified boys who get bullied (because they are bulliable). You've heard the rallying cries of “STOP THE BULLYING! STOP THE BULLYING!”
I say stop raising twinks and the bullying will stop. Each Father must teach his son how to throw a solid punch. Bullies are cowards who pick on the weak, after a jab to the nose you can forget about bullies picking on you ever again.
3) How To Tie a Tie
If you don't teach your Son how to tie a tie he is going to learn from the internet. Is the internet a better father than you?
Your mind is your greatest asset and with it, and the right attitude, you can accomplish anything you set out to do. Make the decision, do not waiver in the face of adversity, and you will reap the rewards of your effort. Give in to adversity and quit and you can expect to be completely and totally AVERAGE.
5) Never Give Women Power Over You
When women have the upper hand they will use it to your peril. It is only when you hold your rightful power that women respect you. It is usually the case that men who give women power, who try and do everything to please women, who would never dream of arguing or abusing a women, that get the police called on them for “abuse”.
6) How to Build a Bookshelf
Not knowing how to use a hammer, nails, screwdriver would be highly embarrassing later in life when little Johnny has to have his nagging wife fix everything in the house.
Disregard the media baloney about discrimination being bad. Discrimination is how you survive and prosper. You see a girl in a bar dressed like a slut, you can be sure she is a slut. You see a group of blacks with their pants around their mid-thighs you can be sure you don't want anything to do with them. You see a group of Mexicans gathered around the Home Depot you can be sure they are illegals.
8) It's Not OK to Be a Sissy
Only single mommy's and weak daddies raise sissies. A strong father will not raise a weak child, he will teach his child the importance of stoic strength. He will teach him the importance of a “Yes, I can!” attitude.
9) Trust is Earned, Not Given
Treat everyone with respect but never let your guard down. People in this world are out to eat the weak and if you show vulnerability the Hyenas will feast.
10) The Importance of Hard Work
The years of 15-21 will mark you for the rest of your life, it is imperative that you get in some hard work so you can develop the habit of not being a lazy slob. That can mean athletics, yard work, farm work, work in the family business, or school work.
11) The Importance of Physical Fitness
Keeping your body lean and mean shows pride in yourself and your abilities. Letting yourself go is a sign of weakness, depression, and high estrogen and low testosterone.
12) Don't Believe Her When She Says She's on the Pill
A.P.O.E. (Always pull out early).
13) How to Swim
I was at Maya Beach, a small island in Thailand (famous for the movie The Beach) and I saw the most embarrassing sight of my life. There are two ways to get to Maya beach: The front way and the back way. If you go the front way you have to pay, so we had our banana boat driver take us the back way so we could get in for free. At the back door of Maya beach you have to park the boat in the water, jump in the ocean, and swim to the edge of the island where you climb up a rope and then up some stairs.
As we were leaving we saw some truly horrific sights. One guy COULD NOT SWIM EVEN WHILE WEARING A LIFE JACKET. He was being pulled through the ocean by a tiny little Thai man who was not wearing a life jacket. The guy in the life jacket was being dragged like a little baby by a guy half his size who was not wearing a life jacket. That man's father failed big time. The guy looked at me, we made eye-contact and he just shrugged like “what can you do?“.
The embarrassment does not end there. The guy had a buddy WHO ALSO COULD NOT SWIM EVEN WHILE WEARING A LIFE JACKET and was being pulled by another little Thai man.
14) Competition is Great
If you play, you play to win. 2nd place is the first loser.
15) Opportunity is Everywhere
You must learn to keep your eyes and ears open and ready to take advantage of opportunity. As a man you do not wait for opportunity to present itself to you, you seek it out.
16) Know Who You Are
You will live amongst other races who covet the things you have, never forget that and never let your guard down.
17) Always Give 110%
If you are going to do something your must do it right. Never give less than your best. Your aim for perfection is what separates you from the animals of society.
18) Your Word is Special
If you say you will do something it is a must that you follow through. Never, ever be known as a liar or as a flake. Your reputation is special and must be kept in-tact.
19) How to Make Money on Your Own
Working for others to make them rich and you a pittance is what slaves do. Making money on your own is how you do for yourself.
20) Boys is Boys and Girls is Girls
and never the tween shall meet. Sex is not a social construct, it is biological. If you don't listen to yourself and your body you are going to grow up to be very angry and confused. It is only when you know who you are and what you stand for that you can be comfortable with yourself.
21) Excuses are Useless
Excuses are for the useless and the weak who cannot do what they said they would do. Always do as you say you will do and never give excuses as to why you didn't do something.
22) Excessive Apologies are for Pussies
Never, ever apologize unless you have done something terribly wrong. Never end phone calls with “sorry”, never pepper your conversation with “sorry” and never BE sorry unless you truly must be. If it wasn't your fault do not say sorry. If it wasn't a heinous crime, don't say sorry.
23) Girls
Girls will respond to you being a boy. They will not respond to you trying to bond with them and have things in common with them. The further away from their femininity you are the more they will be attracted to you. Tease them, play with them, treat them like a little sister and you will not have girl problems.
24) The Importance of Athletics
Sports will teach you discipline and competition and they will give you pride of accomplishment. Sports will develop your body at the point in time it is most essential to develop your body - your teenage years.
25) Be Bold
Bold action is required to reap the rewards of life. Timidity is good for nothing. If you want something you go after it and you take it. You don't ask permission to fulfill your goals, you don't apologize for your goals, you don't make excuses for your goals, and you don't give a damn about being modest in the face of lessers.
You must be disciplined enough to keep your hair trimmed and clean, you must bathe regularly, you must wear clean clothes daily, you must not dress like a slob, and you must keep yourself in top physical condition.
27) Hedonism is for the Weak
The world you are brought into is a degenerate, nihilistic, and hedonistic den of sin. Most of those you see did not have the same benefits you had (a father who taught you about life). Pity them, but do not join them in their quest for self-destruction.
28) Treat Animals With Firm Kindness
You will never have a better friend in your whole life than your puppy dog. Be good to your pets because they will be good to you. Remember, son, you have friends and family and the whole world, your dog only has you. A firm swat to your dogs behind is enough discipline, but you must never take your frustrations on a helpless animal.
29) Think BIG!
Small dreams are worthless. Think BIG and get BIG results. Aim high, go for the gold.
30) You Are a Born Leader
Always lead by example and strive for the best.
31) A Higher Power
There is more to life than we know or will ever know. Never think that you know everything about everything. There is something more at work and we won't know what it is until we die. Atheism is a form of nihilism. If there's no God then we can just do whatever we want and not worry about consequences. Son, that's good enough for them but your life has a purpose.
32) Save Money
Spending your money on the latest gadgets and doo-dads and not saving anything for a rainy day is stupid. You will always need a backup fund for a rainy day or for an investment opportunity. The Richest Man in Babylon
is good bed-time reading.
33) Don't Talk So Much
No one needs to know your plans except for you. Keep a lid on the motor-mouthing.
34) How to Properly Shake Hands
A firm handshake says the world about you. A limp handshake says the opposite.
35) Embrace the Future but Do Not Give Up Tradition
The future will bring some fantastic advancements but never clown on your race, your races tradition and values. That's part of who you are and it is to be embraced.
36) How to Shave
The internet should not be a guide to life. Every son should learn to shave from his father.
37) How to Shoot A Gun
Every man should know how to shoot a gun. Especially with the world delving into chaos. If you shoot an animal for sport be sure to eat the meat.
38) Don't Bully or Harm But Always Fight Back
Never, ever let someone slap you around or have their way with you. You don't start fights but you sure as hell finish them if needed.
39) The Word “No” Gives You All the Power
Never be afraid to say no. No is the most powerful word you can ever say.
40) How to Go Camping
Son, this is how you set up a tent, this is how you build a campfire, and this is how you grill meat and beans outdoors. The cooler is for ice, water and beer.
41) How to Fish
Fishing is a fun and relaxing past-time and comes with a great benefit: fresh, delicious fish to eat.
42) How to Change the Oil in Your Car / How to Change a Tire
It's ok to take the car to a pro to get the oil changed but some day you may be strapped for cash and need to save every penny. Some day you may be on the highway far from anywhere when a tire blows, you will need to know how to put on a spare tire and not have to rely on mechanical support. Paying someone to change your tire is just a waste of money.
43) Take Road Trips
You should take road trips as often as you can. You will see parts of the country you would have never seen otherwise and road trips will be some of the fondest memories you will ever have.
44) Go to Barbers
A Barber is trained to cut men's hair. A hair stylist is trained to cut women's hair. Always look for the red and white Barber's pole to find a Barber.
45) How to Cook
If you don't know how to cook you will be one of two things: Fat or Skinny. It is imperative to know how to cook steak, eggs, chicken, pork, bacon, and fish. Those foods should be your staple foods and you can add things like potatoes, vegetables, rice, and other foods that require cooking. Fast food equals fast fat on your belly.
46) How to Lift Weights and Do Pushups
Learning proper from from a seasoned pro is better than learning from the internet.
47) Always Ask for What You Want
If the waiter brings you the wrong food tell them. If the cook made your order wrong tell them. Never be shy to get what you paid for. If your woman asks you what you want for dinner you always answer. You never say “oh, I dunno…what do you want…“.
48) Don't Be Afraid to Negotiate
You will want to get the best possible price on the cars and houses you buy. Never pay the asking price (unless it's a steal) and always try to negotiate the best possible price. Always pay cash money. An offer with cash in hand is often irresistible.
49) Political Correctness is How the Weak Gain Strength
Always understand what political correctness is based on: lies. People are not all the same. Black is not white. Woman is not man. Gay is not straight.
50) Travel as Often as You Can
Travel does not inherently make you a better person but it gives you life experience and a chance to see how the rest of the world lives. It will give you stories to tell for years to come.
51) Never Tie Yourself Down
Don't tie yourself down with an un-affordable mortgage, don't tie yourself down with a job making others richer, never tie yourself down with immense credit card or student loan debt. If you can't pay cash, wait and save up until you can.
52) Always Keep a Positive Mental Attitude
Remember, son, whether you think you can or think you can't you are right.
“Political Correctness is how the weak gain strength” Brilliant as always Victor.
Black may not be white, but it’s still awesome.
The point was not comparison, it was to wash away the mainstream bullshit propaganda and acknowledge that people are different and not the same,
the idiotic mindset that enables regressive traitors to force the society to accept unnatural phenomenons such as homosexual propaganda & etc as “normal” in the name of “equality” …
Great work Vic!
First of all I am really excited to find out that my father taught me most of those and the rest I learned from reading your blog posts.
P.S Looking forward to your book
This post is complete and utter truth.
My Dad didn’t teach me a single thing. The result? I turned into a sunken, submissive, depressed loser who only ever played video games, ate junk food and stared at the ground. Think “forever alone”.
Even though the Internet was responsible for a lot of false beliefs, it was responsible for completely transforming me. I cleaned up my act, started being social, started dating, started eating properly, started working out, started recording music. Eventually, especially thanks to this site, I learned about true masculinity, and I’m on my way to never having a job again. I’ve never been happier and more ambitious in my goddamn life. Being masculine makes a man happy.
But I got lucky. The Internet was my father figure, and luckily it steered me in the right direction. But it doesn’t take a genius to see that’s a stupidly haphazard situation. The world is full of single mothers and weak fathers, and there’s very little you can do to change that. What you can do is raise a son the right way, and if you know a kid without a masculine father figure — become him. You’ll change his life for the better.
I love it, man. I love to see people take action and turn themselves around.
You just happened to have the smarts to learn the right things from the net.
My father was in and out of my life and I grew up(not raised) at my aunt’s house. But I grew up with a lot of male figures in my life and I had the
goal of joining the military since junior high.
Since then, I was always into martial arts and fitness.
I see how you feel.
I am a black man. My mother had that “I don’t need no man” mentality and my father, well he was strange. Sometimes he was a man and sometimes he was weak. He taught me a few things, but the Internet helped me the most. Discrimination ironically saved my life as you had mentioned earlier. The Internet taught me that. I became a man because of the Internet.
“If you play, you play to win. 2nd place is the first loser.”
One of the best quotes I’ve read on your blog so far.
For the first time I do disagree with you on something. I find that not believing in a higher power actually makes you work harder. It requires you to find out for yourself what’s right or wrong. It also takes away the false safety net for when you need an excuse or are feeling down.
Loc,
I said nothing about looking to religion for moral support. When I say higher power I mean that life has a purpose.
But you did mention Atheism is nihilistic. Which I disagree as this is not true. Nihilism is for losers and winners don’t believe in God but themselves & mother nature, which is known as Atheism.
I agree with rest of your stuff and other articles I have read here so far. Would be interested in knowing more on your modafinil experiences. Just curious what is your stand on Gay, Lesbians and Trans?
Mother Nature hahahaha. There is no more nihilistic outlook than atheism. Our world is en route already to that destiny and its fruits show (stagnation, ruin, next stop mass slaughter…).
By the way only idiots, sissies and feminists rely on “mother nature”. How blind does one need to be in order to believe a building can build itself from nothingness…
Couldn’t have said it better. Kudos
“When we look at the present we still see wars going on because of religion” Wrong. Today, it’s mostly political bullshit. 400 years ago, it was political but kings would fraudulently use it for a reason to go to war. And not “all” wars are over religion. Civil war. Vietnam.ect.
”winners dont believe in god but themselves” I think that if you take a look at history and present you’d realize that you are wrong. you can believe in god and yourself you know…
Here we go “Science vs Religion” BS, f#ck me what a waste. No one really knows and nobody really gives a f#ck.
When we look at history, all we see is religious wars. When we look at the present we still see wars going on because of religion. I think that you need to take a better look at history and the present.
Furthermore, I think what he means with ” winners don’t believe in god but themselves,” is that people depend on God rather than getting things done themselves.
For example, if someone is having a hard time, you will most likely hear them say ” I trust God, and He has a plan for me.” So, instead of actually trying to make things better, they put their trust in God (who does not exists, as far as we KNOW), and do nothing.
@Sibylla - You exist because God existed before you and made all things. Did you “make yourself”? Who made your parents? and their parents? What about the Intelligence it takes to “build / make anything”? Do you have the ability to “Sustain Life, no matter what”?
”winners dont believe in god but themselves” hahaha! Are you saying that our founding fathers and pioneers and cowboys weren’t winners?
@Exenith Ditto all. I seem to have had a similar experience to you. Sometimes it makes me rage and punch the wall, but there is nothing I can do about the past, only the future. I want to raise a Son, I want to do a good job and give him what I never got. I’ve even written a meditation (In a Marcus Aurelius style) around my purpose being to raise a Son and stop the cycle.
This post is brilliant Vic, I’ve saved it and will be using it as a checklist for improving myself, how can I raise a Son to be a Man without becoming a Man myself? This is my mission in life, at least right now.
As for Body of a Spartan. I’m really looking forward to it, a single set of guidelines to follow in Vic’s patent pending no bullshit style is invaluable.
Today I made a slightly modified Spartan Soup (Black Soup) the main staple of the Spartan diet (Ignore that shitty spartan diet blog, it’s complete bullshit). It isincredible delicious, nutrient dense and energy pumping, I’m currently in ketosis and this soup is perfect.
Ingredients: 500g Diced grass fed, hormone and preservative free, organic beef (formally known as beef), get some fatty cuts if you can, if not add some grass fed butter, 250g Diced Free range, hormone free blood sausage in intestine casing (couldn’t find blood on its own), Diced carrot since I had one, Dash of apple cider vinegar (stops blood congealing, Himalayan salt (contains minerals and trace elements which have been refined out of our food, similar to what spartans would have used).
Bring water to boil, add ingredients and boil for 7-10 minutes. Don’t overcook.
It’s delicious as hell, the only keto meal I’ve made that I love. It’s jam packed with everything a man needs, you can diced up organs, other meats, vegetables, eggs, spices to changed the flavour. I’m going to experiment with eating this everyday. Currently only eating a single evening meal and feeling great. I do my best work on a empty stomach.
No wonder Spartans are described by ancient scholars as being tall and athletic. Give it a go.
Russ,
I’m too pre-occupied to make soup, it sounds delicious though. I’ve never seen the spartan diet blog. What I do lately is cook 10 lbs of pork ribs and eat them throughout 2 or 3 days. Coat the ribs with a little sea salt, shao kao seasoning (chinese bbq), cook at 450 for 50 minutes, let cool, eat and enjoy. They taste even better as leftovers. Easy peasy, japaneasy.
Asalways I don’t agree with 100% but damn close! Keep
Up the good work!
Excellent article. Been thinking along this vein for awhile now, since my boy just turned 7. I was raised without a dad around, and it really messed me up for a long time. My mom did her best, but she was small in stature and prone to worrying too much about what people at her church thought, so I grew up afraid to stand up for myself. Now that I’m older with a boy of my own, every time I’m confronted with bullshit, and my old instinct is to let it slide, I think, “How can I raise my boy to be the man I want him to be if I can’t be that myself?”
We put him in baseball and he doesn’t want to play anymore, and I don’t really blame him. The coach sucks and none of the kids on the team are having fun - just a negative experience all around. On one hand, I don’t want him to think that quitting something is okay, but on the other, he’ll learn that life is too short to put up with bullshit, especially with something that’s supposed to be fun. Tough call, one I’m struggling with.
Dan,
Why don’t you become a coach?
another masterpice! great read and thanks for sharing!
What a great post Victor! My favorites are 9, 10 and 18 but all should be taughts to our future men!
Bookmarked because this is the best thing that I’ve ever read.
#1 is most important, its sad to see a little kid that can’t throw a ball. Very painful to watch.
I did not have a father so I had to learn most of these points by experience, thanks for all this writing, Victor. This is what kids need to learn to make a better society.
I would add this, if you dont have a father, go to the army, that what I did when I was 15 and learnt most of what you wrote here.
Ya, that’s what I’m gonna do in a year… but the army has become so politically correct from when my dad was in, it’s sad. The medical office I got checked out in practically had a gay memorial, flag and all.
“Black is not white” In what regards? Is this about race?
100% Solid YESSSSSSSSSS
The item number 12 is so wrong.
I don’t think AIDS knows the APOE technique.
Tell your son to always weare a condom that sould be number 12.
Whie that might be true you seem to imply that every unprotected sex act resutls in AIDS which is far from true.
No but pulling out doesn’t mean you can’t get a woman pregnant. There’s such a thing as pre-cum
Great post BUT how could you forget?
“How to dress”
A father needs to teach his son how to dress in a neat masculine way. Otherwise he will end up following gay trends or dressing like a total slob. It’s pathetic how many 30+ year olds I know who can’t even tie a tie.
he did say “how to tie a tie”
Hey Vic the featured comment was well-deserved and I’m glad that you did that for the rest of the men to have hope for their souls. My thoughts are that I have been a father figure for so many young, poor boys and I love them more than myself. I am only 19 but I draw inspiration from the fact that my father is not a strong, confident man and he only taught me how to work. I am lacking, but I have time and energy to spare. I think when I adopt my future sons they will have the best parts of me.
Every father should be handed this article when they go to the hospital for their son’s birth.
a hard pill to swallow while I was reading a few, but after some thought, it’s a great list.
I was a single “mommy” of a son. I truly saw the need for a strong male influence and was lucky enough to find a great man before my son was too old to bond to a “step-dad”. Although I’ve taught many of these items to my son, I don’t think I could have taught them all. At 14, I’m happy to say he is progressing well and I will print this list and put it on his wall. Thank you for putting out there a “strong” list.
Where’s the list for those of us with a daughter?
Teach them the same the but without the sexist comments.
Google it like i did
-I like this post man, honestly- I remembered my dad. Guess he wasn’t a weak man because I’m strong. .
I remember when I got into kid fights- my dad would give me hi five while helping me hide it from mom
I haven’t visited your site before and have found it an interesting read. I was looking for some things to work with my 7year old that my father may have neglected to teach to me but in fact there wasn’t much difference. By eight I could camp , had survival training, shoot a variety of weapons, cook, swim, ride bike and horse. I could play sport and as my father was in the army was able to defend myself if necessary. I actively encourage my son to participate in most of the above activities, age appropriate , and as you can see am still researching areas that I may miss owing to my gender.
I am concerned then that you feel that us single mums allow our sons to be sissys as you put it. I did not choose this. My husband had mental health issues and left us both. It takes a strong individual of either sex to successfully raise a child alone and labelling all single mums the same is damaging to both their credibility and all our sons futures.
Tomorrow I will be teaching my son sword fighting. And how to make a pie. I will not be teaching him to hate anyone though.
Single mothers should be listed on a domestic terrorist list. As much as you think you are helping your son, you are permanently damaging him. Making him into a psychopath, the best thing you could have done for him was to give your sons father a daily blow job. And if that didn’t work make it 2 or 3 or 7 a day. Cures virtually all mens “mental health issues”- as women like to put it.
rodgerM - Did your parents have any children that lived? I didn’t think so.
Rachel is being a great mother and whether or not it ruins her son depends on what kind of person he is. No matter how he was raised he will still be different (and that a good thing).
The 52 things a man should teach his son.
Can You Please Elaborate On #5
It is only when you hold your rightful power do women respect you
whats rightful power?
Please Post A Article On This.
Im 21 and I currently struggle with the mother on my daughter.
Its Like I Have To Surrender to her to even has access my daughter.
Ive Had An Abusive Mother and now i have an abusive girlfriend.
DG
That WAS me until she actually called the police. I questioned myself for a long time after that night but this post has confirmed that to be true to myself I made the right decision to get the f#@k out.
I think I speak on behalf of all B&D guys that its time you did the same.
Still some points to learn ….i’m gonna learn them ….
My Son is gonna be lucky ..!!
This is the very first time I have been to this site. The title of the post caught my attention as i have my first child, and he is 8 months old. The list brought up emotion in me as I remembered some of the very things on the list that my father taught me, and was sad at the things he didn’t, but wished he had. I will subscribe to the site, and thank you for posting this.
Al.
Here are a couple more,
Be man enough to admit when you made a mistake, and say Im sorry!
Be courageous enough to tell those people who you truly love, that you love them!
Street Drugs and Alcohol are for those who are running away from their problems!
Honor your word, Integrity is everything to a man!
I’d like to add one:
Never try to be like everyone else, the crowd. Stand out, be your own man.
So is this just for white parents, or do you feel there are other races which have reason to teach their kids to be proud? Are there any stereotypes about white people that other races should be willing to use to prejudge whites?
Considering global demographics, these are questions to which a lot of fathers could probably use answers. Look forward to your feedback!
Victor:
Great job. These are great.
Makes me appreciate what a great job Dad did.
Would add a few:
to not be afraid, not to fail, not to win, not at all…
how to respond to a loss… (work harder)
how to respond to a win… (work harder)
how to face the inevitability of death…
how to face challenge and adversity…
how to raise expectations in the face of disappointment…
You have many that are priceless reminders. Thanks…
Here is the sad twist. My dad raised me like most of those points. Which made me tough. However this is effecting me raising my now 6 yearold. Iam too hard on him and will eventually break his personality if I did not change. He is a stubborn kid which makes our battles more often . My ponit is there is a certain age and maturity level for each of the above. And the level is set by your son.
your posts are always great, and i always read something original and innovative in each one. but sometimes i read things that are a so blunt that they end up being a little vague i dont know quite what youre trying to say. what exactly do you mean “black is not white”?
I am from india….i am respecting and loving my dad more for teaching 90% of the things mentioned here
“A.P.O.E. (Always pull out early).”
Are you kidding? That doesn’t even prevent pregnancy and it doesn’t begin to prevent the spread of STDs. How about, “Learn how to use a condom and use one every single time until AFTER you’re married and ready to have kids?”
Thanks for most of these great rules.
7) Discrimination is Good
You are right, but you could have had more variance.
-You see a bunch of college-aged drunk white men and you can assume some homosexual activity will occur.
-You see a group of country white men who love guns and Jesus you should avoid them if you are a black or mexican male.
-You see a white girl who is interested in minority men- assume she is a slut who will cry rape if her daddy finds out. Avoid her.
- You see a group of white women in the HR office- assume they are a bunch of gossiping hags who you should avoid telling any personal business to.
-You see a white police officer- first check the town you are in. If it’s too white, crawl on your knees while bleeding to death until you reach the next city before you ask for help.
We all should learn to be very selective. Great post!
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A Father should also teach his son on how to take care of a car or know how to drive a stick. Moms aren’t going to teach their sons that.
Hey, it depends on the mom!
12) Don’t Believe Her When She Says She’s on the Pill
A.P.O.E. (Always pull out early).
- Whatever happened to ‘wear a condom’? Pulling out early won’t do anything really..
Apart from this, nice post man, spot on
Loving the post, man. I have something to say about the second one.
What I say now is the truth.
When I was four, my dad taught me how to throw a right cross and follow up with a left hook. In fifth grade some fatass bully tried to bully me into giving him some money. He never came back to that school after that day.
Props to my dad, one of the greatest guys I have ever known, who taught me that a solid punch is the only way to deal with those fuckers called bullies.
Dammit, 7 and 49 throw me off being “black” amongst other mixtures…(though never with my pants to my waist - which is stupid) (side note that isn’t just a black thing)…okay…but whatever…not sure of what your motivation there was, don’t really care…the rest of the article pretty much Kicks A$$…Got 2 Boy’s myself (under 4) and already teaching to build stuff with their hands, how to think big…how to make their own luck/money/fortune/dreams etc…How TV/Politics/VideoGames etc. are distractions and how we pull ourselves up..not count on others.. Anyhow…appreciate the words…(Again for the most part)…but you do have the disclaimer saying you are not trying to be politically correct…so definitely not looking for you to justify (not that you would) - Also…side note…Steak/Eggs etc. (no processed, no sugars) way to go…
i was inspired after reading this article! the south will rise again!
Thinking BIG is something I’m teaching my SON at the moment. Recently I took him to London Eye where he could see the city from up high. Little treats like these help to broaden the horizon so they can think big when they grow up. Another great post VP.
Wonderful article.
Just wanna input on few general things, The website pattern is perfect, the subject material is real excellent. Believe those who are seeking the truth. Doubt those who find it. by Andre Gide. eebddgcefdee
And how to jump start a car !!!
As for number 14, I would add that do not go in to compete, go in to dominate.
Hi my boyfriend didn’t have his father around to teach him a lot of things like shaving and stuff like that. He just really needs someone there for him. Should I teach him since i have 3 brothers and I know what he needs to learn or what should I do someone please help me.
Unless you are his wife, you are the last person that should be training him in the ways of being a man. You teaching him these things would be emasculating for him. It would be synonymous with him teaching you how to cook, how to apply your makeup, and how to change your tampon.
You love him. You care about him. Everyone gets that. Help him find a viable resource; his uncle, his older brother, trusted youth leader in the church or from a scouting experience. Do not choose a man from ‘your’ side of the equation.
Honestly, this entire website would help him plenty.
The following two articles would help him instantly;
https://boldanddeterminedarchive.com/2012/06/29/the-2-minute-guide-daily-shaving-how-get-rid-neck-bumps/
https://boldanddeterminedarchive.com/2012/04/12/32-things-every-man-should-do/
Beyond that, I would encourage him to go to the archives button at the top of this page, read one blog post a day and all the comments attached, starting with the very first post on November 20th, 2010. Each day he should read the next blog post and all the comments.
Do not involve yourself in this process. You are not his mommy or his daddy. If you assume any part of either of these roles it will damage your boy/girl thing and you will not be fulfilled as a woman because he will not be operating as an independent, autonomous man.
Knowing your ages would be helpful, but if you are both old enough to be aware of your sexuality in relation to each other, then all of this stuff applies.
I’m 53 years old and have six boys. I know what I’m talking about.
If you would like to know how to be a great compliment to him, the perfect ying to his yang, just ask.
I won’t offend you by offering you information you didn’t ask for.
show him this website, bingo. A girlfriend who teach her man manly things is gay as fuck you’d agree
Yes, man need to learn one way or another getting someone to do it (as AIS said) would be great, but if you can’t, yes.
While I agree with most of the points in this list, there are a couple of things I am sure could have been touched on better than they were. I agree men shouldn’t let women have power over them, but also women should not allow men to have power over them either. A strong relationship is a give and take thing, full of love and respect each for the other. It’s not supposed to be about who wears the pants in the family. Pulling out early will not help you. Always, always, always wear a condom!! Can’t stress that enough! Finally if Little Johnny has a nagging wife, maybe he doesn’t follow through on anything he says making his wife feel like she has to nag in order to get anything done. Just saying….
Good luck with that wonderful, healthy relationship with your cat.
I wish I had someone who could have taught me these points when I was a child. This is one if the better, if not the best article I’ve read on the internet to date. Thank you.
I think your views are pretty sexist and corrupt. To blame it all on single moms is a fallacy in itself. You think some of us single moms wanted to be single moms? I would give anything to not have to shoulder all the responsibility of caring for my son and daughter. Also, it’s the fathers responsibility to teach his son how to treat women. It’s a fathers job to stick around to make sure his son doesn’t end up exactly like my son’s deadbeat father (my daughters father pays child support and I work full time). You certainly can’t blame everything on single mommies. How about using a condom instead of pulling out? I got pregnant using the pullout method. Who is to say my son will be a pussy because I’m raising him alone. I believe in tough love. He falls and gets hurt, I don’t run to his aid because if he was hurt badly enough he’ll seek that comfort. He is disciplined. He pees standing up and he has a father figure. His uncle is a stand in father for him until I meet a suitable partner. My son is not a pussy.
“It’s a fathers job to stick around to make sure his son doesn’t end up exactly like my son’s deadbeat father (my daughters father pays child support and I work full time).”
You’re a piece of trash. Have a nice day.
Hahaha! 2 different dads! I bet that bish gives goid head…ache! No wonder she has kids on her own. 99% sure she’s the reason these poor kids have to be raised by this “empowered ” pos.
A,
Being a single mother is a trial I could never dream of undertaking. You have my respect. Do not let the rantings of an XYY male disuade you.
You have some great ideas
You have some horrible ideas
You need to treat women as Christ would
You can write me anytime
Pulling out won’t stop pregnancy. Teach using a rubber. Teach keeping your sperm contained. Dispose of the rubber, so no one can get the contents. Teach respecting your sperm, it’s sacred, sterile sauce that shouldn’t be dripping out of skankie women or wiped on dirty socks your mom washes.
This should be titled “How to train your White Supremest, Chauvinistic, Homophobe.”
I’ll agree with a good number of these… Strong hand shake, eye contact, knowledge of basic tools, etc… But a lot could be said for basic self respect, honor, courage, and a strong moral compass.
At 29, my Dad is still the man I want to be when I grow up… But I can appreciate that some of his views were backwards and old. This sounds like a perfect way to raise a son in the 50’s but the world has moved on.
What kind of faggot disrespects his own father? Cuck.
I am not even sure how your response relates to my comment. I respect my father, but that does not mean I have to be blind to his faults.
Deuteronomy 5:16
Move on? Like being a typical liberal faggot apologist?
Beautifully said hahaha!
What an excellent article. I wish my father could of taught me these things… I counted. I may of been taught 3 things from the whole list.
I was really enjoying your list until I came to #31. To me this is not only stereotypical but also very closed minded. You list very important statements that help fathers, but #31 can only offend people. I understand you have your own beliefs but cannot understand why you snub those that don’t. It is tragic to me that you form so many great concepts.and yet force your religious position on others. Eliminate #31 and you will be a better man yourself….or change it to #31: Believe in your on faith and respect the belief of others//// Stop preaching>>>>Not everyone agrees.
if you have guts like me you will you will post back
It takes guts and tremendous courage to leave a comment on a blog.
it takes more than guts and courage to admit when your are wrong and be apologetic…that’s what a outstanding man does…..guess you are not that guy…
Sure, goofy. Goodbye - don’t cry.
I know many girls who can throw a ball. Teach your sons not to be sexist or how not to give into stereotypes.
LOL Caryl, u dumb.
who every wrote this needs to research his information more, as so called men whom choose to walk away from women/girl they find appealing enough to engage in a sexual relationship with but can not follow thru when they the selves have assisted in the creation of said son… yes there are many single mothers whom are left to do the job of parenting when said chest beating fathers walk away from there responsible. so don’t diss single mothers who are left to raise a new crop of fatherless boys. Not all men love sports,just like not all women are gold diggers. I no it to be true that I as a women can not truthfully raise my son to be a man as I am not masculine…his father has left this to me as he he was raised by a cruel dominaring father that believed men do not have a soft side except when no one is looking. my son is a lover of books and using his mind..I do not see this as weakness but a strength stronger then any fist. he can defend himself,both physically and mentally.. you seem to believe that brute force is the only solution.. btw don’t knock a pussy..you came from one and gain great pleasure from one… Balls? they are weak and if are struck cause the owner to their knees..
signed
a kick ass single mother
Discrimination is not ‘good’ and the fact that it’s up on that list is absolutely disgraceful. Discrimination is a world issue, and those who discriminate against others is someone I want to spit on. So the fact that that is up there just makes me sick…
Spitting on people is assault, I have reported you to the internet police for thought assault - expect a knock at your door from the local branch of internet detectives.
Wow! While I agree with a lot of the basic things this writer is “trying” to get across. The “macho” Male ego is so clearly seeping through what could have made this a great message! I’m interested if this writer would explain how to teach tolerance and the value of a woman! You lost me at the word sissy! I believe your heart is in the right place. Please just take a moment to let the egos fall aside. From out side observation, what you have written in practice could produce a young man that thinks he is owed something in life! Other then the few things I’ve mentioned above I think It is positive.
I am so confused? Was this article posted in 1955?
Though some of what you said is on point, some is pure macho crap.
I am a man, a real man, I can hang with the best and the worst ( and I have )
I am secure enough with who I am and with my own sexuality. I dont feel the need to be this gorilla around a women as if she doesnt have her own needs as well. Its true that you should never let someone have power over you, but like I just said, SOMEONE, doesnt matter who they are. However it should be obvious that once you share your life with someone there is no need to always be right and always boss around. She ( or he in some cases because yes some people have different sexuality welcome to 2016) doesnt need a second dad ( or mom )
You finished your post with # 52 Always Keep a Positive Mental Attitude
Why? Since there is nothing positive with :
#7 - Discrimination is for the weak and ignorant ( dare I say uneducated, close minded yet THINKS he know it all) Why would a women be a slut if she dresses a certain way? Let her celebrate her body or go live in a Muslim country. Its no different than a guy who works out 7 days a week and walks around with a tight shirt or whatever to show off his muscle no one cares about. And who is to say those Mexican at home depot arent actually buying material to build something from scratch? Such a waste of time trying to pin point what people are up to and worst of all believing your own imaginary world.
#8 - You lost me at sissy. Maybe you should have put yourself in debt and go for the higher education just so you can learn how to convey a point with out using elementary school slang!
49) Political Correctness is How the Weak Gain Strength.
LIES. Its called education and self respect. Why self respect? Because when you respect yourself enough you understand that becoming who you want to be or who you are now took , tears, sweat, pain, mistakes, and all the good and bad stuff about life. Just like anyone else trying to make it. Doesnt matter your race or your sexuality, we all struggle and the last thing we all need is some muscular savage going around all cocky giving his opinion about stuff or people he doesnt know shit about. PC is probably over used , no one can take a joke anymore but there is a fine line between being funny and trying to hurt or think because you are this or that, you are better than someone else. NO YOU ARE NOT. You are just another human with a god complex. You shit? You pee? You need to eat? Be loved?
Alright then…..We all do, from the poor to the rich. And guess what? You will probably be buried beside a Mexican.
And then the few WTF point :
# 1 - Did I learn to throw a ball? Yes! Was it useful to me? Nope! Am I happy to have learned this? Meh! Who cares. I am way more happy that my mom took time to show me how to play the electric guitar. On some random occasion I get to play in front of people. When was the last time I had a ball in my hand? Like I would know….or care about!
# 23 - I have a girlfriend and a sister. I will never treat my love like I treat my sister (gag). The good thing about having a sister is you learn, girls, women, whatever you wanna call them, are no different than guys. They fart, shit, look at guys butt , talk about sex..etc. To me my girlfriend is my partner in crime. I see her and she sees me, just that look across a restaurant or whatever and we know that we know that we are who we are ( not sure if you understand what I mean ) The last thing I want is to have a weak women that want to be treated like she is my sister. I like me some women with power ( hell even with some imaginary balls ) lol It keeps me on my toes and I certainly return the favor. Its fun.
#27 - Lies. A mother ( or 2 - again welcome to 2016) can do just as good of a job than a father. And having a drunk father who doesnt teach you jack shit wont make you weak. There is no set rules as to what makes someone go for what they want in life or not. I can safely say that no one here , nor you, will ever be able to achieve what someone like Michael Jackson did in his lifetime. Michael Jackson was closer to his mom, he didnt like his dad or his ways of teaching. But try to even discredit Michael success…..or tell him if he had a better father he would have gone further. Further where? To the moon? Because he pretty much reached the sky and beyond while being alive and all of this while getting away from his dad or his teaching! A lot of successful people didnt grow up with a dad anyway or a mom or both. Its up to you to understand if you want something in life, you have to learn and unlearn till the day you die.
44) I will never go to a barber. Thankfully I am not enrolled into the army so why in the hell will I walk around with the same buzz cut as any other guy? Fuck no! Its ok for guys to express who they are with their fashion or hair cut. How backward are you to think a stylist only knows how to cut womens hair. No but seriously. You could use a nice scalp massage by a nice stylist. If you are lucky you get the hot one and while she is washing you hair you take a good look at her….. : ) But hey go enjoy your ole barber if that what it takes for you to feel mainly.
ANYHOW!
Evolution is important. Never stop learning. Always be kind. Kindness is not weakness but barking at everything is weak as fuck. I go to the gym because it makes me feel alive and by consequences I have muscle but not every women likes muscle. What I am about to say will probably shock you but :
Life is like a box of chocolate. Mmmhmm Not everyone likes or want the same thing. Welcome to the diversity that makes this world such an awesome place. I love my girlfriend, my family, my friends ( any race, gay , bi , straight, asexual…)
Be a decent human being that teach others tolerance. Thats all you need in life.
Damn I forgot , if having a pet is something you want, please adopt from the shelter. Those little creatures need love and a nice warm house.
Peace to all of you. Lets make 2016 a loving year and 2017 the collective orgy we all desperately need instead of the separation of the know it all.
How it healing up Mark or is it now Marcia? Why are you on this site? Trolling I presume? Go find something that suits your fancy panties because it is a big wide Internet in 2016 and your views will have all the confirmative support you are looking for.
Wow Mark…I surely hope you never procreate.
Hopefully, your are just pretending to be an idiot and not actually this much of a tard.
Obviously you missed the part about talking too much. Sounds like you need a hug and perhaps re-read the article once more.
Victor: You need to add point 53: Avoid pansies like Mark.
You may be a man, but your not a Western man.
My dad taught me about 4 of those things the rest I picked up on my own I’m 14 and I learned how to tie a tie by looking it up my dad took me fishing once and gave up my mom taught me to throw a baseball I learned how to throw a football(not even that good) by looking at my little cousins throw it and was never taught to defend myself, to this day I look up fighting tutorials on YouTube I learned to shake hands when one of my dads friends told me to grip his hand firmly and not like a wussy and to this day don’t know a single thing about cars or how to change a tire I only am who I am today from things I read and political books that’s the only reason I can negotiate and make deals and am still horrible at sports I was never taught to value competition I was always told as long as you tried, if anyone here has kids do the opposite of what my dad taught me teach your kid to be a true man and not a sissy like me
Hey Victor,
Fuck you.
I don’t know how to swim very well.
That doens’t mean my father failed as a dad, nor that I am less of a man.
Your archaic list is stupid.
You need to have your ass kicked. I’d be happy to do that.
Cry more sissy.
Great article Vpride. I am a father of 2 beautiful little girls and I am curious to hear your thoughts on raising a girl in today’s world. I have my own approach, but I really respect your ideas. Keep up the good work brother.
Hey hey, I like this! I have a great father but not much time with him. He was always overseas and when he came back parents divorced. I have to grow up with a shit generation; and old folks say were lucky, ha!
And the word “discrimination” has been bent to a negative meaning by the media and politics. It doesn’t always mean putting a people down, or in other terms, racism.
Dear victor
Wonderful.I Had read at my 47.But is great for future .ie forme and my son….Thank you so much………….
How to walk away from a fight, how to forget things once there gone, make up their own mind, not to be influenced by others
Wow…as a woman I couldn’t agree more with this. The lazy, video game playing, guy who still lives in his parents basement and who blames everyone else for their poor choices … needs to grow a pair. Lol
You’re wrong - not every boy needs to know how to throw a punch - he needs to know how to stop a fight.
So I don’t really know how old this is but I just gotta say something about number 23. First of all, girls actually DO like it and feel comfortable when a boy has things in common with them, things they can relate. Second, that whole “I’m going to poke you because I know it annoys you but I like you” thing is B.S., this is basically the reason we have fuckboys. It’s annoying, and it kinda pushes away. So excessive teasing is not a good thing. Yes, having fun is but girls are more likely to respond to a boy if he listens and is interested in atleast one or two similar things. Before I even read the author’s name, all I had to do was read number 23 and go “yep, this is clearly written by a man” (but I’m not saying we don’t like winking)
alright, I actually read the rest of it, and BOY if you don’t get your steroid looking ass the fuck out of here! Looking like handsome squidward bitchass 💀 I mean DAMN what kind of article???? This is such bullshit 😭 Man someone come get their personal trainer. You’re really out here dissing females, Mexicans, blacks, every race besides white. Living like Larry headass 💀
It takes real man to raise another man’s child.!
7. You see a bunch of white rich men at the whitehouse you can be assured this country is run by bigots.
Just another example that was left out.
Cry more.
i never had a father in my life….so this is really eye opening. At least if i’ve children i’ll be able to raise them correctly.
This was a refreshing list to review. I’m about to begin the ‘Big Brother’ thing and I took a number of these down as Life Skills I hope to impart over time. There is honestly nothing wrong with anything on the list- discrimination only has negative impacts if used to prevent another person’s work or education success…avoiding social interaction or having precautions about someone because of his/her well-known behavior trait is not discrimination.
I absolutely agree with this 100% If only every man (and woman for the sake of knowing the responsibilities of a father) should abide by this. No matter who you are, this will benefit you. Well said!