She asked “Why do you hang out with a 21 year old and you’re 33?!”
I replied: “Cause who else is free? You ain’t free. You’re wearing the same scrubs you put on 16 hours ago. Who else is free?”
Age is real, but it’s not a deal killer. It’s not everything. Maturity knows no number.
I was a late bloomer. Some people are early bloomers.
I know 35 year old 18 year olds and I know 18 year old 35 year olds. Maturity is not bound by age. But then again, what's so great about maturity?
Who’s free is free, who’s not is not. Who's free is who can hang with me.
Who’s willing is willing, who’s not willing is not willing. Age? No, friend, it's mindset. It's that simple.
Old people like me are usually set in their ways. They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks. But you could spend hours teaching a puppy.
So don't get me wrong, youth and immaturity is fantastic. Young people can't help but smile.
I hate to keep harping on Thailand, but over there a 31 year old man with an 18 year old girl is no big deal. A 33 year old man with a 21 year old protégé is no big deal.
So why is it a big deal here in the land of the free? I don't know, man, I never bothered to ask what the correct ages are I can spend time with.
I should really find a nice girl my own age who I could complain about things with. Right? Yeah right.
I don't like all young people, of course. I don't like all old people either. I don't really like most people, so if I like you I'm not really concerned about the date of birth.
Because there's so few of us.
It's us vs them.
I only really have 3 friends in the world. Here are the ages of my 3 friends: younger than me, same as me, older than me.
And they all do what I do. That's the glue that holds us together. Everybody else is an acquaintance.
Everybody comes for the advice, everyone comes for the know-how.
But nobody stays for the follow-through. Only those 3 ever did.
Those who stay for the follow-through get the benefits and the rewards.
You see, it’s time. You don’t just get the knowledge and then receive the reward. In between the knowledge and the reward comes time.
It’s time that you are required to give. Time time time. Time and content. That's how I do it.
Time + Content
How do you put out the content? What do you do to create the content?
You spill your guts and then you edit. That's it, man.
If you write, write the way you speak. If you video, video the way you speak.
Speak the way you speak and talk to one person.
How do you change lives? You talk to one person. All my content is for one person.
If one person reads it and follows it and follows through and has a success story then that piece of content has been a success.
If one person watches how to make money by being yourself and follows through then hey, they might end up on the beach with me.
People want to meet me all the time. “Victor, I'd love to buy you a drink and hear you talk.”
But the reality is that when I meet people it has nothing to do with how accomplished or not accomplished or how young or how old they are….
It's destiny. It's always destiny.
If people are meant to find you they will find you. This is why I don’t advertise B&D.; If you’re meant to find it you’ll find it.
Don't ask me how to change your life, seek to find the answer yourself.
Don't email me bleeding your life story. Email is free. When you bleed, don’t bleed for free. And don't bleed for me cause I don't care.
I don't read your blog, I don't watch your videos, I don't even hear you, but other people do. Bleed for them.
Why don’t you show other people what you know. Bleed for them.
If you need to know it, someone else needs to know it. If you found out, tell them the answer.
I needed to know “How the fuck do I get free? What do I do?”.
I didn't email strangers on the internet asking how, I just went out and found out.
I said: “I don’t know how to do it but I’m gonna go on this journey and I’m gonna find it and I’m gonna show you how to do it.”
Be a lone wolf but don't be alone
Cut the bad relationships out and keep the good ones.
Honestly truly it’s really hard to be alone. It’s a lot easier when somebody’s in your corner.
What to do if you don’t have somebody in your corner?
You always have somebody in your corner, you. Your business is first. Business comes first.
If you are your business and your business is you and business comes first what does that mean? It means you are first.
If someone wants to come in and be the navigator and let you be the driver, that's great. They are the passenger and the navigator and they can helpfully read the directions for you - so you can focus on driving.
You don't want a backseat driver telling you how to drive your car even though they've never driven your car. It's like saying…
“I’m going to tell you what you should do even though I don’t know what your thought process is or what your plans truly are. But I don't believe in you and I’m going to tell you what to do.”
Friends, family, mom and dad, girlfriend, wife….
You shouldn't expect other people to change as you change, that's not their job. Your job is to guide them and lead them and their job is to follow. They don't need to change, they simply need to follow.
Their mindset won't change, at least not right away. The only thing that should change is their admiration for you.
They're them and you're you. You go on your adventure and take them with you. They won't change, but their respect will grow. “I'm so proud of him. I wish I could do what he does”.
And if that doesn't happen, if their respect and admiration doesn't grow, it means you haven't completed the metamorphosis yet. Give it time.
Eventually it will happen. You'll molt and they'll know. When they sheepishly ask to borrow a few dollars to cover a family emergency, give them a whole lot extra and they'll know.
And if they are there, if they followed you into the dark, if they didn't nag, if you made it and they helped you - take care of them. Let them taste the good life. They deserve it because they invested their most important asset into you - their time.
Support, love, care are so important so if you got it from them you had an advantage. Be grateful (after you've made it through) because it's only after you've made it through that you'll realize how great they were.
The Metamorphosis
You should be changing, you’re not the old you anymore, you’re not Joe Schmoe anymore. You’re bigger than that.
And if you’re not bigger than that then you’re not doing what I’m telling you to do.
You will change when you change. That's when. It won't come sooner. The change will come right on time.
From a caterpillar to a butterfly. Everyone starts as a caterpillar so don't feel bad. If you want to become a butterfly, you will become one so just relax and be patient.
(But not too patient - money never sleeps and you barely will either).
You gotta have a little patience in this game. Your time will come. Believe it and reality will bend to your will.
When it does come, everybody from your past will tell you you’ve changed and, with a big smile, you’ll say thank you for noticing.
You'll say: “Thank you for noticing my metamorphosis. Thank you so much for noticing. Glad you’re able to see what I can do and thanks for the support.”
They don’t need to support you at first. They don’t know your vision.
Nobody knows your vision except for you. They don’t even need to believe you.
All they need to do is get out of the way and let you do your thing and not nag and be a drag, that’s all.
They don’t know your vision and they won't know it until they see it with their own eyes.
You know why they don’t know your vision? Because they don’t have your eyes.
The world looks different from my eyes than it does from your eyes.
So what do her eyes see now? Who cares. She can think whatever she wants to think but what she can't do is nag or be a drag. Thinking unsure thoughts is forgivable, being a nag and a drag is unforgivable and is punishable by abandonment.
What will her eyes see in the future? That's what counts. Past is nothing, now is nothing too. What will she see in the future? You already know, she doesn't yet, but she will.
Her eyes will see a man who started from nothing and achieved everything. And her eyes were there to witness.
Nobody knew what I was doing. Even I didn’t see the grand scope. I didn’t see the big picture.
It's hard to see the masterpiece on a blank canvas, it's much easier to see the first pencil stroke, then the second, then the third. Eventually the masterpiece reveals itself.
All I knew at first: this is what I’m gonna do. This is it. This is what I do now. This is it.
No back up plan
I’ll be poor forever doing this before I go back to State Farm insurance, I thought. I'll be poor forever.
I will live in china on $800 a month for as long as it takes. Thankfully it only took a year and a few months, but I could have spent years trying.
I have the will to endure forever.
“Just endure”, like I told Mikey C. five years ago. And he did. Like Drake said, he started from the bottom now he's here.
But don’t forget to do the work. Endurance becomes stagnation if you don't do the damn work.
Live Well
I like to live well. I'm not living on a budget and I'm not trying to save nickels and dimes. I like to live well. I don't own much still and never will but I live well.
Years ago the lady at the private airport in the Philippines asked me with sincerity: “Do you live well?”
I answered yes but I was wrong. Now I see. I can see now. I still lived in a tunnel then and only a little light was visible, but I can see it all now. Now I live well.
“You’ve changed, your old articles are not like your new articles! It’s like you're not still living in a $400 apartment in Dallas in the ghetto, or a $100 apartment in China. What gives bro, did you change?”
Yes I did change and thank you so much for noticing.
What do I do everyday? What always comes first? Work and make money.
What comes first? Business.
It's almost like it's easy, isn’t it? It's almost like its easier than working a real job.
It's almost like all you gotta do is be you and live your life and then give people the information and the knowledge.
Am I arrogant to point out that people ask me in person every single day how they can do what I do? Is that arrogant?
I don't know if it's arrogant but I know that it's funny - none of them even know what I do.
I don't tell anyone about B&D.; But they ask me, every single day, to teach them what I do.
What do they know? They know the aura. They can smell it.
I don’t tell them about B&D.; If they really wanted to know they would’ve found it.
It's my job to create, it’s not my job to advertise to 9-5ers who want out. It’s their destiny to find B&D.;
My job is the work, your job is to find it. If you don't find it, you either didn't try or it wasn't meant to be. Maybe you belong in your 9-5.
I’m not the work. B&D; is the work. Leave ME alone and find B&D;, if you were serious. If they were serious they would’ve found B&D.; But they're never serious.
They would’ve been on their computer searching for the answer. They would’ve been searching for the answer and the answer was right in front of their faces, but they looked away.
Where do you look? You look forward. You don’t look behind you. The past is the past. That’s gone my friend.
You look forward. You look for it. You know what I do when I want to find some information? I find it.
You figure it out. If it’s your fate, you find it.
What do girls always say to me about their job?
“Ughh, I hate it! I wish I could do what you do!”
And I say, “I know you do”.
Everyone wants to do what I do because I still have my soul. I sold pieces of it for a long time because I didn’t know any better.
I didn’t know what the other option was. But goddamnit I knew it was there, some damn where. It just took me a long time to get there.
Years in the making.
8 years ago I quit my job at State Farm. I called my girlfriend at the time 8 years ago and I said:
“We’re probably gonna have some hard times ahead, but this is what I’m gonna do. I'm letting you know in advance. Hard times or not, this is what I'm gonna do.”
She said: “Ok. I trust you.” And she meant it. She was terrific. She supported me fully.
And you know what happened 30 days later? Within 30 days I made $4,000.
I'd never had more than about $1,800 before that in my bank account, even though I always had a job.
When I quit my job I focused 100% of my time on the business. I’d never been so focused on anything in my life and I made $4,000 in 30 days.
Since that day I’ve been way up and I’ve been way down. But I’ve never had to go to anybody and say:
“I have to be at work tomorrow. I can't fly away tomorrow, sorry.
I can’t fly with you, I can’t go play with you. I can't just pick up and go.
I have to be at work tomorrow and all week, but if you want to get drunk on Friday night and Saturday night with all the other soulless and miserable people, then I’m your man!”
I've never had to say that.
What do they always say? They say:
“Hey, a day off! A holiday! A 3-day weekend! Let's spend it drinking, dude! Hey girl, let's spend it drinking!
Work on something on my off-time? No way! I hate my job, you don’t understand. I hate work! Why would I work on my day off?
I hate my job, I would do anything to quit and have my own business and now I have 3 days off so let’s drink! I don’t want to think about work! Let’s spend it drinking!
Monday’s gonna suck! Monday’s gonna be awful. Can’t wait till I have another 3-day weekend! Can't wait 'til my own business picks up! Can't wait………..”
But you know what?
It’s hard to build a business when you have to spend so much time doing something else.
It's hard because it takes time. You have to give it your time and you don't have the time if you've given your time to something else.
If you don’t give it your time, you don’t get nothing in return.
When I worked at State Farm, I spent all my time researching my other business. I didn’t want to work at State Farm, cold-calling and selling insurance, but I wanted that steady paycheck.
You know what I realize now? I realize now that I stole the owner's money. He owned that State Farm. It wasn’t a corporation, it was a franchise. He owned it and he had to pay all the bills.
I stole that man’s money because I didn’t really work for him. I lied to his face, I told him I would but I didn't really. I spent my time there researching my other business.
He didn't know it, but that man gave me the opportunity to research and spend my time doing my other business while I pretended to work for him.
I was just a kid then, I had no idea about business. But now I know, I stole his time and his money. He gave me a great gift. I should mail that man a check for every penny I stole from him, with a sincere thank you…
“Thank you for showing me the way” it would say.
“It wasn’t your intention to show me the way, but you showed me. You were the last step because I hated it there. And I found my destiny there.”
That job was like school for me, because I found it. I found the answer. It was there that I found the answer.
I had a job before State Farm where I spent all day surfing the Internet. That’s all I had to do, literally. They paid me just to do that. So everyday I surfed the internet.
It was there that I should’ve built my business, but I didn’t because it was too easy. They paid me enough money that I was fine.
So I just surfed the internet. Did I try to build a business? Yeah, right.
I just waited till 7PM, till I could go home and hit the gym, fuck my girlfriend and watch movies and drink.
That’s the life, huh? Getting paid to do nothing? Yeah, it’s alright. Not bad, as far as jobs go.
Better way, though, is to get paid for being YOU.
More money in it. More freedom in it.
Certainly more isolation in it. Nobody talks about that, the isolation of growing.
Who do you relate to? You don’t relate to the people at your job, but here’s a secret:
If you related to the people at your job in the first place, then that's where you belong.
Do you feel that's where you belong? If you feel it, it's probably real.
I never related to my “co-workers”. They were like aliens to me.
And you know what’s funny? You know what they always said to me? You know what they knew?
They knew that I didn’t belong there.
They would say, “Why are you working here?”
I would say, “I need the money” and shrug.
But they knew. Their inflection told me. They said, “Why are YOU working HERE with US? You belong in, like, Hollywood or something.”
They knew better than I did. They knew much better than I did. They even believed in me more than I did. I always thought I needed a job as a safety net until I “got my big break”.
I simply didn't have any understanding then, I didn't realize what it took (everything), I didn't realize big breaks don't happen randomly. You make your own luck and then you get lucky.
I knew all too well that I didn't belong there. But what the hell else do you do? That's what I didn't know.
I'm a late bloomer. It takes me a long time to realize things. I just endure until a solution presents itself. Sometimes the solution presents itself a bunch of times before I see it. Late bloomer and all.
I would have done it when I was 18 but I didn't know. I didn't know nothing about nothing. No one told me, just like no one told you.
I just knew I didn't want to be like them. Well, that's a lie. It's not that I didn't want to be like them, I knew I wasn't like them and that I could never be like them. I never “fit in” anywhere in my whole life.
“But what the fuck do people like me do?” Who knows.
When I was young, we didn’t really have the Internet. We didn’t have YouTube. There was no Bold & Determined. There was nothing like that. We had to read books and figure it all out. But books didn't know either.
I’ve said it a thousand trillion times: I just didn’t know. But now I know. It's so simple and always was. And now I put what I know into B&D; so you can know too.
You, sitting alone at night on your computer, now you can know.
Do I lay it out step-by-step every inch of the way? No I don’t. There’s no such thing as a step-by-step plan to freedom and wealth.
Success flows like water. What did Bruce Lee say? He said be like water.
The principles are the same. The principles never change.
Everybody who ever did anything did it the same way: Time, dedication, obsession, focus.
What did they do when they lost focus? They drifted off. Their art wasn’t as good anymore.
But maybe you only have a period of a certain number of years with that intense focus, so when you’re in that period, what do you do?
Content. Art. Deals. Keep the momentum going.
Don’t break the momentum. Don’t stop. For the love of God, whatever you do, don’t stop.
What happens when you stop? You stop, that’s what happens. Everything stops. And that's the worst thing that can happen. So if you never stop, it never stops.
You know what is more important than money in life? Having a mission. You cannot be aimless and be fulfilled.
But here’s something maybe you don’t know: You cannot be on a mission and be fulfilled either. There’s no end to this mission, it never stops.
If I could just make $100 a day I’d be happy, until I made $100 a day.
If I could just make $1,000 a day I’d be happy, until I made $1,000 a day.
If I could just make $1,000,000 I’d be happy, until I made $1,000,000.
That's the beauty of the mission: it never has to stop. That’s the beauty of it. The fun ride never stops.
And even if it did stop, you can't be driven for so long and then be happy when the ride stops.
I always wanted my jobs to stop, I always wanted school to stop. I never want this to stop.
When you love something you don’t want it to stop. When you need something you don’t want it to stop.
It’s only when you don’t want something, when you don’t like something, that you wish and wish and wish that it would stop.
Well, you can make it stop, if you so wish. Anyone can make it stop.
If you’re under 18, here’s what you do:
JUST ENDURE.
You know what happens when you’re 18? You're an adult and you’re legally free.
You want to make it stop? OK, make it stop. There’s no excuse for an adult to not make something stop.
Children must endure until they are adults. Children have a valid excuse for not living the life they want. Adults have no excuse.
So if you want it to stop just make it stop. If you want it to stop, that is.
But the beauty of living life on your own terms is that you don’t want it to stop. You'll even beg God to never make it stop.
The biggest fear of people who live on their own terms is that it’s going to stop.
Regular people wish for it to stop. Exceptional people lay awake at night hoping and praying and asking God to never make it stop.
You don’t think it’s going to stop, see, you’re afraid it's going to stop. It’s your biggest fear: that it stops and you have to go back.
You know in your head that if you don’t stop, that if you flow like water, it wont stop because you have the momentum going.
But I never said you logically think it's going to stop, I said you're deeply afraid that it's going to stop.
And it's fine to be afraid. You can let that fear drive you.
It doesn’t matter what drives you. It doesn't matter what the motivation is. Fear? Courage? Who cares.
It doesn’t matter what drives you as long as you’re driven.
The eyes don’t tell lies.
When you talk about your work your eyes should be wide, like a crazy man.
Crazy eyes and deaf ears.
You can talk to me but I won’t hear you. See the whites of my eyes? That means I can’t hear you. It means I'm busy with my own thoughts.
When you talk like that with crazy eyes and deaf ears that’s when you know you're on fire.
Crazy eyes and deaf ears - that’s when you know you're on your mission.
I'll tell you about my business with crazy eyes and you’ll respond but I wont hear you. Your response doesn't matter. It doesn’t matter what you think.
You don’t have crazy eyes. You don’t have my eyes. You don’t know the vision. I could tell my plan to you or to a brick wall and it's the same outcome - I won't hear a response.
Talk talk talk talk talk all you want, it won’t matter.
My eyes are open and my ears are closed. I don’t need your input because I already know.
In my eyes it’s as clear as the ocean blue water in the Philippines in July 2013 when I had my epiphany.
What was it? That’s for me, that’s not for you.
I could tell it to you but it would sound like Mumbo Jumbo. It’s clear to me but to you it would be Mumbo Jumbo.
What’s your epiphany? What’s your plan?
Figure it out but for the love of God don't tell me about it because I don't care. It's your plan. It’s for you. Tell it to a brick wall.
My plan is for me. Your plan is for you. Got it? Good.
If you tell me about your plan with crazy eyes I'll believe you. I'll believe you if I can see the whites of your eyes because the eyes don’t tell lies.
I won't hear you but I'll believe you. If you ask me 5 minutes later what your plan was I won’t remember. But if you tell me with crazy eyes I’ll believe that you believe it. I'll see it in your eyes when you talk about it.
If you don’t have the eyes you don’t have it. Not yet.
So what if you don’t have it yet. What did I already say? It takes time.
If you talked to me at 21, I didn’t have it, I didn’t know. I was a late bloomer.
If you talked to me at 25, 26 the eyes started getting crazy then.
You talk to me at 31…. just kidding you wouldn’t talk to me at 31. I wasn’t there. I was too deep in it.
I wasn’t there, I wasn’t a person. I was not a person when I was 31. You couldn’t talk to me.
Now I'm here. Five years of crazy eyes and now I can truly live well.
“Wow that’s so great the way you live, that’s so awesome what you do, I wanna do what you do! How do you do it, can you teach me?”
Yes, I can teach you but you won't follow it. You won’t like it.
5 years of crazy eyes and deaf ears. Can you do that?
“Oh no, I don’t wanna do that. I wanted to make money tomorrow!”
And I’ll say “yeah, I understand. Five years is a long time to live free and live well. After all, you already put in 4 years for a promise of a job and weekends free”.
So who in their right mind could expect to work for 5 years to achieve something? Who would do that? That’s too long.
Instead, here’s an idea: Go into debt, spend 4 years learning nothing from nobody’s in a university and then go find a job, go pay back that debt, and meet me when you’re 27 and say, “I wish I could do what you do.”
And I’ll say “if you truly wished you could then you would.”
Cause when I was 27 I spent five years in a tunnel, I saw the light at the end of the tunnel but I didn’t see anything outside of the tunnel.
You ask me about a movie, a musician, a book that came out in the past 5 years, I don’t know about it.
I don’t know about it because I had crazy eyes and deaf ears. I lived in a tunnel and all I saw was the big bright shining light at the end. That was my destination and I didn't stop to catch the latest movie.
If it wasn’t in that tunnel I didn’t see it and I didn’t hear it. You had to be in my tunnel or you weren't alive. You had to have an invitation to my tunnel. Almost nobody had that invitation.
Give all to get all. I gave all to get all and now I live well.
So you wanna do what I do? That’s great, I love it. Start today and spend everyday for the next 5 years thinking about it.
“Thinking isn't work.”
Not true. It takes brain power. Thinking is 90% of the work. You gotta use your brain.
How do you make money by being you if you don’t have a brain? You don't and you won't.
Yes, thinking is work. And you’ll never be able to take a break.
You wanna know the negative part, the side effects of living life as a free person? You’re never free from the thoughts.
Go sit on a beach with pretty girls and pina coladas and blue waves and servants serving you whatever you like.
Great life, isn’t it? You’ll be thinking about getting back to work. You'll be thinking about content.
How can I turn this into content? Stupid question. You already know how to turn it into content, you don't need to think about the how.
When you can afford a real vacation you’re already an expert. Everything is content in your life. So you never think “how can I turn this into content” because it's as automatic as taking a pee-pee in the morning.
Everything is content. If it's good content, release it. Bad content, don’t release it. But file it away in the back of your mind with all the other memories that you have turned into big business.
When you’re on the beach and you see these young street performers having a great time on the beach, performing an amazing show for a large crowd, you think….
….these young performers are lean, young, athletic, fun, sexual, free, well maybe, actually not really free. Not like you.
It's clear at the end of the show, before the big finale, when they beg the audience for money. They're free in other's eyes, but not in your eyes.
You know that these young, free, tan, lean beach bums need money like everybody needs money. It costs money to be a free and lean beach bum. Everybody needs money.
Does money buy happiness? Don’t give me your dumb answer because it’s a dumb question asked by dumb people. Any answer to the question is a dumb answer.
You need money like you need air and water and food. Money is the 4th element. You don’t live without it. You need it as much as you need air and water and food and that’s a fact.
Another fact: the more you have of it the better you live, the better you live the happier you are. The happier you are the…… wait…… so does money actually buy happiness?
I already told you, don’t ask me that question because it's dumb.
The young and happy street performers gotta beg for it. It puts a little smile on your face knowing that during the show you got email after email after email after email saying….
New message: You have received money.
You watched the street performers show and you watched them beg for money. You probably made more money in that hour than they did. All you had to do was sit there and all it took to get there was five years of obsession.
To outsiders, it looks like all you did was play with your phone a little bit and check your emails.
But where were they when you were in your tunnel? Where were they when you didn’t watch a movie for 5 years?
They were probably at their jobs. They probably thought they had it all figured out.
“I went to school, I got a great degree in blah blah blah! Now I have a great job making 150k a year!
All I had to do was spend 4 years, go into debt and sell my soul to have other people tell me what to do and all I do is complain about it and get drunk on the weekends!”
But there is a way. You're gonna spend five years working on something that’s ridiculous. Yeah it is ridiculous. You gotta be a little crazy to play the game with no net.
What was my backup plan? That’s a joke. Make the choice. Backup plans are for people who don’t make choices.
You can always make money doing something. You can always get a job doing something. You don’t need a real backup plan. Jobs are always there.
You need that focus. Focus and time. Focus and time works for any business that you want to do. The principles are always the same.
But the method that you use to get there is not going to be drawn on a map for you.
Just kidding, there is a map. It’s called Bold and Determined.
The map is in front of your eyes, it just takes crazy eyes to crack the code.
Can you hear what I’m saying to you?
If you can hear me, you weren’t listening.
Until next time,
Your man,
Victor Pride
P.S. – Start your fucking blog right now because I said so.
Don’t ask me why. Don’t ask me any questions. Just do it.
Start your blog right now and spill your guts. Spill your guts, and in five years you’ll have all the bucks in the world.
Spill your guts and make some bucks. It’s the easiest fucking thing in the whole world.
And I just gave you the easy, step-by-step blueprint to cracking the code, living like a King and being free for a lifetime.
In case you didn’t figure it out by now, here it is in the simplest terms I could ever say:
Live the way you really want to live.
Actually, that’s a big fat fucking lie. This is what you do instead…
Have a vision in your head of the way you really want to live. Imprint that vision in your mind. Think of that vision every day and every night.
That vision is your life goal. Now you have a goal. A mission.
You will never truly be able to live exactly the way you want to live. And that’s the beauty of the Victor Pride Patented Plan For Success ™.
You’ll always have something to work for and you’ll never want to stop. I don't want to stop, ever.
It’s never enough and it never should be enough.
More more more more more more more.
I swear to God I lived Spartan so I could get everything. I didn’t know it then but I know it now.
Start your blog, make your videos, if that’s your goal, and start now.
If you ask me in the first year how its doing, I’ll ignore you.
If you ask me in the second year how its doing, I’ll ignore you.
If you ask me in the third year to fly out to your private villa in Greece which you have paid for using the age old wisdom of “do the work”, and you ask me to be your guest, well, I just might respond.
Adios, amigos. See you in Greece. Maybe I’ll see you in Spain. Maybe I’ll see you in Cartagena.
Maybe you’ll come see me in Venice Beach for the Patented Victor Pride Shut The Fuck Up Don’t Ask Me Any Stupid Questions Seminar ™.
Here’s what you do at the weekend retreat for killers and real-dealers: _______________
Just kidding. I wouldn’t trade a weekend in exchange for money. I don’t have the time.
I can't trade my time for money. It's not possible because I already traded all of my time that I will ever have.
Sign up at BADNET and stop asking me questions.
Close your ears. Open your eyes. Do the work.
Next time you ask somebody that you don’t know a question about your life crisis, this is what you do: write it and then delete it cause you already know the answer.
You just want confirmation. You just want the confirmation that it’s the right thing to do. If I tell you that it’s the wrong thing to do, you'll ignore my response. You’re gonna do what you’re gonna do anyway. So just do it in the first place.
You’re like the people that wanna do what I do but they don’t really wanna do it. They just wanna do it if they don't actually have to do it.
So don’t waste my time. Cause my time is already gone. Its been spoken for and I’ve already told you everything you needed to know about everything about life.
When you reach that point of no return, maybe you can be like my friend Mike C. and come out and see me.
If you haven’t reached that point, start now because it takes time. It takes a lot of time, friend.
Time time time time time time.
All you have is all the time in the world and all it takes is all the time in the world.
It takes all the time in the world so you'd better start right now.
This world is designed so that you are never free.
That’s the go-get’em attitude that the world likes to hear!
Good God, man. I can’t tell if you’re trolling, Jacob, or just telling it like it is.
I’ve read Jacob’s comments over the years as well as his site. His comment was tongue in cheek.
As for Alex, he is absolutely right.
But it is OUR choice to be slaves or be free.
We can succumb…
or OVERCOME!
You know me so well, heh. How you doing, Grey?
Hey man,
Wow… I’m really sorry to hear about your loss. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers. Contact me when your blog is up. I’d love to check it out.
Are those options mutually exclusive?
Hey Jacob, thanks for checking in on me. Today is the one year anniversary of my 17yo son’s death. He died racing against his twin brother in the BMWs their mommy bought for them with my child support money.
I have literally taken the year off, of almost everything. But for the last several months I have been planning my comeback.
After the boohooing is over tonight at the crash site, I start anew tomorrow with 30DoD.
I have my blog started on paper, business plan in the making, message very clear.
Take care, GOD bless you, and I look forward to sharing with you in the blogosphere soon.
Yes, the world is designed that way. Funny thing, prisons are designed to keep you from leaving. The solution is not to lament the design of the prison, the solution is to keep yourself from being in that prison at all costs.
The convict who tells his buddy that the prison is impossible to escape from has as much sympathy from me as the member of society who complains that the deck is stacked against him, that he’s held down, etc. Make your life or make your excuses, you can’t do both.
Damn, Vic. Straight fire that I needed to hear. I’m in the tunnel, I have the crazy eyes, but I had to come back and see this knowledge bomb that the man who inspired me to take the leap dropped. Thank you for nutting up and following your destiny.
Just have started 30 days of discipline.
Awesome article, Vic!
I’ve been doing 30 Days of Discipline for more than 100 days.
Wow! You must have the crazy eyes
Question,Mort,Do you feel more aggression?
Great article! I only read half but your style has definitely changed. I liked your classic articles, the short and sweet ones but these are great as well. Your style evolved into a man who lives well and is relaxing these days. Keep up the good work, I’ll finish the article when I get home!
Crazy eyes and deaf ears…
Listen to Victor. Solid advice.
Also, if you want to start your blog don’t think about competition.
Competition is for losers. Winners always create their own standards in life. My competition isn’t other bloggers. My competition is the next level of skills I need to acquire in order to become great at what I chose to do.
The world needs more quality bloggers. Don’t be afraid to be one of them. Open your eyes, endure the pain, create, create, create, promote and reap the benefits.
QM
Thanks for your perspective!
In just a few short paragraphs, you solidified some things that have been occurring to me over the last few weeks.
I’ve been gaining skills and creating. My only fear now is that damn ‘publish’ button.
That will change this week.
Thanks
Real Estate Wholesaling.
There are a lot of clues in this article (for those of people who are still trying to find out how he made that money within thirty days)
So far, I got door slammed, laughed at, distressed sellers being indecisive, only one response with hundreds of direct marketing postcards and yellow letters… one response leading to nowhere because seller refused to sell below market. None of this phases me.
Not giving up. For me, this is it. This is part of sales. Everything is sales actually. Even if you work under a boss to trade your time for money; that is still sales. Everyday you are selling something. Even this post is a sales.
How did a man convince his (soon to be boss) to hire him? He was selling himself. There are some people who sell other people’s product for commission? My take on that is… why not sell your own product and get 100 percent of the money instead of commission off of other people’s product? Not that it’s bad idea (if the other people’s product you are promoting is good) but it’s always better to have ownership and control.
Another key point. Downsize. Downsize and only spend money to get a greater return that has a value.
Product or service, pick one or both. If you have the expertise and someone wants your skills (products/services), they will gladly pay you for it. This could be online (global) or within your neighborhood (local).
This is a skill that will pay you for a lifetime. Once you go through this phase, there are no turning back. I can feel it. This strenuous process of going through small failures will pay a big time someday.
I see heavy traffic at 8~9 AM in the morning and 5~6 PM later at evening. To me, that is INSANITY. That alone cannot convince me to go back to working and trading my time for money. No way.
For those of you who are afraid of approaching people, getting rejected, don’t have the internal drive to go out there, attempt risk and just doing it… then maybe your destiny was meant to be in a job taking orders.
Money buys time. —> Most people don’t understand this and that’s how you know where they stand.
Regarding the age mentioned in this article, I like to add that you don’t need to respect your “elders” anymore than them needing to respect you. Keep general politeness but like the article stated, it’s about mentality.
My first year I made $38k wholesaling, it was actually the most money I’ve ever made in a year, my second year just ended in April of being in the business, I made $216k. Is now a new year for me (starting May 1st) and my “mission” is set higher than ever before.
I want to write a book to capitalize on selling the knowledge I have, that’ll be the next step since everyone and their mom wants to be a “wholesaler”. That’s where badnet will prob come in to start lol.
Only thing I can say to help you out, is be ready to spend some big money to get a big return. Once in a while you’ll get lucky with a $1 bandit sign which will make you a year’s salary in 2 weeks time. Also get good at driving around looking and boarded up houses and finding owners, I pay a Private Investigator lots of money to get good leads.
Nice! You made a killing in your second year.
Thanks for sharing Juan.
Yeah I have been driving around, looking for boarded up houses (some people call it dilapidated homes). Usually most of them happen to be vacant properties so I research and look up the owner and surprisingly some of them are investors themselves who often forget about their own property or just forget to pay taxes on them. I’m also expanding to different county. I haven’t used the bandit signs yet. I will definitely use them in addition to my other marketing tactics (I use mainly yellow papers).
I am not American and had never heard of real estate wholesaling before now. I think I have seen it happening here in Australia because I see some of those ‘house wanted to buy’ signs stuck up illegally but I always thought they were Chinese looking to get an ‘investor’ visa. If I understand correctly a wholesaler finds a house not on the market to sell and then lines up buyers and takes a commission? Do you already need buyers lined up? In Australia most capital cities are charging a median of 500-750 thousand dollars and demand (200,000 immigrants a year) cannot keep up with supply (10,000 new homes a year at best). Would wholesaling work in that market?
Hi Make Comments Great Again,
Wholesalers do not receive commission. They get assignment fee. They deal directly with home flippers or end buyers (real estate investors). They also deal with people doing rentals. In some occasions, I heard that wholesalers can even sell to some home remodeling companies who actually flip the properties themselves. It’s better to have buyers lined up already although if your deals are good, you can have buyers lined up pretty quickly. I don’t know how it works in Australia and I never lived there but all I know is that it works in America. I personally got to know few buyers who told me they wholesale before and became home flippers after learning.
If you see a “house wanted” or something like that, then I”m thinking it’s probably either real estate end buyers or wholesalers marketing for distressed properties.
The whole point of wholesaling is to get properties at a discount (way below the full market value) and assign it to end buyers for higher (high but still below the full market value) so you basically get a difference (assignment fee).
As far as the market is concerned, I basically know that some area can be seller’s market or buyer’s market depending on the Days on Market a property sits. There are other factors too (like distance to schools, neighborhood quality, whether the home is next to a factor or shopping center, where the property, and many other factors, etc) to decide if the property is worth purchasing.
“If you need to know it, someone else needs to know it. If you found out, tell them the answer.”
The best answer for anyone asking why they should start a blog. Good stuff!
“If you can hear me, you weren’t listening.”
7000 words of pure, unadulterated no-bullshit.
man you really are a genius
Going to be soon 3 years since I have been free thanks to your ideas and motivation.
This article is pure fire.
Thankyou very much
See you in 5 years Vic.
“If people are meant to find you they will find you.”
Gosh, no truer words; I just had the proof within the last month. As I mentioned in some other comment, I took action, which brought me to something, which brought me to something else, which brought me to something else. Less than a month ago I networked with one person, just by “being there”, and now I am inside a circle of people that was previously closed to me. I even had to help on stuff for over $500M.
And guess what? This brought me inside a circle of trust within the organization I am working now (slowlane job, nonetheless I want to do it good ’til it lasts; experience is experience)… and now the highest person in charge here asks for my advice on many many things, on a daily basis.
Of course now my “co-workers” now talk behind my back… Guess what? I don’t care, because I don’t talk, but I work. And I deliver.
“Don’t break the momentum. Don’t stop. For the love of God, whatever you do, don’t stop.”
by the way, I started boxing again. I am sure that it will bring me more unexpected stuff on my plate. I was up at 4AM this morning while the city was asleep I was working and training.
Then as soon as I am in a better shape I will re-start martial arts and do even more stuff.
I noticed that my back is very weak, does anyone know a few good exercises that don’t need gyms or tools ?
If you want to start mixed martial arts, the best time is now. Shape and a fighters mentality are byproducts of fighting. Fighting is not something that you do once you’re in better shape because you will never be in shape to fight by not fighting. Your back either needs a doctor or stress, go see one and if they think it’s fine, go fight. Boxing is a good way to, you know, box, but it isn’t MMA. If you want to start MMA, start MMA, “once i’m in a better shape” is a worn out excuse for non-MMA fighters to remain non-MMA fighters. That’s how it is.
Strongfirst.com
Bodyweight forum
I 2nd this. I’m an SFG and I’ve been doing hardstyle training since 2009. Nothing else even comes close.
I’ve been putting the idea together for my journey for long enough. It’s time to flip the crazy switch.
“It’s time to flip the crazy switch.”
I’m going to use that.
Thank you.
Weak how? Do you have any pain? Pull ups are the easiest back exercises with no equipment. Just find something to hang off or use a towel, rope etc.
You are goddamn right Victor
I couldn’t wait to end reading this article and get back to work!
See you in Heaven my man Victor! Thanks for everything.
- PS Guys check out Mike Chagares’s site it is great with valuable content!
Just a couple of days ago I realized I hadn’t heard from you since February. This one was definitely worth the wait!
This - “Children must endure until they are adults. Children have a valid excuse for not living the life they want. Adults have no excuse.”
This reminds me of a point in my own life where I was able to begin seeing more clearly - with my own wild eyes. I linked to that article here.
No words Victor, just relentless determination!
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This is the post I have waited for Victor, you are the father figure I follow in life. I owe you a great debt for all the advice and wisdom you have shared. I would like to give back now. Below I include my actions and thoughts which changed my mindset and helped me overcome my depression.
My issues stem from my childhood and my relationship with money, status and sex. I got used for sex and had a consensual sexual partner at the age of 5. It affected how I thought about life for years to come. On this day I’m 23 years old and my emptiness is gone; I have found purpose in life. I overcame depression when I used a psychedelic and phenibut in combination. While experiencing what psychologists call ego death, I asked myself how to be a great parent and what I wished my parents taught me as a child. What I dislike about growing up is, as children, we look up to adults for guidance and explanations. We need to know why anything is the way it is and everything needs to make sense. In reflection, I realize adults are just larger more experienced children.
I see that everyone has insecurities and these insecurities control their lives. We distract ourselves from these insecurities with activities. These include entertainment like TV, food, sex, video games, work, etc. Now, I don’t think there is anything wrong with distractions. That is how we pass the time, and we all have time. What is bad about insecurities is they create anxiety. It is this lack of comfort (anxiety) that causes people to harm others. When we think about what creates comfort we do whatever we can to get it.
Everyone wants to feel comfortable―it is the reason we spend money on anything. Money allows us to create comfort. This is why all sales come from emotion. I spent years playing video games to pass the time and distract myself. This taught me how video games work, and to this day I use the relocatable skills in real life (not a total loss). Now days I enjoy being intimate with my closest friends/mentors and my significant other.
I find that a majority of society tends to be negative. People are afraid to see others succeed because of their insecurities. The Germans called this schadenfreude, a pleasure felt by others’ misfortunes. People tend to hide their true feelings. This is because society imposes emotional expectations that scare people from sharing. I believe mainstream religions have a respectable moral compass. The stories they share draw people to them when it feels ethogenic. Their adoption keeps people together when we are unsure that we can trust each other. Or the games we play in this life.
My cure to depression is my new found faith in humanity. In this moment I feel immense joy and fulfillment whenever I help another human. I use the word “human” because I see everyone as intelligent animals. We interact with the world how ever we can to gain leverage. People want leverage because control gives them comfort. I wish to help people achieve fulfillment and comfort.
It is the duty of a parent to prepare children for life in this world. I now feel fully prepared that I have found love and have accepted the truths written in this passage. This love is acceptance of another person and everything she represent. Her past, present and future. Once I accepted love, I achieved self-actualization, as explained in Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs. I hope everyone achieves self-actualization and overcomes depression.
“I find that a majority of society tends to be negative. People are afraid to see others succeed because of their insecurities. The Germans called this schadenfreude, a pleasure felt by others’ misfortunes. People tend to hide their true feelings.”
^ Absolutely. People tend to hide their feelings. Like in business world, if one business is doing bad job in customer service, it allows another business owner to compete and fill that void and bring great customer service and more customers will go to him instead of the other one. That business owner who provided great customer service will be happy deep down inside because he just won over his competition. Business is like a war. Of course the business owner is going to see another business owner and pretend and say… “hi, how are you doing? how is your business doing?” lol even though deep down inside, he is happy.
Even among friends, it’s best not to reveal your future plan.
This is why it’s better to be alone than hang out with average people who are negative about everything. When you succeed big time, you will quickly know who your “real” friends were.
It’s another reason to not tell anyone your big plan. The last line, I had to learn this the hard way.
This should have been your first post on your blog, not spilling your guts here.
It isn’t the first time that I am forced to comment half way through my reading, but this post… This gigantic read right here is like mini book, for free.
Like you said in the article, the answer is there. Who wants to find it and know, will search the internet for that answer and eventually will find… Gold. Gold post. Thanks.
This post is basically a summation of everything that B&D has preached for the past five years, wonderfully presented and articulated in this brilliant article. Victor, you could quite possibly never write a single article again for the rest of B&D’s days, as this gem right here would be all anyone visiting the website would ever need as their Call To Action.
Thanks again for your words of wisdom.
Thank you for another great article, Vic! Never stop learning, never stop figuring things out! That’s it. What’s even more important than money is the powerful reason to always keep figuring things out: it causes the growing of your mental abilities. Push the brain constantly to its limit, so you can go beyond it later. It happens through increased blood flow to the brain and neurogenesis. Many people don’t realize this process, so they always seek to avoid mental exertion.
I know what you mean about 100/day, 500/day, 1000/day…I keep wanting more and more. And recently people are very interested in how to live how I live, but just like you say, they don’t hear me. I always end with, “If you can understand the sentences I’m speaking, you’re smart enough to be able to go online and figure out a way to make money on your own. You simply have to want it enough. We all have the cumulative knowledge of mankind at our fingertips. Use it.”
It’s been motivating watching you keep at it brother. Actually I’m sure you don’t remember but in late 2013 when I quit my corporate job with very little money to my name and no backup plan, I emailed you and told you and you wished me luck. Now I’ve surpassed by far what I wanted to accomplish back then, but I have a feeling up and up and up will still never be enough, even though I’m grateful for where I am already.
Life is good.
Dear Victor,
Did you finally ‘wake up’ from your long deep sleep?
Did you discover the TRUTH?
Did your body shake out of control?
Your partner in success,
Gerardo Morillo
PS: Great Post. I feel your soul here bleeding on the page :)
You won’t regret coming to Spain. No one ever has and neither will you. And great article, this one was even better than usual.
Damn… this really resonates with me a lot.. so powerful and personal at the same time. This article and these are the Pinnacle of B&D, About: Bum Mentality, Money, Mansions, Girls, Heart and Soul.Unconventional Advice for Young Men. I’m a Late bloomer as well.Nice to see your metamorphosis from caterpillar to butterfly. Thanks Everything Uncle Vic,I really appreciate what you are doing.you have my sincere thanks.
Greetings from: Alaska,Scooter.
We must endure! To reach a place in your life where you want to be we must endure!
Fantastic article Victor! As always Thank you!
This is fucking phenomenal Vic.
Wasn’t even half way down when i found myself nodding with agreement.
Perfect example of evergreen information. The wait from the last one was worth it.
What’s that saying?
As iron sharpens iron, so does one man sharpen another.
Well this B&D is your sharpening of men.
And we all [if we really want it] have to do the same.
Going to read this a few more times [especially regarding permission and confirmation, the things most people seek for when they’re asking advice]
KJV Proverbs 27:17, Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
Straight from the Word of God. Always good stuff. Amen.
~ Sincerely,
Bro. Jed
Bold & Determined is the only tab I have in my browser when I wake up. I have been checking it for the past two months, but alas with no success. I knew you were brewing something great if it’s taking you this long. Thank you for another banger article Victor. The fog is fading.
Love this piece brother.
I always feel that energy when I create because I know my standards and possibilities are ever-increasing. I always want more, and demand more of myself. This is truly the warrior energy out of King, Magician, Warrior, Lover.
The warrior never stops, and in his fullness, will push family and loved ones aside when necessary. However, at the right time, they can be incorporated back into the mix.
In the tunnel is where you’re made, and you’ve clearly completed that stage for what you’ve built. I’m excited to see what the next phase of Metamorphosis is for Victor Pride, living green & free.
Thank you for this
- Evan
Amazing, thank you.
Onwards, All.
I swear I can hear the ground shake when you release a new article.
Some of you reading this are in your 40’s, 50’s, even 60’s.
You are fantasizing about what if., and if only you were 20 years younger.
Stop fantasizing. You can still do it. Even with the chains and shackles of divorce, child support, debt, broken families and relationships, chronic illness and disease, lack of education…whatever you know your problems to be..you can do it.
I’ll bet you plan to wake up tomorrow.
I’ll bet you plan to wake up next week.
I’ll bet you plan to wake up next month, next year, and 5 years from now.
“..But I’ve wasted my life. Decades. I’ve ruined it. It’s over.”
As long as you think that way, you’re right.
Don’t waste the one commodity that every human being is given the same amount of every day: time.
The only difference between you and Victor Pride is how you spend your…
TIME.
Spend it wisely.
I have to go punch a time clock now, but I’ll be spending my day digesting this article and how to get away from that time clock… it’s a real clocksucker.
More later…
That took me ages to read, and I am up late at night now when I should be sleeping. There were some lines I had to read twice, but it was all poetry and wisdom, and it’s surprising how much Victor’s experiences relate to my experiences and, I’m sure, every other 9-5 slave out there.
This is literary art at its best. I’ve never read anything quite like it.
You fucking monster.
Absolute brilliance
I just started getting the crazy eyes largely due to the fire and immense sense of urgency your words convey. Although I didn’t hear anything you’ve said thank you for saying it.
I feel the fire blazing hotter ever second, all the nonsense I used to enjoy I can’t fucking stand.
Thanks eternally for figuring your shit out and putting in into words that allow me to figure my shit out.
Peace out Spartan
I love you.
Just kidding.
I fucking adore you.
Crazy eyes and deaf ears. For fuck’s sake. Why would I not notice?!
Thank you.
thank you for this post. That tunnel you speak of represents me and my wife / kids. I moved us out to SOcal to work in finance after graduating college in 2014. It’s me and my wife / kids and I’m in my tunnel trying to work my way to freedom. Even our families, all left in the dust on the east coast. I have no real close friends because there are not many 27 year olds with my mindset. I don’t drink or smoke, I’m just focused on becoming wealthy and giving my family the good life, working out is my only drug.
I want to trade the markets and have my own blog as well but I can’t leave cold turkey, need an egg first. I’m 27 and confident I will get there. We are very similar, I want freedom and know the corporate world isn’t for me long term. I live in the LA area would love to meet you sometime if you are in Santa Monica. My passion is the stock market and I’m confident I will do well blogging when I decide to start (not sure if I should because if employer found it wouldn’t be happy). This post was great, thanks again.
Also, I can’t believe how similar our mindsets are. I am confident you would be a good friend. Don’t worry about what anybody says, age doesn’t matter, the soul within that person is what matters. Be with her and don’t acknowledge the haters.
The fear of “if my employer found out”, should be a wake-up call in its self. See, you’re tied to a ball and chain. You’re in a prison. You should think of an exit plan as quickly as possible. If your plan doesnt work out as planned, then with the finance degree and work experience in the financial business, you’ll always be able to go get another job, if need be. Have you considered getting into personal wealth management? I mean having a cllient base made of individuals who need coaching and advice on how to manage their own money. If you’re good, then once you have a small client base, those will spread the word about you and , you can grow your business that way. If you love trading, you could coach others how to do the same. Maybe set up workshops, charge a couple of hundred bucks per attendee…bam you just made a couple of grand in one day.
Loved it… Wonderful, superb, phenomenal post.
VERY motivating to read. I would have shared it, but in “good conscious” I could not do it when GOD’S NAME was used IN VAIN (i.e. “god-mitt”, etc.) in the “attachment” of this article.
Maybe it’s just me and I don’t mean nothing personally against you, Mr. Vic and your writing. I just try to stay clear of the “cursing” and “swearing” since I’m a Christian. I kinda know and figure the “cursing” and “swearing’s” there to capture your voice and heart in your writing style. I can sense it man.
I’m just “abiding by Commandment” from where I stand. Hope no hard feelings.
Anyways, I enjoy your work and you’re quite an exceptional individual.
Besides being a Christian, I say we have a lot of common interests from life, health (e.g. “weight lifting”) and more…
Yeah, keep up the good work and hope all is going well for you in life currently. You’re quite busy.
I be checking here from time-to-time to see what new “good stuff” you got goin’; never disappoints.
Take care in life sir.
~ Sincerely,
Bro. Jed
You wanna know the negative part, the side effects of living life as a free person? You’re never free from the thoughts.
Once I saw this I stoped for a moment… thats deep af man. Really at this stage in life right now. You are right if you really want it you will find it.
Keep it up man !
To the game you stay a slave.
Mettalica.
This is the most important thing I have ever read. Thank you.
My eyes were ablaze when I first saw the fretboard…
a crowd gone mad in the flames…
4 years later, I walked on stage…
they were waiting…
Woah…one of the best pieces of writing I have ever come across.
Talk about some EPIC content marketing.
Love you Uncle Vic
one of the greatest articles I’ve ever read in my life
“Figure it out but for the love of God don’t tell me about it because I don’t care. It’s your plan.”
Sage advice, Victor. Others can give you gratifying feedback based on your visions, which can make you comfortable. Never be comfortable, only tell those closest to you who you trust will be brutally honest. Even then, don’t get carried away. The rest will see when the time is right.
What happened brother, you have changed!
Thank you so much for noticing.
Love seeing the passion that comes through in your posts. Ive started out in my own journey and the part you wrote about being a lone wolf really resonates with me.
Anyone thinking about making the jump into a new life, just do it. Thinking about it is scarier than the reality. When you have to do it you always find a way.
I’ve read pretty much every article on here, this is definitely the best one yet.
Good work. I like your text artwork. No more to say.
I cannot believe i just finished reading all those fragmented pieces of **** but it kind of really meant something :/ WEIRD!!!
I wanted to share this quick story especially for the younger guys out there who think their current struggles are the end of the world. I’m now 44 years old and been happily living life under my ‘own rules’ now for the past 8 years.
I wasn’t a nerd in high school but I also wasn’t Mr. Cool or super popular either. Instead I was just an average kid who got by with a quick wit and a sharp tongue. My problem back in those days had more to do with the fact I was on the small side during HS because I was younger than most guys in my grade and stayed that way until finally hitting puberty/growth spurt too late in HS.
It took some time but I finally got my shit together in life about age 27 or so and with the increase in my confidence came success with the ladies. By the time I hit my low 30’s I had dated my fair share of hot women especially being that I was living in a smaller town where the pickings can sometimes be slim.
One night during this time I was out at a local bar with with my GF at the time when this meathead guy that I knew from back in high school (a guy who had peaked in life at age 15) came up to me and said in a friendly but confused voice “How come every time I see you it seems like you have a hot piece of ass with you? I mean you were a nobody back in high school?”
That was probably the most satisfying thing in the world at that moment for me to hear from that clown. I will never forget how small that guy looked to me standing there (alone I might add), holding his bottled beer in his hand. I had a smirk on my face and looked right at hime and said “I hate to break it to you Jeff but we’re not in high school anymore buddy. Plus high school was a big joke anyways. I mean seriously what were we back in those days like 15,16 years old. I mean it’s not like anyone really cares about those couple of years from way back 15 years ago”
Now I knew that wasn’t the case at all for this guy as his whole reputation and thoughts were STILL wrapped into how things were back in HS. He was your typical HS tough guy who was only cool back in those days because he was a little bit bigger than everyone else. By this time in life he hadn’t amounted to shit because he was lazy. He had peaked in HS and was now 20-30 lbs overweight and working some half-ass construction job for some relative or something shady like that. I’m sure most here probably know a guy just like this in their life.
It was about that time that I started to realize that small town mentality that Jeff had was the entire reason I needed to get the hell out of there and a year or two later I did and I haven’t looked back since.
Anyways my point with all of this is though you may not be where you want to be in life right now, remember that today will soon become the past. If you aren’t progressing in life (all of us, me included) than you will eventually get passed by in life. Life is all about progress. Work hard at improving what’s important to you every day and the results will come.
Best of luck to all here!!!
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As certain as the Amen in church
this post kicked me in the face like fucking bruce lee
thanks for that!
Good article, I agree with a lot of it.
It is of the utmost importance to cut loose the dead bodies dragging you down. Toxic people don’t contribute anything to your life and it is better to get rid of them. Even if that means being alone.
Those who are meant to join you on your journey will find you, as you said. I agree though usually it does make sense to act proactively and build connections whenever possible.
Also starting a blog is a great decision for everyone. I recently started mine, with no real goals but merely for the sake of putting my thoughts down in writing. Learning by teaching is an excellent way.
In the course of doing so, you are sure to learn many different skills like a little programming, socializing, persistence and improve your writing as well as have a new hobby. Win/win.
Making a blog for the purpose of getting rich? I don’t know if that is the way to go though.
Best fucking article yet.
Victor,
Thank you for the nudge. I had plans to launch in April. I saw your post in my email for a few days and knew you said to read it at night, so I kept putting it off…just like I kept putting off my blog launch. As I read through about half of this post, I was thinking “Holy SHIT, this is a long post!” So, I scrolled to the bottom and read the P.S. I finished the article, and immediately afterward I finally signed up through BADnet. I appreciate what you do, the way you communicate and the quality of the content you put out. Also, it has been really awesome watching your metamorphosis. I look forward to experiencing my own.
Great article, thank you! ☺??
I like your emphasis on quality over quantity when it comes to relationships. Did you make those first connections through your site or in person?
When you’re ready to stop being a pussy, you will. Or you won’t. Regardless the world won’t stop turning to wait for you.
I wrote this awhile back,on a another article: January 21, 2014 at 11:00 pm
“What’s up Vic!, you don’t seem yourself like you used to be when I would regularly read you pristine content, I think your companion is softing you up you big teddy bear you. P.S I love you.” I notice a change then,and I notice it now as well.
Great stuff…the part about feeling like you don’t belong really hit home. I’ve always felt that way at every job, law school, etc…I’ve had one foot in and the other foot out for years now, and that’s never going to get me where I want to be. Thanks for the motivation
Just an Legendary Post. I have read your Blog in 3 Days in a row now, just for fun and to see you evolution. Damn it really seems you have knew you will be a powerful Butterfly. You made up really good Artwork. Thanks for beeing you and give us the opportunity to look up, see you flying and KNOW we have the power to do as well.
Three years ago this coming June, (June of 2013 to be exact) I found Bold and Determined. I immediately connected to Victor. I read all of his blog articles and connected with Vic super fast. He said and wrote the things I always knew to be absolutely true but could not relay it to the masses because what Vic talks about isn’t for the masses; its for ass kicking individuals like myself and many who read and follow Vic’s wisdom. I try to convey it to some of my male students and many grasp on to it like bees to honey because many young men in our US society have been disenfranchised due to all of that metro sexual male bull crap. Many are hungry for real man talk and instruction. It was Vic’s blog that truly inspired me to produce my own and to go forward and create a business. Thank you Vic. Even though we do not know each other personally, I consider you a kind friend. You have taught so many through your writings and you have hit home with me Big Time. Good Man. God Bless You Vic.
My man.
MANS MAIN FOCUS SHOULD BE ON BECOMING A GREAT FUCKER UNLESS OTHERWISE THE SPECIES WOULD’NT EXIST. ENDURE ON NATURE TO INCREASE THY ENERGY TO FUCK.
THANKS MAN
A conversation never lasts.
A blog post will hit the world nonstop.
One of your best articles Vic! I like your new writing style. It just feels like unfiltered pure wisdom.
I can really relate to all of this. It doesn’t matter if the other people are on your side or not. They don’t know your vision anyway. They don’t see what you see.
This is just so true.
Thank you for the great article man. You are one hell of an inspiration!
One of your longest and best pieces. I actually did not wanted it to end.
NEED MORE OXYGEN,
LETS ROLL
Thank you so much!
Thanks for this article, it nails it. I have many friends in their late 20’s to early 30’s…As a very fit guy of 61 who else can you hang out with if you still do activities like surfing, cycling and hiking? For the most part, my own generation are burned out wage slaves I can’t get off the couch., only a handful (all of them post divorce) have seen the light.
“If you related to the people at your job in the first place, then that’s where you belong.”
That’s the most comforting thing I’ve ever read.
This is one of the most awesome things i’ve read in a fuuuuucking while.
Thanks Vic.
I agree with this whole article.
I found it interesting though how you mentioned how many people in the US are stuck on the whole age issue.
As you mentioned the rest of the world doesn’t work that way.
I think a lot of it is related to the out of control feminism as a way to keep guys from dating much younger girls.
It is also related to consumerism in how all age groups are being marketed to believe that only the late teen/ early 20s age group is “cool”.
I know a top executive at a global marketing firm and she was explaining this trend to me recently.
Historically the mentor type relationship of young guys hanging out with older was more normal and dating was less bound by age as well.
I’m glad you noticed this too.
All the best,
D
Thank you, Vic. No excuses.
There will be a time that you would join me for drink in the Philippines, and you would tell me we have the same eyes.
Not now.. but it will happen..
and you will remember this.