There are two types of people in this world:
- People who accept responsibility for their lives
- People who do not accept responsibility for their lives and instead blame others
As if someone else is stopping an adult from achieving success.
News flash druggies and depressed people - it's up to YOU to change.
It isn't our problem, see, it's your problem. We have nothing to do with your problem.
When you can finally accept that it has nothing do with us and it has everything to do with you, that's when you can become strong and recover.
If you never take responsibility, you'll always be a depressed loser junkie.
If you actually do take responsibility you will notice something right away….
It's all in your mind. You always had the power to flourish or the power to flounder.
It was always up to you because, as you'll see, “drug addiction” isn't a disease, it's a choice you make.
You choose to use drugs and pretend to be an addict or you choose to be depressed and deflect responsibility.
Make the choice to be great and that's what you will be.
Make the choice to be a loser and you can expect someone like me to point out how much of a loser you are.
Speaking of losers, this is how to tell if you're a depressed loser junkie: losers will get angry at this video.
Depressed loser junkies will have a real, true emotional reaction/breakdown to this video.
This video will be like looking in a mirror that they never wanted to look into….
Too damn bad.
It's called tough love, and it's the only kind of love that works because it doesn't enable you and take away self-responsibility…
Tough love opens your damn eyes and empowers you.
The Simple Truth About Depressed People & Drug Addicts
(Complete audio transcription below)
New YouTube question. “Victor, have you ever been depressed?” Be honest.
Answer is: No. Because depression is a simple choice that you make.
You choose to be depressed. You choose to be a victim in the matter.
Anybody can have bad days. Anybody can have bad experiences.
You choose to be strong about it or you choose to be weak about it.
You say, I am depressed. You are saying…
“I am weak. I am a weak person and I take no responsibility; therefore, I am depressed. It's not my fault.
It's mental. It's a mental imbalance. It's a chemical imbalance. I don't have a choice in the matter. I'm depressed.”
Instead of being strong and saying ‘you know what, didn't go my way. Let me do it better next time.'
You say, “I'm depressed.”
Being depressed is a lot like being a drug addict. It's fake. It's a fake thing to be. It's a liar's way out.
Nobody's a drug addict. They are losers and they choose to use drugs instead of fixing their shitty lives.
Nobody has a drug disease. No disease makes you smoke rocks. No disease makes you shoot up in your veins.
That's a choice that you make. You can choose to do it or choose to not do it.
Saying you're a drug addict and you have no choice in the matter makes you the victim.
That means you are a loser who refuses to take responsibility for his actions.
What do they always say about drug addicts? They always say “he won't stop lying to us.”
Of course. Because drug addicts are liars.
They don't have an addiction. They don't have a disease.
They are liars. They are lying about it.
Why would you believe that they have an addiction when all they do is lie to you?
And then they say “It's not me; it's my addiction. Oh, okay. Well, he lies about everything but he's telling the truth about that.”
No, they're lying about everything.
So depression, addiction… (shaking head) no.
Refusal to take responsibility. Refusal to say…
“This is my responsibility and I will fix it.”
Instead they say “it's not my responsibility, I'll do nothing. I'm a victim. I'm a loser.”
So have I ever been depressed? No.
Have I ever had bad days? Had things not gone my way? Of course.
But I never say “It's not my fault. I'm depressed.”
I said…
“All right. Didn't go my way. Next time it will.”
Next time, I will show you 3 easy ways to stop feeling depressed and start kicking ass.
Until then.
Your man,
-Victor Pride
PS - Many depressed loser junkies will try and deflect responsibility by making the claim that I, Victor Pride, am a drug addict because I wrote about kratom and testosterone.
Listen here losers, you can take drugs and not be a drug addict. Using medicine doesn't make you a drug addict. Even using narcotics doesn't make you a drug addict…
Revolving your life around drugs and using drugs as a scapegoat for being a loser is what makes you a drug addict and that's obvious.
If that's you, you can start right here: How to Quit Drugs
The choices we make are the people we become.
Depression sucks, literally, it drains the life out of you.
Anybody whos had real depression knows getting out of it is like crawling out of the abyss.
Its not a good place to be in and I’ve unknowingly struggled with it practically my whole life.
Mainy because I’ve never really had much to be depressed about.. but turns out it’s an actual medical condition.
They say ‘someone whos depressed saying ” I have nothing to be depressed about, why am I sad..” is like someone with asthma saying “this room has plenty of oxygen, why can’t I breathe”
So thanks to my very beautiful friend Megan for caring enough to share this all natural product with me, I’ve been freed from damaging drugs and lifelong depression!
Been able to improve my relationships and work more to make money and catch up on bills and work towards my goals!
I know it’s hard to reach out when you’re battling this silent disease but I thought it would be selfish of me not to share this..
Mr. Pride admits he has never been depressed, great for him, lucky for him! But what he is talking about here extreme sadness, not real depression.
Like I said real depression is a TREATABLE medical condition.
But!
After having said that, MR. Pride is still 100% correct on everything else. It is still 100% YOUR problem to take care of.
Depression is REAL and TREATABLE. If you’d like to know how I freed myself from lifelong depression the key is getting rid of inflammation. I use 100% all natural plant based nutrition that is scientifically shown to reduce inflammation by 90%.
No more REAL depress.
Thanks for reading my story, good luck and thanks for another amazing article!
I agree with this. If you live with depression and do nothing about it, it’s your fault.
Depression is a medical condition BUT it’s still our responsability to fix it.
Plus, Victor kind of implies here that the majority of people who whine and say they have depression are really just very sad people who don’t take control of their lives. They don’t know what legitimate depression is, and they trivialize the problems of people who have actual depression.
Would you care to share your nutrition program? Would be appreciated.
Sure, just send me an email and we can connect.
[email protected]
Make the title something that will catch my attention.
Depression is very real but if you’re popping pills year after year something’s wrong.
I strongly believe that there will be a point where you cannot accept responsibility anymore.
The world is degenerating really fast.
Anyway Great article.
Keep grinding.
Great article vic!
Good example of a former drug addict that took this advice and ran with it is Vegan Cheetah [think his name is charles marlowe] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZWC0LSFkBo4
Don’t let the hair and flamboyance fool you. dude is lowkey red pill as fuck.
He channeled his addictions positively into his body, his social media, and his goals. Taking that obsession and making it productive.
There’s a lot of similarities in his thought processes and here at B&D
Oh and he hates PC speech and SJWs
Thanks anon1
The only way for me to overcome depression is when I made my decision to take care of myself physically and mentally (lifting and reading) and I feel great.
Victor is right! it’s all in the mind. You can’t just sit, cry and blame the world. You have to STAND!
Great comment Carlo!
Coming from someone whose life revolved around meth for a year, and who has quit without relapsing for over a year; I know Victor is too right on this issue. When I tell anyone, they say “I’m one of the very few lucky ones.” I always respond with , “It was my decision to be one of the lucky ones.”
Great comment, Jon. Thanks.
Hey Vic, I read your blog for quite a while (since 2013).
I quit my job and work on my own company now. I get up at around 5am and usually work until 10pm (making some time for workout, eating and an occasional walk outside). At 10 pm I normally smoke a joint and go to sleep at around 11 pm to get some quality 6 hours. I do not notice any problems with it and it helps me to sleep. It is some kind of psychological addiction or a matter of habit I would say because when I am traveling or so, I do not miss it.
Maybe you find the time to give your opinion about it.
Have a nice day.
Mike
Thanks for the comment Mike. Big difference between using drugs or medicine and being a drug addict. I didn’t say don’t use drugs, I said addicts are losers.
There is some misinformation in this particular blog.. However, at the end of the day, we are ultimately the sum of the choices we make in life. I couldn’t agree more with that
Hey Vic haven’t posted in a while but I wanted you to know that even though my life has recovered I wasted 3 years doing drugs and partying being a fucking nobody. I lost everything and ended up inside a jail cell for 4 months. As of today I have been off drugs for 15 months and God gave me everything I lost twice over. I have the opportunity to finish my bachelor’s degree and play ball during college and I have the right relationships because last year I was eating out of trash cans and robbing people to stay alive. I told my junkie friends to go fuck themselves because they were nothing but a bunch of whiny maggots. I have the beautiful woman of my dreams and I have the right friends even though my extended family wants nothing to do with me very single day God gives me is like winning the lottery because I almost wasted my life at 21 years old. I just wanted you to know that boys and bitches never quit drugs our nation’s shelters are full of them it takes a man to quit and choose something else. May your business continue to prosper you never fail to guide on the straight and narrow path. I also have a soundcloud channel growing so fast I can’t keep up with it I have found my obsession and I am attracting the proper energy and people into my life!I couldn’t wait to tell you.
Regards,
Sam P
Great comment Sam, thanks.
He’s right I’ve beaten a depression without a single therapy session You can’t expect to get back to a happy state of mind by popping pills and drinking away your problems That just how our society has evolved Nice article like always
This came in the email just at the right freakin’ time. I had just got home and I found myself lying on my bed, all sleepy and weak after a day at work (probably just mental influence over my body) and I couldn’t stop thinking of how I feel stuck in my work/life/passion situation. It felt weird, almost like I couldn’t move. For someone who’s been following you over the past 3 years, I admit it felt pretty pathetic.
Watched the video and BAM, I HAD to get the fuck up. Took on some weights, went for a quick run, and I’m as good as new.
I guess sometimes can’t avoid these downfalls, no matter what…BUT you need to train yourself to just get back up and kick ass, over and over again, until it becomes second nature.
Then you can rely on someone close to you who can help that fire grow. But the initial spark, it needs to come from yourself.
“This is my responsibility and I will fix it.”
“Watched the video and BAM, I HAD to get the fuck up. Took on some weights, went for a quick run, and I’m as good as new.”
My man.
Thank you, Vic! Yeah, sometimes things don’t go our way, but drugs can’t fix them permanently. If you’ve got depression, do something about it, instead of behaving in escapistic ways. It’s about right nutrition, sport, food supplements, deworming and discipline in 99% of cases.
“It’s about right nutrition, sport, food supplements, deworming and discipline in 99% of cases.”
100%.
Thanks Victor….I needed to read this, after a drug binge session last thursday. I’ve decided enough is enough. I’m too old for this shit (Mid-30’s) And I know better…I’m done lying
“I needed to read this, after a drug binge session last thursday.”
haha!
My site is about treating depression through masculinity. And V. is completely right. If you do not take responsibility for your Depression nothing will change. So many people play the Victim Card. They take SSRI and go to therapy and take advise from someone who studied 3/4 of his life. Or even worse they take advice from a woman… Think about that. A man taking life advice from a woman… Trust me Vic you triggered a lot of depressed people with this. But that is what they require. The harsh truth.
Good Job Vic!
-Phil
Thanks Phil.
I agree. I believe the most important remedies a depressed or drug addicted person can implement, to alleviate their problems are:
1. Man up and take responsibility for the one life that is yours. Use your god given brain and research the possibilities available to all of us via the web or any resources available.
2. Take a look in the mirror naked. What do you see? Overweight? Flabby muscles? Bad hair, skin and teeth? Research diet alternatives. Learn how to eat. Let food be your medicine and medicine be your food. Make yourself feel good about yourself and learn how to make yourself love the you inside of you. Join a gym or simply go out for a run.
For myself, the first thing I do in the morning upon rising is: I jump into an ice cold shower for 2 minutes, this provides me with an immediate endorphin response that effectively sets the tone of my day. I have a cup of coffee, read the news and then I make a list of everything I plan to accomplish that day. Then it’s off to the gym for a workout, or to the beach for a vigorous 3 mile run in the sand. A great leg and ass workout. I then take another ice cold shower and off to work I go.
Diet? I don’t touch ANY sugar in all it’s forms with the exception of a Granny Smith apple. Sugar is the bane of our society and can be linked to a multitude of degenerative diseases. Dinner? A hell of a big steak or other meat, eggs drowning in butter and a low glycemic vegetable of some kind, preferably home fermented cabbage, my favorite. Can you say probiotic? I then either read, watch a movie or Youtube a video on improving myself physically or mentally.
The point is, you must love yourself enough to keep improving yourself. You must be man enough to admit your wrong and you must be smart enough to figure out how to fix what you’ve been wrong about. We have one precious life to live and wasting even a moment of it by allowing yourself to live in a state of depression or drug induced stupor, is a crime against our brilliant evolution.
Great comment, Joe.
Yes! Sugar is the devil!
Roids, Modafinil and all the other stuff you’ve used and you sell are drugs too. People get addicted to their results just like any other junkie.
Read the words I wrote because I specifically pointed out the loser’s argument (yours). Then cry more.
JR,
Roids enhance muscle definition and strength.
Modafinil helps with being awake, alert, and concentration.
It’s really simple. If it works then it works and you use it.
Addiction or not, it doesn’t matter. If anyone has that problem then it’s on them and they got to fix it.
You know what? Lol if people do get addicted, good then they will buy more and it will just help Victor’s business.
No one is forcing the junkies to keep using substance. If they perceive that as their problem then they can simply fix it. And this is Grown up adults we are talking about.
No one forces them, but thinking that this implies addiction doesn’t exist is a joke.
Losses scare and hurt us way way more than gains, it’s a well known fact studied in psychology and behavioral sciences. So once you start and you see result you’ve never had before in your life, the thought of going back is terrifying.
Be it a performance-enhancing drug or another type, it doesn’t change anything. A weak or insecure ego on drugs (ex. a young male with low self esteem who suddenly feels great about himself) will easily fall into the spiral. Yes he technically can quit, but his ego and self-esteem depend too much on drugs, so he also can’t. You really can’t understand this?
JR,
I do understand. It doesn’t need to be any complicated. If his ego and self-esteem depend on drugs and other external factors to feel good about himself and he blames it on the drug then it means he is a weak minded person.
Chemical alteration in the brain will intensify depending on which drug one uses but if that person wants to really quit then all he has to do is quit the drugs. As you know, not everyone can be saved (or more like not everyone will save themselves) so of course there will be drug addict, alcohol addict, and so on. Personal responsibility goes long ways for those type of people.
You said … “A weak or insecure ego on drugs (ex. a young male with low self esteem who suddenly feels great about himself) will easily fall into the spiral”.
Yes but that’s on him though. Of course he will feel great about himself because humans constantly want some sort of stimulation. Since the person is weak and has insecure ego, that person will try to find other ways to feel validated and feel the need to get that “highs” of energy via doing drugs. That is on him. No one is forcing him. If he ‘feels’ weak and pathetic, then he should fix his mindset first.
I’m not saying addiction doesn’t exist. It does exist but it’s been overplayed by many irresponsible people who refuse to look at themselves as source of problem and deflect their responsibility and use drugs and other external factors as scapegoat. If the addiction ruins a man and the man refuses to solve his problem then that person is messed up in his head. If the addiction actually helps a Man, then great.
On your comment about losses and gains and someone being terrified, there are good tools out there that will help a Man.
I don’t know why you are making this complicated but it’s really simple.
For instance, there are good food out there that will help you build your muscles (in addition to taking hormones and lifting weights). But too much of anything isn’t great so it’s going to have be taken on a portion to your body. If a man eats healthy and has a healthy lifestyle and strong body, why would he want to go back being average and being a past loser? If a man wants to keep eating healthy food, would you call that an addiction?
I think people focus too much on this “addiction” thing and just need to realize that self responsibility and being able to own up is much more important lesson to learn.
Addiction isn’t necessarily bad if it helps you. If there is a serious businessman that is hell bent on success and will do whatever it takes to get there, he will get there and he might even feel addicted to the highs he gets from success, then that addiction will help him. The word “addiction” has negative implied connotations but people have to look at the bigger picture.
Whatever helps you reach your goal or make you become stronger, by all means accept it and take it. Addiction? Forget about addiction, do what is best for you.
If losses is scary then don’t become a loser and don’t become someone that lose.
If I find a substance or chemical that helps me get task done or helps me become stronger and sharp then I’m going to try to grab my hands on it.
If I have a personal problem and I refuse to fix it then that’s on me and I become a loser but why would I do that?
So are antibiotics
In the past I felt down and even considered ending it all. I allowed myself to seek others for validation and security. It wasn’t until I finally realized that I chose 99% of the things that happened in my life that I finally straightened up. From that point on I stopped getting validation from others and instead turned it inward.
All of you fellow young guys reading this I want you to know three things:
1. Even if you’re young, you can still make things happen.
2. Nobody can really give you permission, you give it to yourself.
3. If you are young, you have a great advantage over your “Elders”.
Take pride in being young and then realize all of the tools you have at your fingertips. You have YouTube, Twitter, and all of the other platforms. Use them for business.
Take care.
Thank you for this timely article, Victor. I have recently fallen back into some substance use, and the negative impact on my motivation and accomplishment is astounding. I recently learned that substance addiction is 50% genetic and 50% based on your coping methods. If you cope with life’s difficulties by using weed (or any other substance) as an escape, then you will be wired to cope by escaping. If instead you cope by buckling down and working, reading and focusing on healthy diet, sleep and exercise then you will be much more antifragile when life’s storms hit you hard. On the other hand, even if you think you are genetically prone to addiction then developing good coping methods can overpower your tendency for addiction when coupled with sufficient self-discipline.
I know this, and now I need to put it into practice. I’ll be listening to your video numerous times to remind me to keep going. Time to take back responsibility for my life!
Thanks Alexander.
Self-responsibility is what separates a Man from the boys. Addiction is only for the weak sheeps. Addiction doesn’t affect the Strong Man because the Strong Man has a right mindset.
I have guys say “OMG why would you want to work out so early? Just get some sleep” or “Why would you apply topical steroids man, that’s bad for you” or “why would you hang penis weights to elongate your dick, you should just accept yourself”. Basically to me, that is saying “I’m average and I accept myself for who I am”. For me, average isn’t enough. In fact, being average should be taken as an insult.
Men accept self responsibility and fix problems. If that *problem* is within your control then fix it. If not, then walk away from it. Becoming stronger is within Men’s control so it makes sense to accept self responsibility and do something about it.
In regards to things that are outside of our control.
Politics is one area in which a lot of men get riled up. Unfortunately, we cannot save the whole world. There are many factors that are outside of our control such as global affairs, geo politics, and current events. If it’s something that we cannot do about then walking away is the best option because dwelling on it is futile unless you can make some sort of actionable change. But if you cannot control it then why bother?
However if it’s something that is within your control then accepting self responsibility and fixing the problem is the suitable step. Men take care of business period.
If you have personal issues with “depression”, overweight, have no purpose of living, weak, easily tired, socially inept then that is within your control and one would have to step up and improve your weak areas. Those issues should be unacceptable and you must put yourself in high standards all the time. No excuse to be pitiful.
If a Man tries to help out his friend to become better but that friend does not do his part to put any efforts in wanting to improve himself, you should not lift a finger to help. Only help a friend who will do put himself more than hundred percent and do whatever it takes to succeed. Then you can give him little push and guidance but until then, do not bother. If your friend does not have the right mindset, nothing you say will help him. He will learn it the hard way eventually.
Drug/alcohol/porn addicts have bad habits and they will say “oh just one more time and I won’t do this anymore” and those multiple “one more time” accumulates and becomes part of his lifestyle. A man who accepts his bad habits and refuse to change and is scared of a change is nothing more than a coward. Coward. That’s right. You want to stop drinking then don’t drink. It’s not hard. People will say “Oh you have no idea what it’s like, you never been in my shoes”. I will say “Is anyone forcing you to drink? You are not drinking at a gunpoint to your head”. It’s in your state of mind and because the man’s state of mind is pathetic and weak, he will just accept his mediocrity and refuse the change (change for the better). Drug, Porn, Alcohol isn’t the source of the problem. It’s the people’s weak mentality that is. If you are strong willed person, then it shouldn’t affect you.
Some folks will say “Oh man, the system is putting me down; it’s not fair”. Well then play the game right to your card so that being in position of “fair” and “unfair” wouldn’t even affect you one bit. It means gain power. Strong and powerful Men do not moan about what is “fair” and “unfair”.
Some people point out the Kratom, Coffee, TRT in this website and mention that these are addictions but these are Not addiction. These are simply tools out there that can help you. If you are addicted to those then the problem is YOU not those substance.
It’s like people shooting each other in the streets and the masses will blame it on the gun. Gun just happen to be there until someone picked it up and used it in wrong way. There are MANY different ways to kill people. If someone really wanted to kill then they will do it. Guns just happen to be much faster way to kill. But guns don’t kill people. People kill people. People blaming it on the tool. Those people are the ones who do not accept self responsibility.
Accept self responsibility. Women and weak men do not accept self responsibility. If you observe women very carefully, you will notice that women like to use scapegoat a lot and put blame on elsewhere. A lot of guys do this too. This is why men who try to improve themselves will go nowhere. Without self-responsibility, your self-improvement goal will not happen.
Guys should accept self responsibility before embarking on self-improvement goal. Let’s say you want to cut down weight but your friend invites you to a big party and you go and get drunk. Next day you see that you gained back the weight and you blame it on your friend by saying that he ruined your self-improvement goal. If you accept this type of mentality and attitude, then you will go nowhere because the problem was YOU. If you accepted that your weight cutting goal was more important and have self-responsibility to change yourself for the better, then you would been one day closer to cutting down your weight.
Self-responsibility before self-improvement. But get this. Accepting self-responsibility IS self-improvement because you are saying. “you know what, I’m in control of MY LIFE” CONTROL OF MY LIFE” and I will do what it takes to control my life for the better.
If you call yourself a Man then having self-responsibility should be part of you.
Well said TS,
Nowadays we have so much entertainment options, it’s easy to lose the focus on our goals.
But the decision if you’ll work to improve yourself or just relax is up to you.
What we do today defines our future.
TS, always killin’ the comments.
Yes, Excellent comment. TS has a deep understanding of human nature.
I work in the mental health field.
And my experience confirms that Victor is correct when he says that depression and drug addiction stem from a victim mentality.
You choose to suffer.
To truly recover from these conditions you need to keep the following truths in mind:
1) We are what we do. We are not what we think, or what we say, or how we feel. We are what we do.
2) The statute of limitations has expired on our childhood traumas. You have to let them go.
3) Feelings follow behavior. Not the other way around.
How do you apply these ideas? You follow Dr. Victor’s prescription-
*Eat a steak and eggs type diet. The medical field is in the midst of doing a complete u-turn on low fat, grain heavy diets.
*Exercise (especially shoulders and back- depression manifests as poor posture- lifting the shoulders lifts the mood)
*Do cardio (The world’s best mood enhancer)
*Have a goal to work towards. Always be striving. Remember we are what we do, not what we think, say or feel.
Now, Victor’s advice may seem heartless but in truth he is looking out for you. Following B&D will do more for your mental health than any anti-depressant or NA meeting out there.
Oh, and there is no clinical evidence for the ‘chemical imbalance’ theory of depression whatsoever. This just reinforces the victim mentality.
Keep up the great work Victor.
Great comment, Tom. Thank you.
That’s totally true.
When we take responsibility for our own life, it´s naturally to want to do everything possible to reach our goals. No matter what, we find one way to overcome obstacles.
But,
Sometimes what an addict or very sadness person need is a friendly hand, to show them the way to follow. Now it´s up to them, their choice to follow.
It’s exactly what Vic do in Bold and Determined.
Thanks Jonas.
Pro tip for all who live in the northern hemisphere and have to deal with dark winters and the bad mood that comes with them:
1. Take 5K IU of Vitamin D3 per day.
2. Do 30 min. of “light therapy” every morning with a 10K Lux light box.
3. Lift weights and eat a high-testosterone diet.
Worked very well for me. Do your own research though.
Great tips Andy.
Fucking love this
My man.
As a recovering alcoholic and drug addict, I do believe them to be an illness/sickness/disease.
I believe it to be a 3 part illness of mind, body, and spirit.
The spiritual defect made me feel empty. Totally void of any real purpose or joy.
The mental defect says, I know, lets drink, drug, ect… to feel better. It worked last time, why not do it again.
Then the physical allergy kicks in. After a few drinks alcohlics develop a physical craving for more. Where as normal drinkers can stop at 1 or 2.
I’ve been sober for a little while now, but its not as simple as “stop drinking/drugging and you’ll stop being a loser”.
I was just as much a loser sober as I was drunk, until I addressed the spiritual defect, and learned to fill that giant void in my life.
What disease makes me smoke hella weed and fuck hoes daily?? The disease of being awesome bitches!!!
haha!
Hey, Victor. I want to help out some people who might be suffering from depression but can’t snap out of it as you advise them to. Yes, I’m the commenter on the depression video who got 15 likes. But I’m not here to hate, so please hear me out here.
I despise losers who complain just as much as the next guy reading this blog. I think some people are truly losers and they’re 100% depressed because of it (as you describe). No doubt about it. They live in their own little bubble of self-pity. These people can most definitely benefit from a change in mindset, positive role model, perspective shift, etc.
However, some people truly suffer from a medical condition that causes their depression. This was the case for me. I suffered for 2 years before I finally sought help and went to my doctor about it. He ran some blood tests and it turns out my Vitamin D levels were extremely low. Vitamin D is a hormone-like substance you get primarily from the sun that can regulate mood and a lack of it was causing me severe fatigue and in turn depression. The more depressed I got, the less I went out into the sun, worsening my problem.
My suggestion to anyone who has depression is to first attempt a mindset shift as Victor instructs. That was great advice. However, if you truly can’t snap out of it you need to go to the doctor and get blood work done. Get everything you possibly can: Testosterone, nutrients, complex metabolic panel, etc. You’re almost guaranteed to find something in there that’s causing your problems.
I’ve been getting more sun and taking 5k IU of Vitamin D a day for over a month now and my depression is almost completely gone. I also limited my drinking to a few drinks every 2 weeks and that seemed to help as well. Just get blood work done for those who truly can’t snap out of it. It’s really not about mindset for some people. I was in a very good situation in life: Great college, great group of friends, loving family. Yet, I was still depressed due to my Vitamin D deficiency.
Medical conditions do exist that prevent people from fixing their mindsets. They lead to psychological conditions that can often be remedied by simple lifestyle/dietary changes. Just try it out. There’s really nothing to lose. Sometimes your body can only bear so much.
“I suffered for 2 years before I finally sought help and went to my doctor about it. He ran some blood tests and it turns out my Vitamin D levels were extremely low.”
This is basically my point. You can fix it or you can suffer.
Right on Vic,
I have a friend thats an addict. I only see him 1-2 times a year now. But he always makes excuses and I really don think he’ll ever quit. But I won’t let him drag me down. We tried to help him and it didn’t work, so I did my part. Good point about how you can control the situation you’re in. You can choose to be depressed or not.
Just eat steak, and lift weights!
Thanks!
Agree 100%. I was born a scrapper and this resonates with me. I was lucky to be born in the USA and not live on the streets or anything, but there were areas that I was weak which were out of my control. I have had health issues that I spent thousands of dollars trying to find natural remedies for (chronic Lyme for one thing), I was born short and my whole family is tall, I haven’t been able to lift weights with my right arm for years (thoracic outlet syndrome). Instead of looking at these things negatively, I looked at them as opportunities to be a scrapper and appreciate the areas that are positive in my life. I lift with my left arm and do lots of leg work, I moved to Asia where the women are short and tend to appreciate my looks more, and my Lyme diet prevented my from eating sugar and other unhealthy stuff which helped to get me in the best shape of my life…so things that look negative on the surface aren’t always so negative and the only time I feel depressed is if I fixate on the things I can’t control.
My man.
You will never have a greater or lesser dominion than that over yourself…the height of a man’s success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment. …And this law is the expression of eternal justice. He who cannot establish dominion over himself will have no dominion over others.
― Leonardo da Vinci
Great quote.
I totally agree with this…while depression itself isn’t a choice, STAYING depressed is. Also, psychiatrists and therapists seem to be fucking us up even more with their prescribed meds, as if it’s gonna make things better. But from my own experience, I have to say, meds are completely useless unless one takes action!
My man.
Dear Vic,
I’ve been reading your blog for 3 years now.
I appreciate your words spoken in a world where so few are willing to say the truth.
The truth, Vic. That’s all I resonate with now, and I am proud of that.
Everything else is a curtain to disguise weakness.
Your blog inspired me to inspire myself.
Arrogance? Give me a break. That’s word cowards use.
I call it ability. Ability and greatness. Truth earned by sweat.
I want to tell you this now, because it’s the truth.
Thank you. Well done. Keep winning. I know I will.
Your friend,
-Tie
Thanks Tie.
Gold (trust me. Iv bon thue the mangle. Im 60 years old).
Thanks Peter.
I remember, one day in high school I broke up with my girlfriend whom I loved dearly. I was devastated but because I had exams coming up, I couldn’t let myself have self pity parties. I took action, passed the exams with honors and the sadness and pain subsided in a matter of weeks. Quickly after that, I found two more girlfriends and life was great.
Then a few years later, I broke up with another girlfriend, and I spent months crying and being a little bitch. But then I thought that if I could get over it quickly the first it means I can do it again. Hit the gym for the first time, eat better, use discipline to not think about her and BOOM without a few weeks, I was living again.
It’s shocking how one’s reaction can really either screw him completely or make him happy.
Then I stumbled onto this article of yours. I’m currently fighting addiction, and I was thinking about how I like to pose like a victim because I believe it will bring me sympathy, pity and compassion. The truth is no one is compassionate and understanding to someone who can’t even take care of himself. I also thought about how saying “I’m depressed and addicted” is great to me because that means I don’t have to even try to do anything, I have a great excuse backing me up : poor me, I’m an addict, I just can’t do that. Resume playing video games and watching porn.
Avoiding responsabilities feels great, but it’s not a viable survival strategy in the real world. And self responsability brings power, and hope.
By the way, you use harsh words, nothing wrong with that. But you have a very cute face. You seems to be a very kind guy.
Great comment, thanks.
I agree with maybe 1/2 of the shit this guy says. I lost my son. He died. That was fucking depressing.
Yes I do like this post it is so very true but people will argue against taking responsibility for themselves.