or: How to go from Willy Wanker to Billy Badass in 1 Easy Step
(Note: I know there are more than a few guys at work who opened this blog, saw the title of this post, got extremely embarrassed and closed the browser as soon as possible. Sorry guys, but sometimes you gotta eat a little shit. If HR comes by to have a talk with you you can look the Devil in the eye and see what you've sold your soul to.)
We could be PC and pretend masturbating and internet porn don't exist, but they do. And there is a very big problem with internet porn. Internet porn is a succubus whore from Hell intent on draining you of your vital seed, your testosterone, your energy, and your desire to succeed and conquer.
Or, to put it mildly, masturbating to internet porn does not do a body good. Internet porn is like a drug addiciton. The access to endless variety of porn causes you to constantly search for the “perfect” scene. This leads to massive overstimulation of the brain, the overstimulation causes a dopamine (dope) release into the brain (your fix).
After you have an orgasm it's like coming down off a drug. After all that excitement, that endless stimuli for the brain, your body just shuts off and you turn into a lazy piece of shit. How many time have you been about to do something, decided to just have a “quick one”, and by the end 30 minutes later had no motivation to do anything? I already know the answer: a lot.
Here are 10 reasons to stop masturbating to internet porn:
1) Internet porn saps you of precious energy - When you give up the porn and the endless masturbation sessions you have a lot more energy and drive. You want to get out and take care of business. You want to make money, you want to hit the weights, and you want to go and talk to that cute little blonde in the cereal aisle - and you just may have blueballs enough to do it.
2) Internet porn can lead to erectile dysfunction - Keep at it and eventually you will only be aroused by internet porn. Right now guys in their TWENTIES and even guys in their TEENS are having trouble getting hard without porn. They have to keep finding more and more disgusting and outrageous porn scenes to satisfy their hunger. Eventually nothing will do it but seeing a naked black man buttfucking a dog. That's serious business. Keep up with the porn and it will happen to you too.
3) Internet porn will make you want to stop having sex - Why bother with sex when you have every fantasy in the world available at one of your hands? Japan is a notoriously porn friendly country. Japan is saturated with porn. In Japan there is an entire culture of young guys called “Herbivores”. These herbivores have no desire for sex. All this porn and now the guys don't want girls, they want sex with their hand, or sex with robots or nothing at all. Japan now has the lowest birthrate in the world. Can you see the connection?
4) After you stop masturbating to internet porn your voice may become deeper - Straight from the horses mouth, this is what guys who have stopped masturbating are saying happens.
5) After you stop masturbating to internet porn you will have more self control and will power - I'm telling you from personal experience you just plain feel better and stronger and more masculine. It's the opposite feeling after masturbating to internet porn.
6) After you stop masturbating to internet porn your Testosterone will rise - According to this article, Testosterone is slightly higher when abstaining from orgasm. And it does rise slightly during sexual activity—before dropping back down to normal. Having sex with a real life girl increases your testosterone while having sex with your hand and sitting in front of a computer with 5 different pages open decreases it. I don't need a science article to tell me that, I know it to be true from experience.
7) After you stop masturbating to internet porn you will become calmer, more rational, and less anxious - Again, straight from the horses mouth. Check out the link below to see all the positive results guys are getting.
8) You will become more attractive to women - Let's assess the situation. Who do you think women find more attractive?
A) Guys who spend their time in the dark, jacking off to endless streams of porn, finish after about an hour, take a nap, finally make it out in the sunlight (or not) and can't even look them in the eye.
Or B) Guys who don't spend their time playing with themselves for hours, are full of testosterone, not having spilled their precious seed twice that day, have a deeper voice, and have the ability to make eye contact. Easy answer.
9) You can stop getting viruses on your computer- Viruses are a pain in the ass and can sometimes take days to deal with. Most computer viruses come from porn. Eliminate the source, eliminate the virus.
10) If you can't believe me, then take the word of these gentlemen who beat their addiction to internet porn and reaped the benefits - There are 90 pages worth of positive results. I've only quoted from the first few pages:
- “I really like where I’m at now. I am so much calmer. I am losing my rage and anger which I am glad about. I have found out that the temper I had was linked to this addiction.”
- “Social anxiety was the problem I faced right from my childhood. (I was too much interested in science, unlike normal kids, so I always had a feeling that I was not “one of them.”) I experienced huge improvement in my confidence and selfassurance since cutting out porn. I have more energy now and I am exercising daily. (I never did before.) I now perceive myself as a self-assured, successful guy, rather than some introverted jerk.”
- “Daily exercise and porn abstinence really seem to help. I am enjoying my new lifestyle now. In contrast, after I started watching porn, my social anxiety was boosted.”
- “I've noticed the longer I stay away from porn that it's easier to talk to them [women], flirt and get into conversations.”
- “One week after quitting porn and masturbation I met a new girl, which even a month ago would have been unimaginable to me”.
- “Another thing is the extra attention I'm getting from the opposite sex. I've never really had a problem talking to girls and they've spoke to me in the past of course, but it’s incredible how often girls start random conversations with me now! At a recent wedding I went to, for example, there were few people on the dance floor and I decided to get up and have a dance with my aunties. Then all of a sudden I was surrounded by women who were all grabbing me and wanting to dance with me! I'll be honest; it felt good to have that attention!”
- “It’s amazing how much of a difference there is. I’m a lot less nervous, more coherent, confident, everything. It really does feel like my real personality can come out.”
- “The effect on my social life keeps getting better. I'm finding it really easy to talk to people, especially women. Someone made a comment to me the other day at my salsa class. Something like, “You like to talk to the ladies, don't you?” I didn't even notice because I was having so much fun but, when I think about it, he was right.”
- “[Later] I started doing push-ups at work with some of the guys. When I started out I was at like 15 push-ups, and I was struggling. Well today is the first time I have been able to do them with these guys since I have gone 60 days with just a couple orgasm/ejaculations. They were shocked at how many push ups I could do. They all commented on not seeing anyone increase from where I was at about 2 months ago to what I am at now. Today I did 200 (not all at one time ). Maybe not superman but a big improvement in a couple months.”
- “The other is the way I carry myself. I walk with more confidence. I feel better about myself. I do not feel like isolating myself as much as I did in the past. Well actually the longer I go without porn the more the desire to be with a woman is increasing.”
- “[Later] Today is day 50 without porn. My body has healed very well. NO ED problems or weak ejaculations like I suffered from just a few months ago. So giving up porn and fantasy and going without orgasm (mostly) for just this period of time has made big steps in healing the damage I had done to myself. I also learned that I have gone far enough that I can recover my peace of mind a little more easily after an ejaculation.”
- “When I do semen retention for 2 weeks, I notice these benefits: 1) Face looks radiant and energetic (I may get occasional double glances from girls in shopping mall or street) 2) Expression looks carefree (not struggling for more energy, or not worrying about negative stuff) More natural confidence without needing to adjust thoughts. 3) Voice gets deeper and more charming (This, strangely, makes both men and women like to talk with you.) 4) More positive thoughts (The negative thoughts that used to bother seem so minor and irrelevant - I can ‘get over' issues easier.) 5) More calm emotionally and easier to control myself 6) Exponential increase of stamina and physical energy/strength.”
Sounds like the guys quoted above had other social problems in addition to porn addiction, but even for the Average Joe quitting porn and masturbation has real benefits. Keep your precious seed for yourself. Don't give it away every few hours while taking the drug of internet porn.
Let the confidence and the testosterone build up inside of you instead of spilling it every day. And when you do give it away, give it to a girl and not a kleenex. Winners don't spend their time jacking off. Of this I am sure.
Try it for 30 days and see for yourself.
You may just like the results.
I know I do.
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More resources: http://yourbrainonporn.com/understanding_porn_addiction
I’m actually quite shocked that this post has no comments cos this happens to be the greatest post in internet history! Anyway, Victor I took your advice and i’m reading think and grow rich by napoleon hill-Greatest book of all time..this book should be compulsory for all teenage boys to read…and the best chapter is the one on sex transmutation…now I understand what michael Jackson meant when he always said that he cannot take credit for his music because they come from a “higher source.” He said that a million times..he probably used sex transmutaion (or drugs) to reach that “sixth sense” that the book talks about…and also,i guess thats why “great” artsts like lil wayne use weed and stuff in the studio…Anyway, I have a question about sex transmuttation..How exactly do you transmute your desire for sex? For example, If you want to embark on an edevour like writing a song or hittin the weights, do you get your girl to “turn you on” and then get to the endevour imediately? How exactly woild you turn the desire for sex into inspiration? Please explain..Thank you Victor..you changed my life mehn..
I’m not surprised this post has no comments. It’s an uncomfortable subject. Best way I can describe it is : Use all the energy you would use on sex gratification and use it for your business.
This post might help: https://boldanddeterminedarchive.com/2011/10/24/how-to-harness-your-sexual-energy/
So fired up to have found ur site victor bro…iv made ur site my homepage on my phone ;)
Anyways my questions - u might have read the epic your-brain-on-porn site
They advise to completely shut off all ‘bad’ thinking not even cheking out a girls ass n imagining her naked when rebooting..i find this unncecessary.
And can you stroke ur dick once ina while a little..or jst completely shun masturbation for a a long 60 days and no porn ever??
Also i’v read heard froma friend that 21 days or 3 weeks was the best maximun fapp abstain time..n wat about ejacualting to kaintain to avoid prostate cancee..isnt that a priboem cz f high testosteone??
Iv seen the benefits even when i ws edging almostr evey other day but abstained for 17 days ;)
Just gonna chime in here,
The ‘no masturbation’ stance is somewhat up for debate. ‘No Porn’ is not. It’s totally unnatural. It’s bad. So if you got to wank it, use your imagination. Stop watching porn and you won’t have to masturbate as much either. Porn causes you to get horny when you’re genuinely not horny or at least not really horny. And yes, they do find masturbation occurring in other primate species. However, curious george isn’t logging on to the computer to do it.
Here is a website to help with quitting porn.
Check it out please: http://www.rampout.com
Thanks!
Thanks for that good statement u posted..I am beginning with things like this..I really am glad im lookin up information about people who are able to share their opinions
Your going to masturbate as often as you always feel the urge, the urge doesn’t decrease just because you stop looking at naked women, in fact, it gets worse, until you force yourself to find something, then after you nearly fall out of your seat from the intense fix of lust, you want to cry your eyes out, because the woman wasn’t real, and you have no woman’s shoulder to rest your head upon.. WE wankers are not the problem, it’s women prefer to wag their tails on the internet, when they could be dating us, and getting the real deal, thus we’re helping each other out. But money etc is more important to them, than commitments and love.
WE don’t need to quit porn people! We are not the problem, PORN needs to QUIT US! Should we remove ourselves, because the gold diggers of social media, and the government wants to protect their monetary investment in women… and the portrayal of women as sex objects; Not to mention the fact that these women are doing these acts of their own free will; Noones pointing a gun to their heads forcing them to make themselves look the way they do. But I get so tired of posts that judge us for wacking off.. And I’m sick of these websites that say, “Stop jerking off, date a woman in your area right now! Just sign here on the doted line, and give us your credit card number.” Spending time in jail isn’t my ideal of fun anyway, or catching a sexually transmitted disease. I don’t sit there and look through streams of porn all day long… Porn is not an addiction, it’s disgusting… Anyone who does get off to watching that stuff, I’d have to question… Do you really enjoy watching another mans balls bounce against some womans crotch… That stuff doesn’t work for me, but I have to look through 45 minutes of that trash that wasn’t even part of my google search criteria, just to find 5 minutes of a video that I DID ask for.
I look for the “Nude Asian woman striptease”, or “Nude Asian erotic catwalk”, and by the time I find something, sometimes I get so frustrated looking, that’s where the anger comes from, …I spend so much time looking through trash ,that I’m no longer horny, just disgusted and utterly depressed at how many sick fucks there are on the internet that perform these acts.
goopra, don’t forget about wet dreams.
The alternative to masturbation is wet dreams. If you stop masturbating for a week to a month your mind will begin to produce wet dreams. You might have had them as a teen before you started masturbating. It is almost impossible to have wet dreams while masturbating.
In my opinion, masturbation cannot hold a candle to wet dreams. Dreams at night are so much more vivid and real. Even more interesting is that you get a glimpse into your subconscious. The subconscious and your sexual passions can teach you a lot about who you are and what you really need and desire. You get almost none of that from internet porn and masturbation.
It’s a challenge to get to where you have wet dreams. And you will usually have anywhere from one to maybe three a week. The number can be a challenge to get accustomed to if you are on a regular or daily masturbation cycle. But if you agree with what Victor has wrote in his article then you know there are benefits to having sexual aggression from being a little sex deprived.
Don’t sell wet dreams short. Masturbation is not the only way to clean the pipes. Your subconscious mind will do it for you with dreams that would not be possible any other way.
Thanks Victor for the article and for the subject matter.
If you would like more information about quitting porn and masturbation may I be so bold as to recommend my website:
http://rampout.com
soon to be:
http://AdiosPorn.com
I agree. I used to get them about once a fortnight, or about 20 times a year between 14 and 16. I NEVER masturbated until 16. I have had 1 wet dream since I have started masturbating, but the reason I started is convoluted. I went on a drug called Accutane, developed ED, quit, and FINALLY managed to get an erection, then my first, and since then I havn’t really stopped. However, I do use my imagination 80% of the time, so hopefully that helps :)
Best lines:
” Even more interesting is that you get a glimpse into your subconscious. The subconscious and your sexual passions can teach you a lot about who you are and what you really need and desire. “
The best way is to keep your self busy.
any ways i heard real sex can get u off wanting sex too much for up to two years.
If we were getting sex, we wouldn’t be wanking would we… man some of these comments in themselves piss me off.. Some guys feel they have to make every other wanker look like crap, in order to draw women to their “just” cause. Its been said, that if we stop wanking, that we’ll feel calmer and more relaxed, but its the fact that we were not calm and relaxed to begin with, because your so horny you can’t even think straight, that you have to spend 45 minutes to an hour just to find a 5 second fix, and the anger comes not because your having to jerk off, but because you have to spend so much time looking at disgusting crap, that would turn a dogs stomach.
thank you for saying that some people just don’t get it
If you are so horny you can’t think straight you should be able to get off without porn. If you are that horny and need porn to get off it means your brain is used to all that disgusting crap. Quitting porn and not masturbating twice a day does calm you down, after a while. You won’t be so horny because you won’t need your ‘fix’ as you are no longer addicted, while at the same time your actual sex drive (not porn drive) will increase. If you find porn disgusting then you should really quit.
”after a while. You won’t be so horny” and ”your actual sex drive (not porn drive) will increase”
you will be less horny but your sex drive will increase… yeah right.
sex drive is sex drive, the difference is that if you NEED porn to fulfill the urge you are just fucked up in the head. when you are not addicted to porn you will be more horny because normal women anywhere will turn you on. well that’s me.
My urologist told mr that a man should ejaculate 3 times a week for prostate health , what are Your thoughts on this? I am 50 and can and have kept this practice up for years wether it’s 3 times with a woman or 1 woman and 2 me or any combination. My father had prostate cancer at 40, I am good so far. What are your thoughts on that?
wait wait wait buddy, I’m gonna stop you right there… Michael Jackson didn’t need drug to write a song… and If it’s about “Higher Source”… He danced, he has lived and faced situations that gave him those feelings.. enough to write a song, the feelings that he had about his childhood… like when his father used to beat him with a leather belt or the time when he looked at poor lives and wars.. he sang Man In The Mirror,Heal The World, What more can I give… and you just labeled him as a ” drug addict”, do your homework before you say something. I know this post is not about Michael Jackson, drugs and I know my comment shouldn’t be here but when it comes to my idol I break the rules. sorry to bust your bubble but he was a pure and honest man. everything he said was true about the situations he had been through. I DON’T care if other singers do drugs but I can assure you that I believe in Michael Jackson with every single breath that he’s never taken drugs. He loved the world, he loved people, he loved children and what did he get in return… lies, allegations, horrible names and people call him even today. Goddamn it wrote songs to open your eyes and tell you about Illuminati but I guess some people just don’t open their eyes to see the truth and realize it.
“If you wanna the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make that change”
Amen.
Good post Victor. My friends and I have something called the 7 day challenge, where we (try to) abstain from masturbation for 1 week. Sex is allowed just not with palmela handerson. For those without girlfriend’s it is difficult in our hyper-sexualized world, but the results are striking. I noticed a significant uptick either real or perceived in my life when I lifted heavy everyday, did not masturbate (still had sex), cut out marijuana, and limited my alcohol intake. I received comments from close friends about my aggression level increasing and I actually liked it. Keep up the great work man.
Boom. Excellent work. And you’re right, for this to work best it’s best to have a girlfriend.
Got to say I thought this was bullshit when i first read it then started thinking thats what an addict would say. so I decided to go for an in her or on her rule with my wife. It been about a month and I can say that it is Def not bs. I have seen a major change in my wife’s repose to my advances (lot more sex and BJ’s). And my response to her rejection which are now rare. I also noticed my adhd has improved and my nervous leg shaking has gone away. I also started working on my body language which has also helped I think.
Do you have any articles on alpha body language? I find that my change in bl have also affected my mood and productivity at work as well as getting repossession from random women smiling at me or starting conversation out of the blue which never happen to me before.
Abstaining from masturbation and having high levels of testosterone raises your natural pheromone level hugely. (Pheromone is the sexual attraction chemical. Having high levels of it makes you tons more sexually attractive to women.)
What a load of crap… You telling me if some ugly fat chic with high levels of pheromones knocked on your door, you’d hit that? There has to be some kind of attraction there to begin with, cause pheromones alone ain’t gonna cut it…
True, I am on day 21 and women are looking at me different, especially the older ones, they are fucking giving me triple takes! I guess that can sense it better
Great article! i have just recently started to read about this subject. It’s time to give up porn for good! Take care.
Good post Dan, I always tell myself “that’s it”, every time I blow my goo, but the second you get horny, your doing that google search for “nude erotic Asian catwalk (without the ball sacks, if that’s not too much to ask for)”
No, only weak people do that. As you have seen, many people can quit porn - with willpower. Try it sometime.
Awesome bro, really good read, after a week and a few days, i feel prety awesome, less stress, less anxiety, energy. Your page seems to make this touchy subject alot easier to talk about, unlike other pages i have read, where it makes you feel like a complete head case. I myself laughed when i relised why i was having poblems and it turned out to be to much porn..
So cheers.
Is it normal to make gains in the weight room like a beginner again when you no longer jack it?
only one way to find out.
Victor, fucken oath bro porn destroys you both mentally and physically. I just finished 30 days without and feel fantastic. Hitting the weights with a vengeance, slamming them raw steaks and truly feel like a man.
Today is my cheat day, I’ve just ate like a pig, had a cigarette and jacked off to redtube. I feel dirty. I don’t want to feel like this. Did I just damage everything? The ONLY option is to never do it again, but how far will i have sent myself back?
You Are Very right Author. I actually got myself here by googling “How Can I Stop Masturbation” .
To be candid, every comment i have read regarding people’s experiences about Porn and Masturbation has outrightly explained my predicaments.
I started at a very tender age of 16yrs (2003). Have made so many promises to stop this evil act but have failed as twice as the number of times i have made such promises.
Now thank God that people can now discuss this openly. Though have read many articles on masturbation, the good and the bad side of it, but always ashamed to make comments.
I think, it’s time to take my destiny in my hands and choose a brighter future over a mere crazy act that makes you feel good and disgusted at the same time. It’s not worth it!
The fact that I’m making this comment openly, I believe is a sure way of getting myself out of this mess completely by God’s grace.
I just hate what it feels like after every single act and i believe it’s thesame for other victims too.
I must confess to you all that Masturbation is a Destiny killer, a confusionist (makes you loose focus) , a robber(robbs you off your potentials), future destroyer, an energy sapper, a brain drainer, and a great deciet.
The choice is yours!
Despise all medical benefits of it TODAY, or you’l keep going in cirlcles cos they’l make you feel worst than your problem.
All it brings is bitterness, shame, laziness, and above all makes you an enemy to your Creator.
The cure for masturbation is mind-oriented.
Stop to think it and you’l get over it.’Cos whatever can get your mind, has eventually gotten you.
Once again, a Big thank you to the Initiator of the Article/blog/page. And to all who have positively contributed.
You’ve really ushered someone into a newness of life. And that’s me!
God bless you all!
I got here by googling ‘why should I stop mastubating’
I got here too through Google…”is it okay to masturbate without porn.” Great posts, but I can’t stop the masturbation.
My confidence as a male was killed, i didn’t understand why nothing greater happened to me. i have looks, brain and body and cool friends but i never pulled my life together. Finally i read your article, tried and notice difference, then share this with my brother and friends, they said that it cant be true. i felt down to the rabbit hole again and now finally stopped watching it and stop jerking to. Now my brain is still fucked up but i also approach and try to fuck pussy where i see one, i just try to talk to them and you know - get it clear that i want to fuck her. now i feel little pushed to do so, now i go to talk to hot chicks.
since my friends don’t think that porn can fuck up your success’s with woman and business/work results i will keep that change for myself for more 3 months.
I want to compare how much girls i have bring to my home, and how well i do in other sectors of life with them, i know they use some some porn.
after i quit porn i learned how to excite pussy, i have learned a lot just by
going near them and talking to them and try to fuck them.
quitting porn is like quitting smoke, from my friends i quit second and then long time later others stopped smoking to. also im really proud that i have learned to use money like a king, i don’t waste money, i organize how i use it and then i have enough money to enjoy it all month. i can go out with people and eat well at home, and keep some for next month. procrastination is still my big problem, as i see it by the time that i become enough responsible to do important tasks in interestingly short time i will be to old and my achievement level is to low, i would be to mediocre for valuable woman.
You know why they want you to stop wanking? Because you probably use Adblock Plus just like me, and they can’t make money if your not clicking on those stupid links that redirect you to one disgusting site after the next… It’s amazing how many times I do a google search for “Asian erotic catwalk” only to be given the most disgusting results I didn’t even ask for, most of them not even Asian…
Perhaps they should put stricter things in place regarding the misuse of meta-tags, so that you can actually get the results your looking for, without having to spend 45 minutes to an hour looking through crap that makes you want to vomit. We are not the problem, my friend, THEY are, while I commend you not wanting to jerk off, because your a Christian, I’m the same way, not as committed as I should be, but God’s not exactly dropping a Christian wife in my area, and with everything on the internet tempting you, till your so horny you have to yank yourself out of your computer chair in utter frustration, because women want to be sluts now days, and finding a girlfriend, or wife, is next to impossible now days.
Like all things, pick yourself up and keep charging up the hill. Semper Fi! Lose a battle now and then but win the war you will!
My previous post is also in this cluster of comments.
My productivity is great now, i have no procrastination and i do greater things than before, i found out that i had lost my ability to fantasizes about real girls, without this ability i had low motivation to activity build my life, to conquered new heights. I can tell that my brother uses internet porn as tool to “calm” himself but i see differences clearly, hes weaker than i am, i can decided when i want he is procrastinating. He fooled me first into this looser habit, i cant believe that i fell for it. If you want out then take the 90 day experiment and keep a log-file in ya pc. You will see how you heal - I promise you this.
Educate yourself ! Educate yourself ! Educate yourself !
You need to debate yourself and your environment - use 90 day no fab and http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ as your tools, read everything that written there. Please listen: i relapsed twice on 20 day range but i keep going i learn about my addictive self-talk and other factors that kills my strike. There is app for no fab !
My brain is still looking stimulation weird places but also from right places, i don’t know for sure when i started but maybe it was 11 and at 15 i got my own laptop(study purpose) :D . God i´m not lazy i studied hard and i got skill but i had problem with my frontal-lobe i could not live normally. i was selfish, friends weren’t that important and from one moment i could not get pussy and thats funny because i look very good and am trained having great body and so forth. i went 10 times a day with porn-no problem o, weaker days it was 4 times but that was when i weren’t using it. I started to watch to creepy stuff 5 years ago. Now, on my no-fab process I still chat with chicks on tinder and when i see one i go and talk some and its true what they say that girls like you more, my bet is that since i feel good and pushed to talk to them they i present myself well ?
I alwase have had same chief purpose in life, same goals i would be living them now if i didn’t ruin my attention ability and drive to succeed with porn. Tony and Napolion materials weren’t new to me, i found that early age and have 3 notebooks filled with study. :D
There is a lot of bad information that supports that problem growth in our society, fck them educate yourself and you see the change in your life, i keep going and after 6 months i will post a final reply.
my plan is to get free from masturbation itself, i want it to be a alien word and alien process for me. Victor Blog is great source for all kind of material.
Victor is right in that there are a number of recent studies showing a positive correlation between habitual online porn usage and erectile problems. I would never tell anyone to just quit masturbating, since it’s healthy to take care of yourself every now and again. The real problem is the availability - at a literal click of a mouse - of all sorts of sexually stimulating images online that is the problem. It desensitizes you to the point that you can’t get turned on by a real like naked woman in your bed. It’s a new issue unique to the Internet age and this generation of twenty-somethings and thirty-somethings.
I do have to add something, though. A few commenters on this post sound like they have a great level of sexual frustration and anger towards women in general because they’re not getting the attention from women that they think they deserve. I’d like to tell those guys that women are not to blame for your problems. Women are people just like you and are entitled to having sex with whomever they want to, even if that person isn’t you. They’re also entitled to wear what they want and behave in any manner they want without being labeled as “sluts.” Look at your own behavior around women and therein you’ll find the answer to why you’re not getting laid. Just act normal around them and you’ll be surprised at the results. By normal I don’t mean “be yourself” because maybe yourself is shitty. Just be relaxed and talk to girls the way you talk to your guy friends.
Day 30, I don’t miss it now, I’m trying to go 90 days without an orgasm, but the way things are going especially with the confidence boost,the chi boost as well as the vastly lowered social anxiety. I don’t really think the girls are going to let that happen. Give up masturbation and porn and see the benefits.
oky ladys and gentelman.
I had massive addiction to porn and it had overtaken my time my life, my sexualty was other than
normal. i really tried to end my life seral times but luckly Vic her does a good job keeping thing
simple and staight forward - thanks
if had used hardcore stuff for 9 years, now i am almost normal arousal are again only on pussy.
i used software that blocks all porn materials and for facebook i just avoid looking to long time.
i educated myself on that topic and that was the key of my success. if i didn’t find that information
i would had ended my life.
i have zero girl problem, it more than easy to get girls, brothers you might need to rewire your
brain for real people, i took some salsa classes and hanged out with my feemale friends for
20 times and that was all it took to rewire my brain that harm i had done over long years.
now i don’t like to yerk off much, i dont get anything from it, its better to be horny and get shit done.
i rather gift my energie and self for a girl that some fucking hand. i dont masturbate and its not a will
thing.
If i want to give me a hand i will but without fucking porn. That’s the main idea to know that going without a porn monster does no harm or so quess. i like to give comon sence round every idea
that might be important. Mastrubation does relax and can be a key tool in stress situations but one
should or must know when to to stop and what type of shit they are thiking about while they do it.
i got very bad taste for my mouth from porn manytimes, i dint enjoy it.
so i got out from hell so can you brother’s and sisters lets kill the idea porn and give hand to our fantasy instead ;)
this reboot nation dude, i live still because of his openness and help.
thank you for everyone who takes this post seriously.
Going days without masturbation and I’m finding my body miraculously looks better. Either I’ve got more energy for training or my body’s just building muscle and burning fat quicker. Either way I look fucking great.
What a great article! By the way , What a fucking
comment!
ha ha.
I must say, your article is spot on. VERY spot on. I’ve lasted as long as 10 days last year, and most recently I managed to last 9 days, and both those times I felt postive differences. Only now, I don’t deny that spending too much time on the porn is very bad for you in so many ways. I’d been trying to abstain for a month now, I relapsed at least 15 times in a total of 6 days that time, it’d take about 2-3 days before each relapse, and 9 days was the longest I lasted this time, and now I’m trying not to look at any form of nude pics at all, especially since I’ve seen better changes just tapering off porn. Yeah, if I was still addicted, I’d find this embarassing, but at least now I’m honest about it, and yes, I’m a weight lifter and I got even stronger, and have more muscle tone since I’ve decided to quit. I’m even reducing my caffeine intake, because I have more energy naturally! If this article inspires me to commit to abstinence from porn, it should inspire everybody else. And I shall say this, “Never get hooked on porn.. EVER.” Awesome article, once again, thanks for the inspiration.
And by relapsing 15 times, I meant, jacking off to porn 15 times… Even if you’re horny, that doesn’t give you the right to look at porn, or you can go back to your old habit… And again, I don’t know why a lot of people are embarassed about this. It only makes quitting porn more difficult. Cheers.
thats why Islam strictly forbids the waste of seminal fluid through masturbation, i really liked ur article, thank u :)
Nobody needs an arcane set of beliefs from a thousand years ago to tell them what to do with their own bodies. That goes for other religions too, not just Islam.
Yes u are right…we can see the negative effects of masturbation
I’m a webmaster myself. I have to say wow, what an interesting article. I will have to try it and report back…. Thanks for posting this article.
I have no idea how I manage to beat off every single day, and yet I have sold a series of websites in the low six figures!
But anyways - I’m going to give this a try and maybe my income will skyrocket
(I’ve achieved #1 on google for very competitive keywords)
feel free to drop me an email
Hi how did you achieve #1 on google?
Exellent article! I’ll give it a try! It’s time to become a REAL man!!
As someone said this is the greatest article on porn’s disadvantages in the history of the internet.Really man.I usually don’t reply to any site but this gem of a post has forced me to do so.I will have to control this habit of mine.Thnx so much dude.
Yes!! Love this shit…Nice job. I would like to post this on my blog at compulsionsolutions.com and share with your readers with your permission Porn Zombie, a article I wrote about my life. http://compulsionsolutions.com/blog/confessions-of-a-porn-zombie-by-kevin-behan-of-compulsion-solutions/ Thanks Victor.
Hey guys. Long time no see. I’ve relapsed many times since I started, but more recently I’ve only been masturbating without porn, since porn is no longer my problem. Good news is, I don’t even masturbate daily. I learned from my relapses and every aspect of my life is getting better, including my level of confidence and attractiveness. I’m day 44 having not masturbated to porn, and it’s going to keep getting better. I’m living proof Internet porn addiction can be overcome! Don’t give up! Take care.
Hi my name is Andrew and i have been masturbating since i was 12+ and now im 16+ i do it 2-3 times a day an i found out that watching porn & jacking off really mess up your mind , brains and your body from doing so you have a very low aura giving off and females would’nt talk to you or you will have a really low conversation with with both females & males. Even if you stop for a 3 days you still be remembering the porn you watch damnnn !!!! But im glad i find this site thank you and im seeing some improvements since i stop from December the 20 to now.
Im now enjoying my life normal and would’nt have to be afraid of talking to a real girl or she wants to talk with me.
That helps I got to thirty five days last month and now im no longer blindly addicted I used to abstain from masturbation 4 years ago and I was getting advances from women and I am 28 now and feel like my life is much better. I suffer with anxiety and the longer I stay away from porn the easier it is to control it thankyou.
Dude yes, no porn habit and soon it got easy to not yeark off. its not important i rather stay horny and do what i must instead.
I quit porn 6 months ago and now i dont even mastrubate often, masturbation makes you weaker and gives nothing in return.
Now i been clean almost 4 weeks again, i consciously avoid and girls are actually come to part of my life again.t
if you do it your a looser i think, i wish i never started.
Wow, after i stopped jacking off to porn i was amazed at the results. I was walking home one day and i got attacked by a grizzly bear. I then proceeded to rip out its jugular with my teeth and then took it home for super to my harem of insanely hot ladies. if it weren’t not looking at porn, I’d never achieve this level of greatness. Now excuse me, i have to go kill a shark with my bear hands… heh, get it? bear hands.
Cool story…….
Real men admit they have a problem and do something about it.
High school boys blush and poke fun.
Truth brother
Very well said, bro.
Hahahaha. Good one. Yeah thats what those crazy guys think. They think if they dont masturbate then they become more strong, get bettet work and money and they think suddenly because they dont masturbate then their face look better or more attractive and suddenly all the girls will talk to them. Lol
Wrong. They KNOW because they have done it..
Bullshit!!
I love your website full of great information , all the best
Dave from Scotland UK
Porn is pointless, it screws up your mind and is addictive, it will leave you exhausted mentally and physically, it is like a drug, once you use you will feel bad and disgusted with yourself, it can cause problems with your erection, its time to stop using porn and join the real world, you will have more energy feel good about yourself and become a real man, be strong and determined!
True story it really happens.
Just love the no BS approach this writer takes to assessing and advising the whipped emasculated modern day emo-man. It’s time to be men again boys. I am 2 months porn free and there are changes happening. I’m starting to man up in various areas and not everyone is happy about it (especially my boss) but he’s got me confused with someone who gives a sh!t. Those skinny Russian porn skanks can have someone drive a train up their @$$ for all I care - I don’t have to watch them anymore. They don’t own me. The only thing people should be shoving in their skinny faces is a hot meal. I am done with porn. It’s a lie and it ruins your sex life and your life in general. If you get depressed like I did after you quit try exercise, sleeping enough and eating properly at meal time: lean meat, vegetable and pasta, rice or potatoes. Fad diets ARE for women! Atkins? He died didn’t he? Don’t eat anything with SOY it raises ESTROGEN and will inflate those man boobs even more. Ever wonder why all vegans are either chicks or gay men? Do the math. Being a man is harder, but living like a woman is better? Fuhgedaboudit. I’m outta here.
Hahahahah, the line about the Russian porn skanks made my day.
Northern Guy, your points are well-taken, except for one - and you are of course welcome to your opinion. I’m married and a vegan since my early 40’s. Have a pretty successful business also. So, no, I’m not gay or a chick. Just posting this so that, if any other guys reading this are considering a vegan or vegetarian nutrition, they’re not thrown off by your clueless generalization, i.e., vegan = gay or a chick. And no, I don’t begrudge anyone who eats meat, although if you do, you may want to spend the extra money and get organic grass-fed steaks that aren’t pumped full of antibiotics, bGH, and pesticides and GMO’s from the sh*t they’re fed.
Constitution is absolutely correct!! Vegan is the best diet for your body, including its virility. Many NFL players are on a plant-based diet. And PLEASE, don’t generalize, and call other men pussies, gay, weak….remember, Adam and Eve were Vegans and from them sprang the population of the world. It’s masculine not to eat the crap inside of meat.
“….remember, Adam and Eve were Vegans and from them sprang the population of the world.”
For clarity, from Adam and Eve sprang a population so fucked up that God chose 8 survivors (Noah and his family), and wiped out every single one of the rest of the worlds population.
Yep.
40 days and 40 nights of rain and drowned them all(-8).
Every single one.
“In the beginning…” is NOT where WE started.
”Adam and Eve were Vegans and from them sprang the population of the world.”
yeah… like that was meant to be taken literaly…
”It’s masculine not to eat the crap inside of meat.”
I eat animals’ organs and find it really cool. makes me strong as fuark.
Adam and Eve was a folk story and didn’t happen any moreso than ninja turtles. How can you possibly bring up something like that and expect to be taken seriously?
Victor Pride,
Forty six here.
Just like to know your opinion on what Northern Guy said ” Don’t eat anything with SOY it raises ESTROGEN and will inflate those man boobs even more….. ”
Also, it’s not the first time I heard this about soy ……
Some reputed weight-loss programs also comprise of lots of soy….
What do you think & recommend for men ?
Thanks Victor.
Yes, avoiding soy is a good idea.
Good reply Man, I will definitely take your advice. I was just like you, those skinny pretty face Russian porn Bitches had me nuts, they are so fucking nasty, there is no way a man could fuck a women in the ass like that in real life sex, all it is is cocaine for your eyes and brain, I am looking for real women with real pussy now to get my pleasure principles. 10 days Clean as of pmo .. today, stay strong dude…thanks…
You man up now, especially to ur boss and he is not happy about it. Lol
lets see when ur boos and co workers get tired of u and u get fired from ur work. Lets see then how much man u are then.
Im sure its not because u become more a man from not masturbating. Its because when u dont masturbate for long time then u get easier irritated because u didnt get it out from ur body whats inside u.
but u dumb people on this site u think ur so smart.
If people want to masturbate a lot let them do. Nothing dangerous about it.
and if people want not to masturbate for 1 week or 2 weeks or 1 month or 2 months let them do that.
you dont need to make a big story and deal about this.
i dont believe u become more strong from not madturbating and other things he write in this blog/site.
i lift the same weight if i masturbate or dont masturbate.
yes sometimes its nice not to masturbate for 1 week or more, especially when u have a girlfriend and want to save more energy to have sex with her.
But other times its nice to masturbate more often. Especially when u dlnt have a girlfriend. And it also makes ur mind relax more and its actually good against depression and other things.
if u dont masturbate for long time u can feel more depressed or sometimes difficult to fall asleep and u also have more hot temper and sometimes u will be more desperate and more pushy talking to girls if u feel to hot because u didnt masturbate for too long time.
Is it okay to masturbate everyday, but not watching any porn? I’ve given up porn, but still like to jack off at least once every 24 hours. It makes me less horny and more focused. Is this fine?
It’s fine.
But, what about not spilling our precious seed?
Buddy the whole point of not using internet is to not program your mind to only be stimulated by porn. In others words jerking off to porn will desensitize you to other stimuli in your life, including real women. Spilling your seed just makes it worse. Ya get it now?
Doesn’t masturbating frequently lower testosterone levels?
When I do not masturbate for a while I feel more aggressive and confident. When I masturbate, I feel weak. Isn’t all that related to testosterone levels.
… fine? For real? Victor, are YOU seriously saying that masturbating is fine???
For the longest time I used to think that too. I used to think that masturbation was “natural and healthy”, that it’s a normal part of human sexuality, that masturbation is under-appreciated even. Then I did some more research on the topic, found places like the NoFap subreddit and this article on Major League Dating (bit.ly/1qT13lY), and compared what I read with my actual sexual experiences… and came to the following conclusion:
Masturbation is NOT healthy. It produces erectile dysfunction. Assuming you don’t use porn in any way, masturbation makes it so that you only get excited by:your imagination (I call that your “mental porn”) while you stroke your dick with your death-gripping, stroking hand.
Masturbation desensitizes you. It makes it so that the insides of a woman’s vagina doesn’t stimulate you nearly as much as your own freaking hand. And it makes it so that actually seeing and feeling your naked partner isn’t nearly as exciting as imagining a naked woman.
Victor, I cannot get myself to imagine you as somebody who masturbates, under any circumstance. To me, if you really have the urge to have sex, you get it on with your girlfriend and that’s it. I could be wrong, but to me, you are a man who would say something like “Masturbation is for losers who cannot get laid.” That’s what I thought when I was a teenager. For a decade I thought that was wrong. Nowadays, I’m starting to think I was actually right.
I’d love to see you write an article about this… even if you actually think masturbation is healthy somehow, or in moderation or something like that (I really doubt you think like that… but heh, what do I know.)
Love the blog Victor. You rock!
In the long run, it’s even better if you stop masturbating altogether! You definitely gain in self-control and boldness. Coz you don’t have your hand to help you out, you go out and face the world/girls.
That’s my personal experience.
nice piece of advice ..:D
That’s makes sense because teenagers who cannot have sex can totally do that.
I’d say its still pretty fucked to even masturbate, you have no will power to defeat your addiction. If you cannot overcome this then you will not be able to overcome any other challenge in your life therefore you will not be a strong man period.
Porn absolutely clouds your brain and drains time and energy away from life! I used to be a porn fanac, but now am totally free and clear for almost two months! Even the last time I looked at it, the frequency had gone down to several weeks at a time in between. Now no more! I know it will take time for the neural synapses to completely regrow with the new porn-free wiring. After all, it was years of porno from a young age constantly in front of me, it didn’t happen overnight and it takes time to completely heal. But it feels great when things are improving. Guys, just take the steps and stop looking at it!
Hey, I’m in the same boat. I made a commitment on stickK.com to go completely cold turkey on porn for one year. I’ve been looking at suggestive images, but even that has vastly diminished.
I would be lying if I said I don’t miss it though, but I guess that’s a common withdrawal symptom.
I should add, I’m in my 8th week right now of a porn-free life, 5th week of no masturbation.
Hang in there Alvaro it’s tough I know I have withdrawn for now close to 3 weeks but I have read before eventually the addiction will stop it just takes some time, u should be proud of yourself for making it as far u have but don’t get too cocky lol! Just get sleep at night properly because that is the most difficult time at least for me since I don’t always fall a sleep easily so I get bored and think about turning on my laptop but now I have been able to either sleep or watch an inspiring film or listen to motivational music. I believe I will beat this thing no wait not beat it but STOP IT! I always think about the countless hours of looking for porn what a waste of time I’m better than that and I know all u guys are too. Thanks everybody I suddenly feel like I have some support here and am not alone.
When you decide to STOP. You don’t need to count! Just like when you decide to walk to a destination you do not count how many steps you travel, you just GO. Keeping count already implies you will start again.
Facebook and Youtube are more addictive than any porn anyway. :P
I’m so inspired and motivated by you all guys……
Here is the support which I need,,,,,,
After reading this page and all comments, I got the solution of all my problems like anixity and depression and seriousness…….and solution is simple,,,, but I know controlling our own hand is like hell, espicially when we are alone….
First of all I have deleted each n every seducing pictures and xvideos…….and no more porn…
And from now I won’t make my self a fool.,,,.,
GOD BLESS YOU ALL FRIENDS!!..
Thanks a lot
Vish
Haha love the not getting virus argument. Is hiv better than a trojan ;-)
This is excellent advice. I’ve personally seen excellent results by stopping the porn. More sex drive. More willpower. Happier girlfriend.
Victor, I have a Woman’s Relationship Advice blog that I just recently started. I’m going to link this to my readers so they can tell their men to stop the masturbation and porn. If I can do something to help out the rampant man-children sickness the world has come down with these days, I will.
Thanks,
Chris
Ladies Should Know
What I get from this and the related comments is your suggesting us to one stop watching porn which I can see the benefits of but also to stop masturbating?
The problem i have with that is alot of doctors actually say its healthy to masturbate and encourage you to do so saying things like how it relieves stress and helps you concentrate more etc.
I myself have had times of no masturbation that can last up to a few months but every now and again fall back into it and tbh do it too much when i do but still. I kinda agree with the porn thing and can see its affects but should we really stop masturbating all together especially when doctors say we should do it?
Im kinda expecting some comments to this if people see it so please try and keep to constructive stuff and also not to start anything like oh its a conspiricy blah blah blah. Thanks
Short answer: Quit porn.
I need help
Holy s#it I think my voice has actually gotten deeper since stopping porn for a few months now, my girl even noticed, maybe I’m just more relaxed now. Great article, this has improved my life a lot. Less social anxiety, better sex, better at flirting with random girls, more confident, hornier, more motivated… the list could go on!!
Well I usually fail after a few days, but this time I’m hitting the weights consistently as compared to my before BS of on and off weight training. Anyway, a few days of no jerking it to porn and I’m already feeling more relaxed, euphoric, and big one: confident! I can make much more eye contact and hold it longer, and I’m already quite vocal, but even more so now.
I love it. I’m hornier and happier as well.
Another tip to add to the powerful feeling of not jerking: Of course eat healthy etc, but drinking coffee is actually more effective when you’re not “jerked out” and you just feel a strong constant flow of energy that really pushes you to lift more and heavier. Good stuff. The science behind this is that the caffeine in coffee (coffee usually contains natural caffeine so it’s better for you) releases more dopamine in the brain therefore making you more focused and alert, and if you’re scatter-brained like I am, calm and collected.
I’m gonna try to hit the 30 day mark. If I feel AWESOME, I will vow to cut off jack-u-lation forever
No offense, but its not really the denial of porn or jacking off that is causing the effects. In general, discipline has the effect of increasing confidence and physical vitality…its the new mental state you have created for yourself that is truly beneficial, and believe me, there will come a time when sexual self-denial won’t make you feel any happier than being a porn addict did.
I have to agree whole heartedly. The actual truth is that over sexing with women is just as beneficial/hurtful as over masturbation. There is something to be said for regular ejaculation and stimulation. Regular- is not the same as Over doing it. I’m not discouraging anyone to keep to their convictions, but truth about these matters have to be focused on, far more than speculations.
Part of what you said is right. But, you have to keep in mind that masturbation is not natural. Nowadays, teenagers think that it is, but the truth is that masturbation is relatively a modern thing, well at least masturbation and porn. The access of porn to the general population has caused a massive development of sexual problems. If our ancestors masturbated, it was with complete use of imagination and without porn over-stimulation. Now, just turn the PC and you have an endless porn stream; totally not natural. I have learned that I’d rather waste my energy on the chase (going after the girls) than to sit in front of the computer and masturbate. It is well known that if you keep masturbating, you deplete your body of nutrients, causing fatigue and exhaustion. You don’t need a phD to understand that. It is common sense, but it doesn’t sink in immediately.
Consistent masturbator since 1999. I’m one of those guys you can look at and just see the damage I’ve done to my body. Two weeks now both porn/fap free: energy, stamina, motivation. Downside: anger, irritability, erections every hour, and I see and hear sexual in everywhere/everything. I’ve read this is supposed to wear off after a few months…can’t wait.
I faced the same problem bro, try lifting weights or working out intensely every morning before interacting with people. It takes the “edge” off.
I had never really thought of porn use and masturbating being very harmful in life but the more and more I look around and think about it I could really benefit from discontinuing both.
I’m a 23 year old entrepreneur who works solely for myself, I live a very active lifestyle and have an amazing girlfriend. As all of these things seem great there is always room for improvement. Why should I be a slave to my dick wasting my time on the computer and lowering my energy level? Theres been countless times where I’ve procrastinated finishing a project or going to the gym because I wanted to jerk one out quickly before, then after being lazy and disgusted with myself.
When it comes to my sex life I think excluding porn and masturbating would be a great change, not that I dont love sex as it is, but I’ve found my erections to be softer in bed, lower confidence, and decreased sensitivity, all because of frequent porn use. How do I know? Because I quit the shit a week ago and already I’ve been noticing stronger erections, increased testosterone at the gym and an overall better feeling. Is this because it’s just been a better week? maybe. But am I going to continue doing so? You fuckin bet!
I’d rather be improving my business physical health and relationship both mentally and sexually than fapping away.
I do understand casually masturbating if you don’t have a girlfriend but maybe cutting it down will give you that kick in the pants to get off your ass and talk to that girl you’ve never had the balls to go for.
I’m not some religous person saying your god will hate you if you jerk off, but seriously if you feel like your life might need improvement maybe quit for at least a month to see if you feel better.
I started last week and plan to continue doing so, it will be a definite challenge but I’m looking forward to it
I will check back with you guys and let you know how it goes!
(great inspiring article by the way)
So is it not masturbating at all?
Or just not masturbating to internet porn?
i guess not masturbating at all is better :)
i don’t think not masturbating at all is that indicated… unless you have a girlfriend..
did you ever hear the expression ” if you don’t use it , you lose it ” ?
i think it’s ok to masturbate ( i repeat, if you don’t have a girlfriend ) without porn, and not very often…
This is the best article I have ever read. I am 30 year old male and although I’m a decent looking guy, I struggle to maintain a normal relationship with any girl because I always end up masturbating to porn and thus losing interest in her. I am on day 5 of no porn and no masturbating and everything is improved - confidence in public, better self image, looking forward to going out the house etc
I am planning to go two weeks which is by far the longest ever for me, then go out and pull the fittest girl I can. The type of girl I normally masturbate about and am scared of… Not anymore.
Cheers guys and good luck
what a great article that i have ever read on net .its is true when when we masturbate we ashamed on our self.this guy doing a great job.
This picture was shown to me at high school, really effective.
http://www.blameitonthevoices.com/2008/04/effects-of-masturbation.html
and later go to the army and kick some ass, the teacher said.
In all seriousness, I suffer from terrible stomach pains and vomitted blood the other morning. I was thinking ulcer but, now that I see this picture I wonder if all those over the top things they used to say might have a bit of truth to them.
Alright first i want to thank victor because NOT watching porn feels great! If u cant stop watching it ill offer some advice on how to “stop” first look up cure the cravings and subscribe to the website its totally free and it helps, next if your christian buy the book every young mans battle,third unless you want to get jacked start training for a triathlon sign up for one or some kind of physical event itll force you out of the house and you wontbe thinking about girls youll be dieing to breath…
Alright I’ll start today and remind my self every 30 days on this website. :) ‘Cause honestly I’m 18 now and I’m fucking tired of this crap… Not like it used to be when I was younger and now I’m at the peak of graduating and I sure as hell don’t wish to be in the drop out category. (: Adios.
Wow what a great article. I’ve stopped for about two weeks, last weekend I was at a party and I actually got with a girl, now this mightn’t sound like much but I was the most socially awkward person imaginable. I kept letting my “friends” beat me down with discouraging comments but now I’m slowly starting to stand up for myself.
I’m looking for some advice, I’m just over 5 11″ and weigh 133pounds so I’m really scrawny for my height and I have no idea where to start with nutrition or weights so if someone would please give me some advice id really appreciate it.
Hi Shane,
Your the perfect candidate for Body of Spartan.
http://bodyofaspartan.com/
All you need to know is there.
Good Luck,
Scott
Get new friends - seriously - don’t spend your time with people who put you down. A lot of negativity can be hidden in apparent banter. Your friends might rib you now and then when you deserve it, but they’ll always want the best for you and boost you up.
good article. This is messing up a lot of people.
Ok. I’m fucking 58. I have been fapping for a very long time. I have been wasting a whole LOT of time and energy.
This is a cautionary tale to you, dear readers. I found this article by googling “have difficulty fucking, is it because of beating off too much?” I used to always be able to fuck but over the years have noticed it slip sliding away and hating it. I thought it was because of age or medications or some shit. This article makes me feel like it’s really all the fapping to porn I do daily (hours). I get so so little done in my life, it’s a big struggle to do the tiniest things. I won’t look back because that’s bullshit that’s over. The past doesn’t matter. I am presently working on not chasing the next meaningless and soul scarring porn-based orgasm. Time to finally get over this. I am a very positive person and hope that this tale doesn’t fall on deaf ears. Our numbers are legion. Love life and love yourself; you deserve it.
Day 21 of no porn and no masturbation.
Girls in school are starting to notice me.
Every time I feel there may be a relapse,I come straight back here and become bold and determined again.
Having excellent muscle growth and confidence boost as well.
BTW, I’m only in high school.
Thanks for your help man. Cheers
Thought you might find this study interesting.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11760788
Endocrine response to masturbation-induced orgasm in healthy men following a 3-week sexual abstinence.
“These effects were observed both before and after sexual abstinence. In contrast, although plasma testosterone was unaltered by orgasm, higher testosterone concentrations were observed following the period of abstinence. These data demonstrate that acute abstinence does not change the neuroendocrine response to orgasm but does produce elevated levels of testosterone in males.”
The best study is to understand your own body, I know masturbation does harm to my body because I noticed it, so That is enough to know about myself and stop the fap.
I understand the discipline aspect, the draining of energy, and the holding back for real sex. That said, masturbating to porn does not stop me from picking up women or having a girlfriend and a great great sex life. In fact it can enhance it! Side note : I don’t take cues from porn however to determine how to have sex or make love (there is good and bad porn). Addicted to sex, to porn - well that need needs to be satisfied. I even integrate porn in the background at times when having sex. But this discussion is about masturbation - so you can enhance your pleasure and build up your libido, along with discipline all by how you choose to masturbate. I would say quick fixes, one fast tempo, and releasing are all things to keep in check. You can masturbate and hold back from cumming, and build up your drive for the real world. And you may even experience what it is to orgasm without ejaculation - that’s right fellow it’s possible. There are many ways to approach this in a fun, healthy and positive way. I’ve given a few examples, but leave you with one last example, for a transition to a different masturbation style - search for Cock Hero - a neat concept / game that challenges you to hold back, build up, change tempo while you watch a series of sex scenes… If you are going to do it, do it right!
i know im a girl but when i first opened up this link i didnt know it was just for guys, but after reading this, it was very interesting, i relised girls dont masterbait as much as guys, but have some of the same problems after watching porn. Like tirednesss, anxiousness and arousel problems. But also after reading this i just wanna watch porn now. i mean, they have used the word PORN so much i just wanna go and watch some now. but im gonna stop because its really bad for you and i will probably not gonna be sexual active for the next 4 years so i do not wanna be put off sex.
The author of this article faces the real masturbation effects , so this article rises from real experience and its 100% right . We all should beat this habit . AND I WILL ADD TO THIS ARTICLE … when you stop masturbation you will have better memory and better vision and will have the urge to go and have a real girlfriend its TRUE. LETS BEAT THE DEVIL .
thanks
its a great and very helpful article. Masturbation has affected my life in several ways. I started it in February 2011 and since then i have been doing it on and off. Sometime i stop for couple of months and then start again. Since i have started masturbation my hairs start to turn grey. My self-esteem and confidence keeps going down from the day one. i don’t have any social life and no friends either. it has effected my education life too. Your comments have given me so much hope and i hope that by following this procedure i will be able to overcome these obstacles. By the way i am 19 years old and from England.
One of the hardest (pun intended) addiction/habits to give up.
I first discovered my little brain when I was 14 and although my parental units were strongly involved in a cult at that time there was no stopping my new found pleasure, girls, drugs, booze were all readily available but not 24/7 and you had to work for them one way or another.
Between the guilt and anti-social behaviour I also had a zit problem, argue as you may but I know for a fact that choking Mr. Happy will give you a skin reaction, I have witnessed it many times on both male and female.
Finally met a girl in my mid-twenties and she was cool enough to let my rod get it’s feeling back.
Note; the grip from a working mans hand makes it almost impossible to truely enjoy a females nice smooth supple lovenest, I’m only guessing but I imagine a large knobbled vibrating dildo will desensitize a woman in a similar fashion.
Married soon after, thinking “no more sex by myself”, YA,Right.
Divorced four years later and now after swearing each Jan 1st for the past 25 New Year’s I am commited.
The acne never went away, sweating for three days after each orgasm ( making it hard to hold a conversation with anyone), scared some female will hit on you at a party because; ‘you are not ready’, low self esteem from symptoms, poor eyesight, yes, it is a strain on your vision.
The longest I ever went before was 28 days back when I was in my mid thirties.
I realize that I will more than likely never have intercourse again but at my age I really don’t care I just want to enjoy my life without all the ‘fake’ of porn/love/etc.
Good Luck to all of you that succeed!
I read this article a couple of weeks ago, but I kept masturbating to porn. I knew porn was having a negative effect on me, that’s the reason I did a Google search about it. Well, I was having 3 or 4 day breaks and I was noticing the positive difference. I’m at day 6 without masturbation and I’m feeling great. I get hard really fast and my genital are tingles just with the thought of sex; a sensation that feels awesome. I’m getting things done better than before. Yesterday, a girl called me and surprisingly, she told me that my voice heard deeper and I was like, “Ok, I see, so it’s working.” And she was like, “What? What are you talking about?”. “I’m going through a treatment” I said without any more details. She kept insisting what I was talking about, but I kept it to myself. It really works. Thanks for your input. Teenagers should be required to read this article. Keep up the great work.
Excellent work Victor! I couldn’t agree more with this article. I tend to become “addicted” to everything I like…even activities that are constructive (like lifting weights and running, so, I guess it’s not all bad). It’s like older wiser people used to tell me when I was young, “Everything in moderation.” There’s alot of truth to the statement. Ejaculation does seem to be different when it happens with a woman (especially with a woman I truly care about), and not when I’m playing “Hand Solo”. I feel energized after being with a woman, unlike when I take matters into my own hands.
Net porn is evvvverywhere and far too accessible and pervasive. It’s just too easy to fall into this pit. I’m in my 30’s and have figured these things out. I really worry about the youth of today. The world was a different place when I was young. The statement regarding “searching for the perfect porn scene” is very true also. Most women are very sensitive and perceptive creatures, and can sense very subtle changes in men. They sense changes in a man when he is brimming with confidence (ie. testosterone, pheromones, etc) and not walking around like a tapped out schmuck. Many years ago, I took care of my own business before my gf got home. Somehow she knew that I did so, and called me out on it. I’ve noticed when I save my seed by practicing restraint, I’m far more attractive in general, and more potent in life. I’ll even take it a step further…I feel that I’m spiritually more potent also when I abstain from Jack Handy also. Maybe we’ll save those details of that for a “New Age” type of post.
Thanks again for manning up and posting this.
good bye addiction, never come back ^_^
Thanks for this amazing article.
I do not look at video porn as that disgusts me but I do look at pics of attractive women wearing not-much clothing which is still porn. I gave up jacking off for 9 days once and it felt great although it was a bit tough.
I’ll read this article whenever I have an urge.
Thank you once again Victor.
So you basically can’t go to the beach. It’s porn to you. In the beach there are “women wearing not-much clothing”. And that is still porn.
there’s a big difference, one is looking at a static image of women without fear of being monitored when you do it, the other is in a public setting where you will be viewed in certain ways if you’re leering at ‘women wearing not much clothing’
Why give him a hard time bro?
Use a dictionary, porn comes from the word “whore”, and graph comes from the word for “write”, so no, going to the beach is not porn, unless there are “working women” there doing their jobs.
i’m trying to quit masturbating. i’m socially akward and its so hard to control masturbation 1 month is over. next goal avoid masturbation for 1 year
I am just starting with this now. Basically I have recently exited a sexless long term relationship. And I am starting to believe most of the problems were me. I fucked myself over countless amounts of porn. there was no drive or cum left for her. It was never a shame thing for me though. It was self control.
While I think every point in this article is true, the strength you receive from self control is not well documented by the 10 points.
Anyway, I’ve started eating better and I can look at sexual images feeling my dick grow hard without the need to jerk it. I can even tempt myself and not release. The feeling of control is exhilarating. Thanks for all the help.
well its back to day 1 for me, I really want to give this up, im convinced that there is a connection between porn/masterbation and me having social anxiety and depressed. IT TIME TO END THIS SHIT AND START LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST! CARPE DIEM!
Wow. Thank you. I needed this.
Today , let a new era begin. Will come back in a cpl weeks to tell my tale.Great no bs site.
Funny - My wife and I were walking last night and she asked my opinion on this matter. I said “Take this in the Batman theater shooting as context. Substitute ON-SCREEN PUSSY for ON-SCREEN VIOLENCE. Discuss. ” We’re desensitizing ourselves to some very very heavy primal shit here, and so far, this is a bad thing. This road leads to people who can’t verbalize their thoughts, can’t tell when to stop eating, can’t fuck, and who massacre their peers for picking on them. Messing with nature has all sorts of unforeseen consequences in unforeseen places. We often don’t realize it until all the bald eagles are dead. I contend that this applies to the human mind and body as well.
What do you think about happeh theory?
dude, I must admit that ur article just opened up my eyes n senses. I wish I could find it sometime back, but better late than never.
my next steps : for the next 30 days, its a complete no no to porn. I hope that I start off well and will definitely post an update after a month.
“Eventually nothing will do it but seeing a naked black man buttfucking a dog.”: point taken.
I was a fierce defender of porn for a long time. It’s just a easy way for sexually deprived guys to have some relief,,, What could possibly be wrong with that? I still don’t think porn is degrading to women and I still don’t think it has any effect on sexual crime. I don’t think there is anything wrong in a moral sense.
But, after a while, I’ve started to spend more and more time watching porn, because it was simply harder to get myself aroused. I used to spend at best 30~40 minutes watching porn a day, but recently I found myself watching porn straight for 2~3 hours. And as you said, I’ve been looking up more and more extreme stuff. What really scared me was that I was starting to accept these disgusting types of porn that I used to find repulsive. Few weeks ago, I saw this really fucked up japanese porno that made me want to puke. I was scared that one day I’d find this shit to be acceptable.
Now I’m trying to quit porn for good. I’ll miss the lovely porn girls, but I gotta be a man now.
Thanks for the post. It really convinced me that quitting porn is the right thing to do.
i understand that m8 ,it do have to get harder n harder 4 u to get there ,there so much bad sick porn ,to me a lot stuff was out there but after while u get used to it .then it normal, then u need worse n so on so on ,all porn in all it forms is bad end of the day….i dont want it no more n i will some how stop,u have to replace it with some thing anything ,,dont u think so
I know what u are talking about the japanese porn… eating of shit from the idoit male porn actor to the woman
I’m in the same boat here. i Just finish seeing some porn. and all the above is all true. scary!!! i need to stop, i want to stop.. i know i can. but good article, does anyone have or know of chat rooms for this type of issue? it will be greta to get support from someone who will understand that it is not easy!!!
Jon
Admitting is a great 1 st step!
Jonathan,
This is a good online accountability group for stopping porn/fapping:
yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php#c3
Also see yourbrainonporn.com/ for some research and theory about why online porn is so damaging.
thank you so much for this article porn has destroyed my life in terms of me being shy insecure looking at the mirror seeing something else i wanna stop it both masturbating and porn the sick thing every time i do it i pray i will stop so lets embark on a journey do destroy this disgusting habit i want 30 days without porn from now…a better voice , self esteem and getting laid with real chics
well i’m 23 been watching all kinds of porn and masterbating daily since i was 11 and i also slept with good amount of woman over 75 prob but I think porn is addictive it ruins sex life sex drive hardness and arousal cause your body gets used to your touch masterbating but then when your’re with a woman her touch is not the same well I stopped watching porn just having sex maybe 2 3 times a week sometimes more sometimes less i deff live by not spilling the seed unless its worth it ( u got a real fine dime piece :) i notinced more energy in life better workouts more motivation i dont eat as much as i used to i just feel more alive and confident stronger. better in bed 2 we are not created to watch porn or masterbate sex is different so as hard as it is for to to stay away i miss it i slip up often but i’m doing better glad to hear that more and more man agree and feel the same way i do
I need a chastity device.
Love the article Victor, truly great stuff that I think could benefit scores of people in the future as I believe a lot of young kids growing up with internet porn will have a problem with this addiction. It’s a hard habit to kick, mood levels drop furiously, but, as you so clearly state, well worth it.
I’ve been a very successful person all my life, 15 years. I masturbated at least every two days for about 5-20 minutes at a time. There’s no problem with it, what the hell? I also use a reliable site so I don’t get viruses.
But that still doesn’t discount porn’s damaging effects on sexual function in both mental and physical aspects. Maybe you’d be more successful if you didn’t jerk it to porn, or maybe you’re just not looking at porn that much (sounds like you aren’t as much as some others do).
Everyone can easily say it’s bad and that it demotivates you to do a lot of things.But,the real question still stands out to whether or not you’ve stopped this addiction or have found a new one.I understand breaking addiction is good in fact i suffer with this problem(im a christian btw)and i do not look down on others with d same problem but look to them as equals.I hope and pray that almost everyone here is actuall or have done something about this addiction or else everything that they have wrote would have just been meaningless to themselves
Hey Victor
Good article! Masturbation and porn are so counter-productive and negative to everything in life from getting laid to getting money. I have personally not masturbated in more than 2 years… I’ve fucked more than 100 different girls instead - it’s way more fun when you can touch ;-)
Actually, I just wrote an article about why to quit porn and masturbation on my own site a few days ago. I just decided to do a google search today to see if anyone else shared my opinions. Seems like you do. I need to check out the rest of your site now.
If you wanna check out my article with more reasons on why to quit porn and masturbation, or if you want to read my diary and lay reports or my other articles, I’d love for you to check out my site! The article is here: http://www.boytoystory.com/why-you-should-quit-porn-and-masturbation/
2day i give up tis dam porn
All the best
How Much Masturbation Does It Take To Cause Problems?
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There is a direct correlation between the amount of masturbation and the severity of the changes that masturbation causes to the human body. The more masturbation is engaged in, the more numerous and more severe will be the changes caused to the body A general guideline to various amounts of masturbation and the associated amounts of body change is presented next.
Masturbation one time per year
Very little if any change to the body
Masturbation once every six months
Very little change to the body
Masturbation once every three months
Causes a small number of minor changes to the body
Masturbation once a month
Causes a larger number of minor changes of slightly increased severity
Masturbation once a week
Causes moderate changes of moderate severity to the body
Masturbation once a day
Causes many changes of varying severity
Masturbation multiple times per day
Causes a multitude of severe and extremely severe changes to the body
(Happeh Theory)
thanks this site helps,day 1 starts now,it makes u ill mind n body ,it wrong ,in all it forms,for u and them that make it
this is not easy but i can stop porn i can stop
Hey Vic, man oh man. I thank God for allowing me to stumble on your post cause man I just stopped smoking weed. I had so much unfiltered non-sense in my life that I can’t explain to the level it affected me. Once my mind cleared I noticed not only was I addicted to the supposed “peace” I got from weed but man it f*cked my view and feelings toward sexuality. I used to always watch porn and attempt to gain pleasure and even though I thought of special people when I did it, the ultimate thing to gain is pleasure for yourself. And when I stopped, I would get thoughts like ” What if you don’t get hard? or It would be good to just watch porn and masturbate this once but I realize its just the addiction and your always going to be a sexual creature because that’s how were made, but we should not abuse it.
Dude this is the best of the internet,on masturbation.i hope you could get me relation between memory loss and masturbation
I stumbled across this page after looking for help with my lack of motivation and laziness. It sums up almost everything that’s wrong with me! My addiction is so bad, I was online and ‘indulging’ before 9am. Not only that, as the article states, the material gets stronger to satisfy. I’ve even started watching gay and tranny porn. This has led to me hooking up with guys online risking my health as well as my marriage. This has really opened my eyes to how much damage porn can do. It’s so invasive, it can take control of everything.
Unfortunately Tony, most of us learn the lessons the hard way (I know from my experience as well).
Smart people learn from other people mistakes or from articles like this one.
Tony hope you managed to change the old habits with a better life.
Agreed.. one of the best articles… the links that Victor you have given are also very encouraging and inspiring… Kudos!
I think that the destructive effects of porn on the brain and on the mind are pretty much the same for females. But can some one give a link or tell me were to find more information on how porn addiction affects a females that watch it and masturbate with it? Thanks for your very well explained post.
Hey Victor,
Thanks for the post, very inspiring! I am trying to quit masturbating and it is just like trying to quit smoking, you need so much willpower. I get incredible mood swings and I can’t concentrate on studying. Another thing is that almost every guy I know masturbates, so I am very conflicted. I have no idea what to do with my sexual urges. Any ideas, Victor?
^Get a girlfriend.
Or boyfriend which ever~
i now know for sure i no longer want need porn,,look around you,life is all around us,porn is death
i knew that masturbation harm my body. I started masturbation when i was 15 and now i’m 18. Age 15-17 was the worst days of mine. As i just discovered the ‘feeling’, i got addicted to it. It damaged my body completely. I lost my old attraction from girls, face covered with pimples and scars and i turned in to an alien like creature. i was academically weak too. when i was 17, i took a break for 2 weeks and i could see the changes. but after, i started again. And today, i’m on the 10th day without masturbation. I could see changes already. I don’t want to do it again! really, I pray to god that please don’t make me do it.. Peace.
Reading this article and the determined people fixing their lives gave me the strength and well accompanied by the power to STOP IT !!! This is DAY1 and like hell i so wont be saying DAY1 no more , ill recheck this form everytime i feel weak ,you people gave me the reason to say NO , BIG THANKS TO YOU ALL . FTW
Fantastic blog, Victor. Thank you for posting. Before I continue, I want to preface the rest of my comment by mentioning that I’m a 21-year-old male.
I accidentally discovered the benefits of not masturbating when I was in high school. Now, see, I didn’t mention porn. Porn has always been just ‘eh’ to me. I’ve always been an aspiring writer (never said a good one, just somebody that enjoys letting the written word flow while disregarding any type of proofreading as much as possible, but I digress)… so my imagination has always been one of my fortes.
With that said and out of the way… despite not using porn, I still had enough energy to fap 2-4 times a day, without a problem, except I always felt sluggish, my energy levels would be absolutely drained every time, and my appetite was ridiculous following every ‘session’. I could ramble on and on about pseudoscience and things that haven’t been conclusively studied in regards to masturbation’s effects psychologically and physiologically, but let me tell you…
I was busy at one point where I had gone over a week without masturbating, and it was like night and day. My energy levels were through the roof, my appetite seemed stabilized, I felt like I was stronger and had infinitely more strength and I could look girls in the eyes and check out their bodies right in front of them without being apologetic, clumsy and awkward about it. Call this a placebo if you want, but I could ‘feel’ the differences, and if it’s merely a placebo, then it’s the greatest placebo known to mankind.
People say, “Ah! Well! If you stop masturbating, you’ll last less!” Simple solution… have sex twice within a manageable time frame! It’s possible.
I’m not saying masturbation is bad, but fapping often isn’t optimal. What’s good when it comes to railing a girl if your balls are constantly drained. Compare that to a full, heavy nutsack. Not to mention there’s the possibilities of seminal fluid having a positive effect on a female’s mood. And we all know females are much, much, much, much, much more pleasant to be around when they are thinking positively instead of acting like molecular structured biblical nightmare bitches. Let’s be serious, now.
This post actually changed my life. I put it as a homepage.
Third day and still going on
“thing that makes your life never change: fall into the same mistake”
for another reader… There’s NO late to be better, i think
Exactly what I needed to hear bro I’m going to try the 30 days of stayin away from the porn and masturbating from what I’ve read it makes much sense that feeding my head with such fucked up things that I have may be the real reason why I can’t hold a relationship or even have a normal sex drive for the ladies was getting way to fired up for porn rather than the real thing it’s very humbling to know I’m not alone I appreciate the words of encouragement
Victor, your post has really changed my mind. I tend to Jack-Off if I don’t have sex with a girl. even when I have sex with a girl, I still do it when they’re not around. I’m addicted to porn and I’m only 19. but after today, I will try to stop. I’ll keep posting on here to let you know how I do :) thank you man!
porn is destryoing men. I HAD ERECTYLE DYSFUNCTION and I overcame it by cutting off daily porn and mastrubation marathons. Start exercising and let your fantasies and desire work out the porn in your mind, its the only aphrodisiac you will need till you hit your 60’s.
watching porn killed my desire , I had forgotten the basic art of fantasizing which killed all the mojolibido you require to get excited.
ED made me suffer from insomnia, anxiety and depression to which I am still being cured.
again the root cause to this problem is the insatiable porn hunger.
and the more you crave for it the more you get into the void of frustration.
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Take vimax
Its the 18th day without porn/masturbation. As usual, wetdreams did occur to me in two consecutive days! But I’m super horny. Whenever I loose my control, i come to this page and read the comments from other people. it helps me a lot. And saying about the benefits, I feel really good today.
Tip:
Don’t sleep on your stomach. You will fail.
This is a big one, if you do sleep on your stomach, next minute you will want to slide your pillow under you and try and court it.
I sleep on my stomach every night cause it’s the easiest position for me to fall asleep in. If i lay on my back my eyes will remain restless and strained. Also if i lay on my back I’m more likely to touch myself down there. lol
Thanks..a lot…
Thanks man.. Aftr reading your post and all the comments i really get some willpower to overcome masturbation..though i had left masturbation for 18 days from today but jst in night today ejacuation occur from my penis yet i not masturbate bt watching porn..
Bt 4m today right now i start my journey to the road of success..i knw I WILL..!!!! I WILL DEFEAT THE PORN..NO FUCKER OR BITCH WILL ABLE TO STOP ME..
SO PORN GET READY FOR MY THUNDERBOLT WAR..HELL FUCKER..
hey guyz!success and save journey from masturbation and porn to your destination.i wish i had seen this article earlier,i would have achieved a lot in my life, but am sure i won’t do it again.because i have spent like 3hours reading your comments and i have learnt a lot!success!
Why did the prophets tell us that the bible teaches people that “Thinking about the sin is worse than the sin itself”- that is because the mind and intellect is God’s inheritance to man, which is wasted in being occupied to corporreal satisfactions: masturbation is no excempt : it is an act, yes: but it is also akin to thinking about actual sex. Therefore even according to the holy texts, actual sex is not as evil (as damaging) as masturbation which makes the intellect occupied upon a lowly act instead of being employed on bringing us closer to God (through research and intellect). The texts therefore clearly does not forbid us of doing these animal acts (eating, sex, drinking) but on the level of which we need and reserve the mind for something else and not think of these. Therefore the ancient texts are relived by this modern article by boldanddetermined , cheers, Victor
Great Point!!! That’s a great perspective to see from.
why is this all about women? I mean really I read this and the way it’s put makes it sound like. “Yes you need to stop for yourself but also because we want the D and we can’t get it because we fat and gnarly. yes this sounds very rude and I agree with almost all 10 reasons honestly just you know it’s not all about women you know and it gives off that vibe, so maybe you should redo some of that, besides not our fault most women now days aren’t worth the time of day because they are all two timers ever thought maybe women are the very reason why men masturbate instead of talk to them?
it’s like this, this is a good point but like all women do they do it in a bad tone or just in a way that seems aggressive demanding and it’s annoying. Soooo you could always say this in a way that seems more interested in the guys health other than making it sound at least like your just horny and can’t get any guys up.
Vic I love the website and i have to say the values you put on this website symbolizes what my Haitian immigrant father tries to instill in me. He teaches me discipline,he teaches me women are tricky bastards. Anyway people may call you racist but i don’t anyway. I am black you are telling it like it is. Anyway I have not masturbated in 10 days. I haven’t masturbated to porn in 30 days. Your website is changing my whole world view. I am a 22 year old virgin and I always wanted to get laid. My parents do not really allow to me to have a social life so I was wondering should I just try to find a sweet girl in my college(which is rare) or should I just find some slut and have a fuck buddy relationship with her? What is your view on fuck buddy relationships? Many guys in the PUA community think this is the “alpha” way to go. I really do not have the time for a relationship because I am a bio major and spend every hour studying(except now), so I want to get laid and I see a fuck buddy relationship as something that could work for me. lay it on me and be very brutally honest. I need the tough love.
day 4
no porn or masturbating. i didn’t actually plan to stop watching porn or masturbation, i just didn’t do it for a day or two and i said to myself what the hell, i can go like this a few days more if i want. then this morning i googled about how to stop masturbation and found this site and a bunch of other sites. but you were the only one that put your finger on the serious points of p & m.
so i just decided to go for it. i,m not planning yet to stop masturbating for like a year or something. i just want to see how far i can go.
i will check on this site later on
peace out
Is this talking about jerking off in general, or with porn? I don’t think its physically possible for me to never jerk off again. It’ll be hard enough to do it without porn.
First go without porn, then go without images.
That probably reduces the amount of jerking off you do, and will reduce the need for jerking off.
That makes it easier to then stop jerking off. (You basically split up the challenge, and with that the discipline required to do it.)
We are all loaded with character defects - some of which are i the natural and some spiritual. Most of these will lie dorman for a lifetime unless they are triggered. For example the child of analcolholic who may be pre-disposed to alcoholism will not become and alcoholic if he never starts drinking…the same with sexual behaviors, many have had terrible sexual passions ignited through porn that they ever knew existed. Fine men with great careers and ministries involved with child pornography, bestiality, fetishes, sado masochism….all because they walked down the garden path of internet porn (that so called victimless behavior). Suddenly their trigger is pulled and they find themselves owned by these behaviors followed by the end of their familes repuations even prison.
I believe that most of us need the internet but we also need internet safety whihc can only be found using safetey software-filters. I have known many guys who say they can handle it but then they cannot. I use a filter that I like called http://www.wisechoice.net. I also recommend a filtering review site called http://www.filterreview.org[ where various filters are reviewed and their differences explored. For your own sake and you family-install a filter
day 16
sometimes it’s really hard.
i couldn’t imagine i can come this far.
meeting my gf in two weeks. gonna keep going…
Three things changed my entire life: Think and grow rich, best life ever by Jim Rohn and a Quote by Adolf Hitler: “The secret for the strength of a man is in abstinence”
Abstinence in jerking off, smoking, drinking, eating bad stuff, making party, working out instead of lying around, reading instead of watching TV etc. Abstinence is the clue for discipline as you will get everything done if you abstain of useless things.
PD: Now please don´t whine around because i quoted HIM.
I came to the conclusion that I needed to stop internet porn. Decided four days ago to stop jacking off altogether and focus on fucking my wife instead of my hand. Focused on it last night as a matter of fact and I had an amazing orgasm that porn cannot provide. This article really nails this addiction on the head. I think I really have discovered that porn makes me a unhappy person. Only four days and I feel TONS better.
I’m 21,been masturbating for over 5 years now,want to stop but dont know how(blc i can go 2 to 3 days without it and the next i can do it for close to ten times a day).Pls i need help and tips.Some(not all)of the symptoms are showing and i’m a godly person.i.e,no girlfriend stuff.My pastor also said i have a weak mind.i.e,inability to take decisions on my own.Pls i need help
The problem with anything you read on the net is knowing who to, and who not to believe.
There is little advice is separating the use of porn from the act of masturbation.
Some say No Porn, but masturbation is fine. That sounds to me like someone pushing their moral belief that Porn is wrong. There is no physical damage to using porn as an aid to masturbation, so anyone talking exclusively about porn use is probably trying to convert you to ‘Their’ moral beliefs, by making it sound ‘Logical’ and almost scientific to stop.
Only listen to the ones talking about masturbation only, and to be honest, nearly every website contradicts itself on the case.
It should be like anything in life - balance. Balance and control of its use. If you can do that, there is no harm in using porn.
Like I said, those that sound reasonable are probably just trying to convert you, I mean “Internet porn is a succubus whore from Hell intent on draining you of your vital seed” so does not sound likes its from someone without a religious alterer-motive! Yeah right! Wake up people! Its religion that makes you feel bad about masturbating and using porn in the first place.
You want to be a man? Then make your own damn decisions, do what YOU want and don’t feel guilty about it. You want to shake one off? Who the hell is anyone else to tell you not to?
I’m surprised you were able to type all of that with one hand. Religion? Morality? No, you’re just a loser and you’re dreaming up anything you can to justify your loserdom.
Wow victor, I’m really… What’s the word? In awe. For me, standing up for my beliefs like that, is a challenge. It used to be easy. See growing up, I was 14, I grew up in the ghetto, and my friends got me addicted to porn, and I used to masterbate everyday. Every time I did, I felt… So awful, and full of regret. Then one day, I stopped, not all at once forever, everything in life is with baby steps, like a lot of guys here, I eventually overcame with relapses, first it was a lot, then slowly, but surely, they became less and less. Before, I was under the impression that god hated that I masterbated, but now I know that god loves me no matter what I do. But now that I understand that, I have to switch my mind from thinking that I should stop master bating because its wrong, to understanding why it’s bad for me, and how it effects me. That way, I can still keep that motivation to change. Because I’m not just doing something now to follow the rules, but understanding what it truly is and why I shouldn’t do it. Truly a big difference. So, after stopping, I became master of my life, I became the person I wanted to become and said and did the things I wanted to say and do. After that, gradually, I had attained complete inner peace. I understood my place in the world and accepted who I was, for the most part. I wasn’t masterbating anymore, I was thinking. I thought about my life and my actions, and I directed my life towards good. It was incredible, that was a really happy time in my life. I was virtuous, genuine, fearless. All thanks to my changed lifestyle.
Now here is where my life changes. When i had first entered college, i had trained myself, that even if something sexual was in front of me, i had absolute control, i would not feel a thing. But then I got my first girlfriend, which turned sexual in nature. I became obsessed again with sex, and that ruined me, my life control, everything I knew, my confidence, my good nature. my strength and willpower just slipped away, each day it drifted farther and farther away. I was lost, I didn’t have control of my life. Every second of the day i was addicted to sex with my girlfriend, masterbating with her pictures, and all my mind could think of was just sex with her, it was just like porn, i was always searching for the perfect sex scene. because my self control was gone, my self respect and what i stood for, that was gone, so she took control of my life, and remembering it briefly mow, it was just a blur of one sexual event after another. after one was done, all i could think about was the next one, masterbating in between. i felt dead inside.But recently after I broke up with my girlfriend, things became a lot better, at first it was really hard to let go the first few days, but then, I didn’t need her, and I didn’t crave having sex with her anymore, and slowly, I’m taking back control, and I’m blurring out all the naked pictures in my mind until I think of nothing. Usually i replace that naked thought with another picture, that really works, but yea. Thanks victor, what you said is the truth. I knew it when I first read it.
Porn is damaging as it stimulates your brain and thus you chase even more perverse videos to get aroused.
Peter, I think you got it wrong. This is an excellent, 100% true article that I can relate to. Porn really does fuck up the brain, life, morality, will power, masculinity and the likes.
I agree with making our own decisions as a man, and believing in yourself.. but there are certain universal principles that you simply cannot get around or conquer or turn.. eg., If you bang your head on a wall it will hurt like hell…. If you let others take all decisions for you, you will grow weak (you only said that in a way and its correct)…….. similarly porn excess is a disease, first of mind.. then it becomes of body too of course…
Well, there is one side to the moral dilemma that you have overlooked-while porn may not be wrong for men(although I myself believe otherwise), it is terrible for women. You may play devil’s advocate here, but no one can argue that women aren’t degraded. Women are referred to as “bitches,”and “cum sluts,”. Women seemingly get off on simply pleasuring men and need nothing for themselves. Porn sex is very commonly violent towards women. But, even if you think the porn itself is innocent, female actors are often manipulated, abused, exploited, and are generally from an at-risk demographic. You may argue that women have a choice, but most “at-risk” individuals, men and women alike, are driven to these types of jobs out of desperation-be it theft, drugs, or porn-and it says a lot about businesses that are willing to take advantage of pitiable circumstances and human weakness. If we think about our girlfriends, friends, wives, or daughters going down this road, we would think differently.
Vic, this article speaks the truth. It should be printed out and given to every man sitting in front of his screen full of juggling tits wondering why he can’t get girls.
PUAs talk about forcing yourself to approach as if it were something hard and mechanical to do. When a guy addicted to porn, jacking off every few hours, with no control, decides to get a girl - he thinks like this:
“I should go and maybe talk to a girl so I can get better at ‘game’. ”
Weak, without any desire or motivation. If you’ve just been eating tofu every hour of every day why would you bother going out to hunt for some real steak?
After a week of forcing yourself to spend that porn time NOT touching yourself at all - but lifting weights and building your empire your mindset is this:
“I must go outside and find a girl to bend over and rail from behind or my dick will explode.”
When you talk to a girl and the only thing on your mind is penetrating her tight pussy, you emanate sexuality. Girls love sexual men that are selfish(kudos to vic’s secret to getting girls) and take what they want. They respond to sexuality with… wait for it… sexuality. Just as nature intended it.
110% correct my friend.
Hey Victor, i wanted to thank you for all you teach us. I have been porn user for 11 years,my age is 26 now. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me and yes i needed to force myself to talk with girls but now i just go kiss their hands and get very sexual. I still have problem getting over masturbation but i keep working for it and now i do it after each 4 day´s first it was 4 times a day. Not masturbating makes me a lot more productive i hope that i can quit that do.
You sound like a PUA (Pick Up Artist). Been there once, didn’t like it, and although what you said is correct, I would recomend you not to see every women like only another “tight pussy to fuck”. It’s your choice, but I think balance in life is important, even - or even specially - talking about sex.
*This comment does not change my opinion that this is an excelent post and everyone should stop watching internet porn (or any kind of porn), and stop masturbating. If quiting both is difficult, start with quitting porn, and then quit masturbating. One day at a time, and you will see results.
Man you talk like a pervert, instead girls will run away.. take it easy and calm way
I stopped masturbating 6 days ago. For the 1st 3 days it was no problem.. 4th day to today the 6th day I am horny as hell! But have used will power to abstain. I woke up this morning, 6th day, and I feel like I had a severe workout! I am literally sore all over, BUT its that good kind of sore, like I had a great workout or weight lifting session! Has anyone here felt like this after almost a week of abstaining? I do however, feel stronger!!!
Excellent view on this topic.
To all skeptics; Vic is correct.
Weary of the pornless road?
Try it for a month.
If you don’t like it, go buy a subscription to a premium porn site.
But that won’t happen because you will like it.
It will change you.
A wet, warm pussy feels much better than my own hand every night.
How about you, boss?
Again great post Vic. Always enjoy a good read, boss.
One good rule I saw was too pick one day of the week too masturbate, imagining a girl you’ve seen but haven’t fucked. I felt better when I stuck to that routine, I should quit the porn and daily masturbation. This is just at a minimum.
All I know is in countries like Japan most of the women are too shy, the men are too shy. Blame that shit on their crappy culture that forbids them from being too social openly not the fact that porn has anything to do with it. Lets not forget their culture also forces women to keep that whole childlike nonsense thing going. So all that negativity that’s killing them as human beings is the culprit. You have ladies over there dying their hair blond, getting eye surgery. Man that shit is just too much! Other nations don’t have this issue, because unlike Japan where 89% of people lack pride and confidence. You will not find much of that in places like Korea, China, America, etc. Most men in America have a lot of pride so porn will never effect them in the same way as it would some dude in Japan who probably wishes he could have a blond girlfriend but doesn’t know wtf to say or do.
In all honesty, I have been looking at porn for years and it has never made me have a fear of women or avoiding the nature of speaking to them. Another issue I have with this artlce is why is it targeted toward men only as if women don’t view porn? The whole damn industry itself is flooded with women, Shemales if you count them as females too which adds even more women.
My point is, it can only “harm you” if you let it. Some people have no choice when their bored. If your like me, finding a serious woman in the U.S. isn’t the same as finding one over seas in a country like Russia. In The U.S. so many women set unrealistic standards as to what they want in a guy, and this causes many men to either fear them because they don’t live up to those stupid expectations or they would rather just view porn instead. me personally porn has opened my mind, so if I had to have normal sex with a woman our entire lives? Then you better believe it I will be fuckin bored brother. Aint no way I’m being with a female that doesn’t like anal or deepthroating. And to tell you the truth. German females actually invented Fisting. lol.
Such a beast post!
If you could answer my question (I’m sure others have it as well) . If you don’t have a gf and you don’t masterbate to porn because of Victor, then how do you release yourself ? Surely abstaining to master bating will play with your mind. Only watching porn can help?
Also please make your awesome site more mobile friendly thanks
Just keep yourself busy, work out, and if it really is bad, just “release” without porn.
Shit man! I have this article bookmarked to keep me inspired every day. It’s my 7th day today porn and masturbation-free and it has been nothing short of wonderful. I’m pumped up everyday to take care of business and get what I want in life. I started lifting again and it feels great. Most importantly: I FEEL LIKE A REAL MAN AGAIN. Your blog is literally saving my life.
I keep going back to this article so I can remind myself to keep my eyes on the prize. Definitely sure that pussy beats the hand. Keep writing this inspirational pieces.
Hi victor, great post, love your ‘to the point’ style. My question is this…I have had a serious masterbation addiction since the age of around 13… I’m now 22 and find it is becoming a serious issue as it takes my drive to peruse the real thing (the pussy) I am deffo going to try the no wanking policy and think I would benifit massively from the results and am 100% set on the task ahead… But my biggest worry is that let’s say I go a month or so without ”spilling the seed” when the real thing comes along… Am I going to last 3 seconds flat and massively underperform in the bedroom or does this work the opposite? does this set you up for utter disappointment for the girl when the time comes? Because that would be dreadful and highly embarrassing in my point of view if that was the case?
Fella how can I predict what’s going to happen to you in a month or so? If you pop off early so what, go back for round 2.
I will share with you. I did an earlier post saying I didn’t masturbate until 16 years old, but had regular wet dreams from being 14 years old. I COULD NOT ejaculate. I could get hard easy enough. Very easy. The first time i ejaculated it took half an hour of solid effort. I know you think I am trolling but its true. Slowly that decreased over time, so now it is average. I am now going to abstain until either
a) real thing
b) wet dream
and see if I last longer
Thanks, Pride, for your articles. I stumbled on your website today and I have not stopped reading your articles. They are so inspiring. Thanks for saving us (boys) with this piece. I am now your fan.
Thanks for the article victor. I went 40 days without wanking and porn, but relapsed with the wanking today. Ive gotten porn out of the way, now I hope to stop masturbating, as I feel 10x better without it.
Once every 40 days is a pretty good ratio.
Good post Victor
If you think about it ,Porn is pathetic and also its extremely degrading to women. The whole industry is disgusting. Unfortunately its something that pretty much all men fall into because it is classed as normal when in fact its the total opposite (there thinking of teaching porn in schools now). Men are meant to have sex with women ,that’s the way its been for thousands of yrs. The problem with today’s society is that 90% of the women want 10% of the men so this leads to the majority of men using porn as they have never educated themselves on how to be men and attract women . Every porn website should be redirected to this page so more men can educate themselves to the truth about porn .
Have any feminists taken to time to congratulate you for such a good post ? You seem to get a lot of bashing from them when this post shows that you completely disagree with porn
It goes the other way too, mind you.
Hi i have followed your adrice and it really helpes me! But i just wanted to ask you do you have wet dreams? Cause i have had them and i wake up so tired as If i had masturbated.
Guys Ive been searching the web for a reason to why I always feel weak, tired, unmotivated, insignificant, and like I couldnt do anything right after I glued my face to my computer screen and rubbed atleast one out (sometimes 3) in a day. Im 30 years old and things are still this way for me. Ive noticed that after about 3 days of no jerking and porn my life seems to start to fall into place, and the ladys start looking at me again, but usually for me thats when I hit google and start searching porn again. Im a recently recovering opiate addict so for the past year Ive had pain pills to kill off this severe social anxiety and weakness. It also gave me false euphoria and confidence. Now that drugs are gone for good these horrible feelings are returning 10 fold. I was raised to believe masturbation is a sin and bad and you”ll go blind, so I have that monkey on my back. To add to my stress. Im finally glad Ive found what could possibly be the foundation of my rehab from this weak, tired, pathetic being into the GROWN ASS MAN I SHOULD BE BY NOW. I just wanna say thank you for the absolute best thing Ive ever read on the internet. Ima go to my shop and hit the heavy bag. So glad I didnt sell my mma gear for pills awhile back, lol. Later later ppl.
Thanks for this compact list!!
What means the word in ” if HR comes by to have a talk with you you can look the Devil in the eye and see what you’ve sold your soul to.”?
I don’t think you can go without masturbation(unless you have a girlfriend/wife), but you can probably get yourself to do it once a week and don’t use internet to do it.
So I have had many anxiety, erectile dysfunction problems when it came to sex in the past 10 years. Thats right, a lot of disappointed women and my self esteem had gone down the drain. You know I have seen numerous doctors and even a natural path didn’t even give me this simple advice. I have taken numerous herbs and medication to assist with the issues but only helping slightly. The physiological explanation makes perfect sense if you think about it and your porn habits. So I decided to try this simple task, and not look at porn or even touch myself when I was having sex with my gf. Each day improved slowly until I felt the way it did 10 years ago and I only had stopped for a week. I probably had watched excessive amounts due to my social anxiety so either drowning myself in food or porn was one way of happiness. I can’t say ive stopped watching it completely but I no longer touch myself or I wont even watch it long enough to get hard… Thanks so much, It was a fluke that I stumbled upon this great site.
No fluke mate, that’s the universe at work. You found this place because deep down you really wanted to.
That’s why most of us are here.
Wow man, firstly I want to thank you for this site, it has given me the kick up the arse that I needed to start transforming my life.
This article is a godsend. I used to be hooked to a free webcam site, and would make the bald man cry 2-3 times a day. It killed my sex drive, which is one big contributor to my then partner leaving me. To say porn ruins lives is not an understatement. The girl of my dreams walked out of my life mostly because of the side effects being a porn addicted had on me.
This site, and article have helped me understand that issue and given me some plain up front advice on how to free the man inside and shed myself of bad habbits.
I already feel the emotional difference, its called hope and desire, and bless you sir for the role you played in that.
Gonna get ripped, gonna get angry (good angry), gonna kick some arse, who knows might even get the girl back. Here’s to the future guys, lets make it all ours.
MAH BALLZ, DEY BLEW!!!!!!!
Couldn’t resist. I’m on day 3 and I’ve got some serious blueballs. I’ve got more energy and I seem to be in a more positive mood, but god damn I seriously feel the need to bust a nut.
Who knows, I may just give a lucky girl a Peter North experience.
Great article Victor. I have a couple of questions that may have been covered already but there are a lot of comments to read!
1. Are benefits (eg lower voice etc) still felt/seen from giving up porn or do I need to stop masturbating as well?
2. I’m a guy but I want a boyfriend, would stopping watching porn/masturbating make me more attractive to guys?
The second may be hard for you to answer!
Thanks :)
What the fuck? Are you serious? Why the fuck are you even on this site you fruitcake? Go to Cosmo and ask that sissy ass fag question…
Fucking moron
great article for sure.
I was wonder if Victor can help by recommending a medicine that also help us to stop this shit.
Willpower is the medicine
This is by far the best article ive ever read on this subject. Many others are full of annoying commenters who just post hate and try to justify their acts, but has anyone ever masterbated, porn or not, without even a small feeling of guilt, disgust, or dispare? I came here after such a feeling, and to know I am finally supported gives me hope. As of now I have never viewed video porn, but I can feel myself slip into the snare of image porn, or even erotic stories. The truth is that masterbation is disgusting and pitiful. I start a 2 week work out routine tomorow, and I plan to stop porn and masterbation altogether. I will repost in a few weeks. Thanks Victor.
I regret to say that I have recently had a relapse. I feel awful and completly disgusted with myself. before relapse, I felt wonderful and full of energy. I even felt comfortable around women, and now I can only face them with shame. Revisiting Vic’s article and all the commenters is helping me beleive again in taking out this awful addiction. I want to be free from Satans cold grasp again; feel like a man of worth. I once again thank you Vic. I will now start my jorney again. My first goal is 10 days ( ending on my 16th B-day, which marks about 1 year since the beginning of my addiction). I want to feel the good of the world and myself again, and no one will stop me. I will repost soon, see ya till then.
Since my last post I have continued to resist the urge to masterbate. I am really happy about this, but I have another problem. The other day in an interview my bishop asked me if I have a problem with masterbation. Its not that he suspected anything, but it is protocal to ask this. All I could do is lie and say no, and now I feel really awful, but i’m afraid to tell him. Can I get some advice on this please? It would really be apreciated.
I feel the need to tell the blog that ive again relapsed i didnt use porn, but I did masterbated. And although I stoped myself from having a full climax, I still broke my streak. And then I thought, ” Hey wait. I just lasted 2 weaks without something I used to do daily. Thats TWICE as long as ive ever gone before. Although I am sad about the act i’ve comitted, I now realize that I can use this act to comit myself more. If I double the time without again, I’m at a month, then 2, then 4, then 8, then a year and a half!! I wish I went longer, but I won’t let depression drag me down. I am so happy with my recent progress and I am so grateful for everyone here, especially Vic. I am now determined to repent and start again, but now my goal is a MONTH!! If I pull this off, i’d say i’m officially on the fast track to success. I repost when my goal is acheived. Thanks again, and see ya in a month.
Porn is the world’s most dangerous family crisis. It destroys the sacrdeness of sex and love. It degrades women. It is a leading cause of rape amd molestation. It shatters relationships. Worst of all, it is 100% legal and readily available to both adults and youth. I have struggled with porn and masterbation for about a year and a half now. Thousands more young people have struggled for far longer than i have and are still stopping. I think it is time for me to once again take control, for myself and for the woman i love. I refuse to betray her to foolish addictions any longer. Victor, I thank you so much for once again giving me foundation in my struggle. I want to go 2 weeks without any masterbation, and even longer without porn. I hope you all acheive your goals. See you guys after my goal.
Hey man, really great advice here, though I have a question. I like to channel my sexual energy into writing erotica. Is this healthy if I don’t look at porn and just imagine it? Writing it however nearly always leads to masturbation, obviously not what i what. Should I just cut off this avenue of pleasure altogether?
Many thanks, and last year (I was about 17) I went for about a month without doing it) hoping to break that record this time and give it up for good!
Cheers
Hey Jack,
Visit yourbrainonporn.com, it´s the best site to learn more about “our” addiction. They say no high speed porn, no magazines, no fiction, no fapping and no orgasms. If it ain´t real, don´t do it!
thank you daniel, that’s most helpful
I gave up like 2 weeks ago and I feel full of energy, like a mean and vicious lion.
Good stuff! In addition, I used to be in a constant state of depression when watching internet porn. I never linked the two together, I thought porn and depression were completely arbitrary. It’s only been just over one week since I last watched porn (and by that I mean no videos, pictures, anything!), and I already feel completely different. More energy, workouts are way better now, I’m more sociable, feeling depressed everyday is out the window (I used to think it was just life), it may sound weird but I feel more accepted in society now, and in my spare time I’ve started to read, write, and draw. Lets face it, internet porn turns you into an anti-social zombie/creeper with no happiness.
Great post Vic!
Great post. Every guy with internet access needs to read this post.
I would recommend everyone that they should read this websit
in order to know how to stop watching porn
Hi guys My nme’s Jilaal When I was about 12 we used to rent Porn videos hardcore
in the shop. We was young and rent Cd and video tape was cheaper and in the Studio it has lot of naked womens in the wall. We plan a day and meet watch it all together. We watched and enjoy rent lots off Video tapes and that I didn’t see the other guys some left the country that we were and move to other country and I meet other guys I was studying I.T engineering
in their was one of my classmate we was used to be closest friend and show me porn sites which that time used to be XXXx.com I don’t if still exist than I move from the city to another city than another city Nazerth I made new friends they know porn I didn’t much of it. They show me I was surprise everyone knows what how::and then I start to learn searching porn. i move to other region city all the people are islam And I lucky in the city if I would search porn they would kill me because of that and I didn’t do it nearly I could search but that time I start Wanking in that city because too much indian movies i am not indian but people in that region was love watching indian movies All indian film actors was beautiful.
I moved the city again the old city I use to live.
I wank Wank Wank Wank Wank still Wank keep wank
I try everything I could stop Watching but it didn’t gone.
That time I had one friend and his family i live with them as part of the family.
They were nice people they were all muslim even me They didn’t I wank also
It is haram but time I was in the muslim city I used to wank in the toilet when I having shower evan the other city
Sorry if i made it hard to read because my writing is upsidedown
I will go start from today 30 days trail I hope I stop today is date Mon/9/9/2013
Hey Victor,
Thank you very much for this article! I guess it´ll safe my sex life…
My name is Daniel, I´m 34 and from Germany. I started fapping to porn when I was about 13 or 14. My dad had several sex tapes which I watched when he was working. Also I heavily used several “erotic” magazines which you could buy here at every gas station, even at my age. My all time record was 16 orgasms a day, no joke. I had no friends at that time and spend all of my time at home when I wasn´t at school. I played video games, watched porn and fapped. All day long. My mom always pampered me with food so I was very fat and even when I was in puberty I didn´t have a girlfriend, so porn tapes and mags and my right hand were my only friends back then.
I started with Bodybuilding when I was about 15 (life long Wrestling and Arnold Schwarzenegger fan) and took my first steroids when I was 16. I didn´t knew better then. As my body started to change (from fat to muscular) I realized that suddenly girls started to flirt with me. To make a long story short, I had my first girlfriend and my first sex at the age of 19. From that time I have never been without a girl for more than several weeks.
I suffered from ED from my first relationship until today. I always thought the bad guy were the steroids, but after reading your article I started changing my mind. I was a heavy porn user 6 years before I had real life sex (!) so I guess my bed partners weren´t as stimulating as my porn, even though I always had hot bitches :) I´m married now and my wife is everything I ever dreamed of (blond, big tits, great ass, beautiful face, she likes anal and to swallow my load, so everything´s fine with that :)), but I still suffer from ED. To be honest it got worse from year to year. My penis feels dead and the only way to get him back to life is by watching high speed internet porn and fapping. I heavily rely on sex pills whenever we´re going to have sex, but I really don´t like those pills since they give me back and neck pain, a congested nose and a dark red face. Furthermore my wife doesn´t know about my addiction, she doesn´t even know I use sex pills. I can talk about everything with her but I like to keep my mouth shut about that topic since it would be really disgusting for my wife to know what I do whenever she´s not at home :-/
I know that I can´t go on like that and that I´m addicted. I always laughed about those sissys who can´t quit smoking or drinking, but now I´m an addict as well and start to realize what addiction does to you and your brain. I don´t want this anymore, so I started my NEW life without porn, without fapping and without orgasms four days ago and I hope I can be healed just like all the other guys who succeeded. I can post updates if wanted.
Best regards,
Daniel
i dont buy into this bs. masturbation is normal, and quite the opposite, the more one masturbates, the more horny you become.
furthermore, this ‘problem’ is not limited to men. just. look at the massive volume of solo sex videos submitted by women owanking themselves o n youporn and you will realise they masturbate as much as men.
I’m so thankful for Viktor’s post and all of you other real peoples feedback on this.
I’m proud to say I’ve refrained from porn or jacking off for 2 weeks solid now. I was facing some temptation just an hour ago when I found this blog post. This totally has refreshed my drive to strive for success here. I was able to recognize this problematic addition on my own, and I have since noticed major shifts in my motivation and confidence around anyone. I have felt my energy levels significantly rise. I can now think more clearly and have now been able to start figuring out what to do with my life :D I am better at articulating my thoughts. Now comes the real challenge: to tell this amazing girl who I’ve worked with all summer and have become great friends with… how I really feel about her ;) I’ve been waiting for the perfect mate this whole time. I’m still a virgin at 23 years with no dating experience, yet I feel so confident and free to be me around her. There’s no doubt that i’ll stay strong now. It’s time to go for it!
Man….this is the bestest article to stop a boy from wasting his Imagination on Silly things!
Porn killed my youth and turned me into a ridiculous loser. I quit masturbating and viewing porn eight years ago but its hard to undo the harm that 14 years of porn did to my body, mind, social life, financial status, and spirit.
The people who make and sell porn are destroying the lives of young people who don’t know any better. They cause adolescents to waste their sexual energy while engraving vile images into their mind. Teens tend to imitate what they see and the depraved acts shown in porn start becoming part of the mainstream culture. Porn is as damaging as physical violence but for violence at least you know you’re being attacked and your mind isn’t degraded.
thanks very much for this article; however, in my stupid culture u can’t have sex until by your 28-30s so you have a job and house and everything to get married. Porn does actually cause physiological and social problems. What can I do? I can’t have a girl friend despite that I left my stupid religion but never told anyone or I could be kicked out of the house and leave my family, friends, relatives and everything I know and lived in this life. What can I do! I wish I have a girl to love but I can’t!! I just keep seeing hot girls and everyone have gf and sex and I am not!
Listen, in this case I would say porn is an A-OK alternative.
What about the side-effects which I am actually experiencing.
Use your imagination, stop watching porn. Away go the side effects.
u were right first. the things were not from porn. simply people go to porn to relief the problem they have. thanks for advice.
You are such a fool to leave islam..the religion is amazing..why do u listen to people who are extremist who tell u cant have a gf, that’s up to god to judge..hope u come back to islam
All well and good for those men who have sexual partners to fall back on. But many men can’t find real life sexual partners or those that have partners like me are married to women who do not want to have sex. I haven’t has sex for almost 20 years but I stay in my marriage because of my repsosibilities to my children. I suppose you think I should be celibate? I thank god every day for porn as it is the only sexual outlet I have.
Day 2 of trying to stop.. its so difficult, like my mind overpowers me and can’t control it. But I’m going to try my hardest and if I need motivation I will come back here and read the comments. Thanks for the motivation!
Hang in there brother. This site and this article I have been searching for. I felt like a weirdo and so alone. I have always wanted to beat this but never thought I could. Being a Marine that went Army to earn the “Green Beret” and I couldnt beat “beating off” is so unreal. This is a straight forward and truthful article that tells the truth. I kept looking for more and more, for the “perfect scene” that wasnt perfect the next day. Made me feel so low as I am a dad that is idolized by his kids, Mr masculine, afraid of nothing and can do anything. Yet this had me so down with a hold that tortured me mentally, on top of that I am a Christian, in Seminary and going back in the service as a Chaplain. I knew that I could not serve God in that capacity until this beast was killed. Thank you Victor for saying it straight and thank you for giving me a place to finally say what was hidden in me.
I was browsing a blog similiar to yours (theredpillroom.blogspot.com.au) which was filled with a few cartoon pictures here and there, and now I’ve got a bad case of blue balls.
And it hurts. Bad.
Should I just let it out right now, or should I continue to hold it in (I have been abstaining for 3 weeks now).
hi guys esp. Victor you rock. This site is best on web!! i abstained from porn and feeling good.
My energy is shooting the stars and may lead to a solar flare LOL…
have not fapped in 3months and 2days…lol before i read this i fapped an average of 3times a day..
so glad to read this, i think it may have changed my life. i am going to bookmark it. at first i thought you were selling something. and then i thought it was a religious thing. but when you get facts and testimonials without trying to guilt people (too much). i struggled with it. for a long time still am. the only time i dont is when i am in a relationship, however i become a sexual addict, So i suspect. its more than just the porn for me. thanks for making a great website in general!
I thought a herbivore was an animal that ate plants
Went for a year without porn or masturbation but unfortunately hit a rough patch where I started slapping the snag all too often again. Good thing I rediscovered this article. Really inspiring stuff brother, thanks a lot.
Shane bro, your going through what every wanker goes through, …you watch a movie, see a sex scene, that starts your engines… You fight it, you watch another movie, see another sex scene, that gets you going even more, so you convince yourself to jerk off one “last” time for old times sake, but you need something more potent, because the sex scenes in the movies are so watered down, just enough to tempt you into going for the gold… So you go to google and search for “show me something that doesn’t make me want to puke”, and all you get are results “that make you want to puke”, so you spend about an hour doing that, till you find 1.20 min video that gets you going, so you have to time it just right, or you’ll be rewinding that video about 5 times to get the 5 minutes you need to finish the job… Then after you blow your goo, which nearly knocks you off your ass, you want to break out in tears because its been so many years since a REAL woman has given you the time of day… Then comes the guilt, that has brought you back to this website, it’s a never ending cycle, dude, where feeling guilty is going to increase and increase, while the urges get stronger and stronger. It won’t stop until the Porn industry is off the internet, and women stop acting like sluts, while blaming men for treating them like sex objects… Just saying…
Hi Victor, great article and great content on your site. Thank you for both being generous with your knowledge and determined to show the chicken shit nice guys there’s a better way.
May the value you create for people be returned to you in wealth in all areas, even above and beyond your own effort.
Victor,
Question for you. Instead of quitting porn, can you figure a way to continue to watch porn and be productive at the same time?
I bet if you search for the answer, there is a solution to this. And you can have your cake and eat it too.
So the question is how to watch porn daily and achieve all your goals at the same time. I bet it’s possible. Just look at all successful men. They have high test levels and are womanizers. And so they spill their seed alot yet still achieve great things.
This has got to be the most direct and brutal article on why you should stop watching porn. and for that reason also the best one. i use to watch it more than 4 times a week and after reading this i realised it was all boredom. i had nothing to do. after reading this and reflecting on it i decided to join the gym and hit the weights ajd also to start football again. i am now a week free and i have never felt so good in my whole life. if a week can do this then i cant wait for a month year etc. thank you for changing my life
Very interesting article.
I am in a long distance relationship and i know my man doesn’t fap to porn, but we do have sessions of mutual masturbation every 2 or 3 days - will this affect his body the same way?
I stopped porn definitely it was ridiculous , sometimes 3 or 4 times per day , hours and hours wasting!, I got really angry and embarrassed with myself when I was with a very beautiful woman and could not have a great erection , and I’m just 24 , I’m healthy and I do a lot of sports, have a good body , don’t drink or smoke, so something was wrong Internet porn was affecting my desired for real sex so I stopped at the same day!!….. Now after 3 months have passed and my performance have skyrocketed I have no problem at all!! Best choice it is to stop porn for good!…. sex is great now and the girls come back for more!
Victor- its been said already, but I shall repeat it-this is the most straightforward article out there on why men today need to quit porn. Keep of the phenomenal work.
I read a lot of articles here and I’ve recently decided to quit porn for good and stumbled on this one. There are so many reasons to quit porn. It’s something that I’ve allowed myself to slowly get sucked back into. Porn is like a drug, and all the bad things that come with those are included. And on the subject of masturbation, I recall that last year I managed to quit for 80 days and I felt SOOO GOOD. I had high energy, felt positive, and just felt plain better about myself. I remember that every time my friends would ask how the whole abstinence thing was going I would pretty much rant about how great it was for the next 5 minutes.
However, in all that time I never was able to truly quit porn. This time, I’m cutting it all out. Porn makes it that much harder to quite but even it by itself seems to have a debilitating effect. Especially when it comes to social interaction for some reason. I know that cutting out both will be one of the best things that’s ever happened to me and reading all these stories pretty much confirms it. I look forward to redirecting that sexual energy toward something that actually produces!
@Victor: Here’s a short-cut to keep my seeds inside me. http://tantramag.com/tantra/art11.html
I hope you like it… :)
oh looks useless from it’s wikipedia article
Reading this made me want to……wank. Is that strange? I see the merit in the argument and agree that watching porn is counterintuitive to centuries of evolution. It’s just, when you tell someone not to do something, you still put the idea in their head. Its sort of like kids taught abstinence wind up having more sex, or kids taught not to suicide in school, have higher rates.
I think alot of stuff you said was true because i know my self it’s hard to stop looking at porn and jerking off it only last so long then it starts again.THE only way i can ever stop or any one eles can stop is to turn to jesus and ask for forgiveness and let him in your heart and and there you will find peace and confort in his arms.JESUS is the only one that can help people with problems like this or any other kind of problem we only have two choice’s heaven or hell i know for my self i want to go to heaven once i die so i’m going to follow Jesus to the end and i hope that any one that read this will do the same any sin can be forgive you just have to ask and beleave GOD BLESS YOU!
I tried to stop watching porn and jerking off a couple years ago and committed to do other things in life such as learn guitar, workout etc. This was around the same time I was dating a girl. I went about 2 months without watching porn or masturbating. My girlfriend cheated on me and I was very upset and depressed. I found no fun or motivation to play guitar, work out or simply do anything else as I was deeply in love with her. I knew I had to get myself out of depression or else I would have ended up being miserable and doing something really stupid. Going back to porn and jerking off seemed to really help and take the pain away, it worked like a charm. I felt so relaxed, all the stressed was gone and it was like a huge relief. I started doing it often again, almost every day and sometimes multiple times a day and got over my depression. The thing is now my porn addiction is so bad and its been two years since that girl left me, even though I am over her, I find it so hard to quit porn. I told myself many times that I will never touch it again but to no avail. The most I could go was barely a month. Going even 1 week without it is so difficult. I get the urge to do it on day 3. One of the main reasons I keep going back to it is because I feel upset since something or the other keeps happening in my life which tends to make me upset and stress me out. This is where porn takes away all that but I really want to leave it for good. It has changed the way I view woman now and I feel so sick about it. I becomes an entirely different person when I get in the mood, its like I lose sense of whats right and wrong, I view women as sex slaves and start thinking really dirty thoughts. I have a huge fear that if my family and friends found out what I was thinking about those women then i’d be so embarrassed and ashamed, and I should be. I don’t mean to disrespect women, I am nice guy and I want to see and think about women the way I used to much before I got addicted… like normal human beings. I happened to stumble upon this site and after reading this article I feel motivated to try and stop this addiction once and for all. I know how hard it is because I have gone 2 months without it before and after a while it gets better. I really hope I can change it this time. I have read everyone else’s comments and looks like it seems to work for them. I find it very tempting and am a very impatient person so its a bit more difficult for me but I have this never say die attitude. Wish me luck
I’ve been watching porn and masturbating for 4 years now. I never really saw it as wrong. But after reading d comments on this site,I av made up my mind to stop wanking. I know it’s nt going to be easy. I’ll bookmark dis site so that I can always come back for motivation
This is really inspiring, I found this site while contemplating leaving my bf from his addictive porn use. He constantly is rejecting me but watching porn and he thinks all this is perfectly normal for guys from what the media tells us today. I’m always available and horny, willing to do whatever he wants but now the thought of him watching porn all the time is turning me off. He won’t even have sex with me if it is not the exact day I shaved down there. His standards are set to high and I feel worthless and gross. I even offered to watch with him, I don’t like the constant secrecy but he always does it the minute I leave and I never get invited for the fun. I’m tired of him lying to me about porn because I know the truth.
I think this article sets a great example! I’d love to meet men like this who are so determined and self controlled. Desire are natural but the best part about being a human being is that we are smart and can make a conscious decision to change things for the better. I believe it truly will make you feel better about yourself and free you of guilt and shame. Make love, not porn ;) allow yourself to truly connect to women.
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I gotta commend you on that… Out of all the responses I’ve read, finally someone gets it! The battle is not over trying to quite porn, people… Porn needs to quit US… We need to get rid of porn and the fat fraqs like Ron Jeremy that make money from it. Women choose to be sluts now days, no one’s forcing them, and that turns otherwise decent men into wankers, because part of their life isn’t being fulfilled by their female counterpart. I tell you what, somewhere out there, a woman is walking around with MY rib, and I want that shit back… Good post, though, you get it… So many people think the battle is about forcing themselves NOT to look at porn, the REAL battle is getting rid of the porn in the first place, thanks man!
This TED talk is worth watching:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FMJgZ4s2E3w
Dope article, I must admit. Yeah, semen is CHI (electromagnetic life force energy or the YANG energy). A lot of men have issues with retention but retention on it’s own is generally silly, you have to transform that energy through meditation, full lotus (sitting with your legs crossed, with your feet laying on your thighs) to transform your energy. However, I do agree this article, totally. You have to sublimate your sexual energy by keeping yourself mentally (and physically) occupied with other things. Men often get stuck in their lower chakras and constantly spill their sex via masturbation and sex. Plus pornography is not good for the spirit, a lot of these perv images CAN and WILL damage some psychologically if they are constantly exposed to them. I notice when I abstain from ejaculation, I do feel far more energetic and less fearful.
The sexual energy is very powerful and if it’s misused, you often feel drained and desperate to take energy from others. A lot of men get addicted to this energy. Note that when a male ejaculations during an orgasm, his stress sympathetic system is activated — where dopamine is converted to the stress hormone cortisol. This is why you see males on some other shit most of the time, constantly spilling their seed.
For you guys who are seeking intimate relationships with women, store your semen and sublimate that energy on actually “loving” the person. True love is alchemical, where the hormones are converted to serotonin and to oxytocin - the REAL love hormone. Start with baby steps. Find a female who is compatible with you and focus on doing positive things together. When you guys engage in sex, study things like tantra and sexual alchemy. All sex acts are rituals, remember that.
Wanking is the worst activity any man can take part in, he has reached the bottom when he does this. Great post victor. This message needs to go out to more men.
But what for those who have wet dreams?, doesn’t the body has a necessity to ejaculate?… I can actually keep myself from masturbating, but I can’t prevent the loose of semen. Do you guys have some good advices for avoiding nocturnal emissions?
look it up,change in diet maybe?
I found this article very interesting. I have some of the side effects/ symptoms that some of these other guys were having like bags under the eyes, social anxieties, and a weakening of self confidence/ low testosterone levels. I’ve been consumed of my energy since the age of 14, and i’d like to get moving on. Great article Victor
Thank you very much for this.
To be honest, after masturbating I’ve always said to myself that I shouldn’t be doing it, but I don’t know why. Now I do.
The testosterone argument is bullshit, you gain twice as much test in one gym session than you lose jacking off. There are also numerous studies concluding that there is no connection.
That said, psychologically it can be better not to.
thank you that inspired me to quit porn and fapping :-D thanks alot and good luck guys
I’ve been looking into this whole masturbation and porn thing and really feel that there’s some truth in it’s harmful effects. Imagine just 100 years ago the average man did not have access to see a naked woman except maybe his wife. Fast forward to today and the average man today has probably seen more naked women and has the ability to see more naked women then probably all of his previous ancestors combined! How many times a week do you think the average man would be able to have sex with the same woman before getting bored? He would most likely get an urge, release that sexual tension by having with his wife, and then go about his business until the next time he gets the urge. Today, however, we have at our fingertips the ability to search for exactly what turns us on and can see different woman/women one after the other until we exhaust ourselves. There’s a famous experiment where they get a bull and give it a female cow to have sex with and this bull was able to become aroused and have sex with that same cow a maximum of 3 times before losing interest. As soon as they brought in a new cow the bull was again ready for action, and again after 3 sexual encounters he bull became bored again. This same sequence happened many many times. I believe the same works for humans and so our ancestors simply were not able to go to excess in the past, it was physically impossible (with the same woman of course!).
Anyway, it’s interesting to note that the kidneys deal with all fluids in the body, including sexual fluids, and so when we masturbate to excess we are overworking our kidneys and they become depleted of vitality. The kidneys are also linked to the feeling of fear and anxiety. Men who over masturbate often complain about feeling very on edge, and anxious, and fearful.
Dr. David Horrobin, an M.D. and Ph.D. from Oxford University, states:
“The amount of zinc in semen is such that one ejaculation may get rid of all the zinc that can be absorbed from the intestines in one day. This has a number of consequences. Unless the amount lost is replaced by an increased dietary intake, repeated ejaculation may lead to a real zinc deficiency with various problems developing, including impotence.”
More than 60 percent of men have a zinc deficiency. And that spells trouble… Your semen has 100 times more zinc than your blood – and your prostate has the highest concentration of zinc in your body. Zinc is a real “man’s mineral.” Zinc is a sexual health booster that helps reduce the enzymes that convert your valuable testosterone into DHT (an excess of which causes premature baldness and hair loss). A healthy level of zinc:
> Maximizes your testosterone production.
> Extends the life of testosterone in your bloodstream.
> Boosts the sensitivity of your male hormone receptors – especially your testosterone receptors.
A supplement that can address certain symptoms commonly associated with low testosterone is saw palmetto, which may also help increase testosterone levels by inhibiting up-conversion to
dihydrotestosterone (DHT). When choosing a saw palmetto supplement, be wary of brand as some use an inactive form of the plant. Look for an organic supercritical CO2 extract of saw palmetto oil, which is dark green in colour. Since saw palmetto is a fat-soluble supplement, taking it with eggs will enhance the absorption of its nutrients. There is also solid research indicating that if you take astaxanthin in combination with saw palmetto, you may experience significant synergistic benefits. An optimal dose of saw palmetto and astaxanthin decreases both DHT and estrogen while simultaneously increasing testosterone.
Anyway I hope the above is useful in helping to convince you to stay away from over masturbation.
One more thing!
Sometimes excessive masturbation (1 to 3+ a day or more) can lead to hands shaking ( legs too when bending). I stopped masturbation for 3 weeks ,shaking stopped. I started masturbating again, it returns. So yeah, if you have this problem. Try to avoid masturbation!
I used to be completely free of porn, until the day the love of my life left me. Now I’m in a dump. I used to wear a purity ring with her, practice abstinence with her, share God with her, and now that is all gone. I masturbate to internet porn every day…
in hinduism it’s said that if one can observe bramcharya then one receives powerbeyond this world. The person you speak to can’t handle the aura which emanates from you and your mind body and speech are in synergy providing you a wealth of power otherwise lost. I am reading a lot of people here saying they don’t wank to porn but still do the activity without it…. Guys the point is to stop it completely… Get married and then do it otherwise it’s still a waste… My longest time is seven weeks. A relapse may happen but gain the strength from God to move on and try and stay away from alluring posters images and so on…. Great article by the way.
Bear with me on this one…I have read a lot on self preservation as well as hours reading the comments on here…Firstly kudos to the writer to try and aspire people to stay away from such nuiscance. A lot of misconceptions on here from some commentors. Some think it’s ok to celebrate themsleves once in a while, nada…sorry follks the whole point is to preserve. I know it is extrememly difficult but first understand what a futile 30 second process does to your body?
From food comes juice or chyle, from chyle blood, from blood flesh, from flesh fat, from fat bones, from bones marrow and lastly from marrow semen.” Semen is the quintessence of food or blood. One drop of semen is manufactured out of 40 drops of blood according to the medical science. According to Ayurveda it is elaborated out of 80 drops of blood. Just as sugar is all-pervading in the sugar-cane, butter in milk, so also semen is pervading the whole body. Just as the butter-milk is thin after butter is removed, so also semen is thinned by its wastage. The more the wastage of semen the more is the weakness. In Yoga Sastras it is said: “Maranam bindupatanat jivanam bindu-rakshanat—falling of semen brings death; preservation of semen gives life.” Semen is the real vitality in man. It is the hidden treasure for man.
Just imagine the power of semen, it has the ability to give another life and it is wasted. It is easy to tame a wild tiger or a lion or an elephant. It is easy to play with the cobra. It is easy to walk over the fire. It is easy to devour fire and drink the waters of ocean. It is easy to uproot the Himalayas. It is easy to get victory in the battlefield. But it is difficult to eradicate lust. But you need not despair even a bit. Have faith in God, in His Name and in His grace. Lust cannot be completely rooted out of the mind except by the grace of the Lord. You are bound to succeed if you have faith in Him. You can destroy lust in the twinkling of an eye. The Lord makes a dumb man to speak and a lame man to ascend a steep hill. Mere human effort alone will not suffice. The Divine Grace is needed. God helps those who help themselves. If you do total self-surrender, Mother Herself does the Sadhana. Regular meditation and Japa of Mantra, Sattvic diet, Satsanga, practice of Pranayama, Sirsha and Sarvanga Asanas, study of religious books, Vichara or enquiry into the nature of Atman or ‘who am I,’ seclusion for three months on the banks of any holy river, will entirely annihilate lust, however powerful the old Samskaras and Vasanas may be. Positive always overcomes negative. You need not be discouraged at any rate. Plunge yourself seriously in meditation, kill Mara and come out victorious in the struggle. Shine as a brilliant Yogi. Thou art ever pure Atman. Feel this, O Visvaranjan!
Only problem is though if you are ugly it won’t change a damn thing and make you look stupid(like why the hell is he hitting on that girl-assuming she’s hot) ! but when you stop excessive masturbation=also do other things victor suggest(internet porn as well or keep it to minimum-actually quit it completely) it makes you realize shit face with reality and get more mature which will be a motivation for you to work out and study(build a business whatever) as much as you can so there is a benefit but it’s no magic pill so unless you keep on building something as I mentioned you are just going to go on with mental masturbation(obsessed with self improvement) in fact only reason I turn back to Victor’s blog every time because he talks about taking action, which is better than reading Rhonde Bryne(!). Now for those of you, who thinks it’s easier to lead a life full of accepting bullshit(whatever fucked up shit life throws at you) taking shit from feminist whores(they have all kinda sick bs now- fetishes yuck) here’s a quote for you: “You live only once but if you live it right once is enough” -Mae West
PS>Einstein(not exactly Thor) fucked Marilyn Monroe, because he “build” reputation. Now building here is important, because being only “genius” doesn’t make it (check out Nicola Tesla) Concl. There’s always hope :) and if you feel like giving up sit down to light a cigar and drink some miller ;) then move on get buffed up and rich or die trying.(there is a really good chance hell is better place to be instead of being an emasculated fucked up man of 21st century :D).
I agree. Real men do not masturbate.
http://www.tipskey.com/article/ejaculate_for_reproduction_only/
Thank you Victor to post this article, my English is not good at all but I could understand about 90% of the content. I going to change my life following these reasons to stop watching porn, I’ll try to abstens my self and check results. Thank you again..
No offence to any of those who found help and motivation in these pieces of advice, but as far as I’ve read from the comments, no one here had depression or social anxiety issues. I’m 25 and have been masturbating since I was about 17 or 18. I don’t do it regularly, sometimes once a day, sometimes once a week. It’s rather random but usually with porn.
I have considerable depression and social anxiety issues. Unlike most people whose comments I read around here, I’ve never had a girlfriend or a relationship because of those issues, except with one girl for a few months’ time.
While I do agree that taking breaks from masturbation can make your body feel refreshed and give you considerably more energy, the advice of “quit fapping and go get a real girl” is a myth and doesn’t help in any way practical measure when the personal social infrastructure isn’t there to support it..
I am a woman and I agree with this. Not because I am insecure my hubby watches porn, or for moral reasons. I use porn all the time and wish I didn’t! I know it takes from intimacy in my marriage and just messes with me. Nothing wrong with the hubby. Porn is just easy and I know what works. I also know sex is always more intense/ better when I stop. Glad to see people admitting it can be harmful and it’s not technically natural. Proud of you guys and wish more women and men came forward. Going to try to stop and feel better. Thanks for posting!
Great post Victor. Masturbation removes the desire to progress in life. When men stop masturbating they start wanting and achieving in life. Great advice.
I never understood the whole masturbation is good for you bullshit in the media.
Maybe it was my dad calling every sissy a wanker, I don’t know, but I just always thought that jacking off is pretty beta. I kinda always liked the idea that all my ejaculations are the result of intercourse with woman. Even when I was a teen I noticed that not fapping gives me the drive to approach girls.
Today more than ever, my mindset is: I’m a man. a warrior, a hunter. I’m created for reproduction, not for jacking off to god damn porn. If I want to shoot my load, then I’ll have to get a lady.
There is a reason ejaculating feels like a reward. The release is something that you want to earn!
A friend of mine said he doesn’t want cut out porn and limit fapping because it would make him a minute man. I just don’t understand why so many guys worry about performing right.
The thing is, the first time I had sex with my current girlfriend it did everything for what people would call me a bad lover: I didn’t care for her needs, I just lay on top of her gave a few thrusts and grunted in her ear like I bull when I came, rolled over and fell asleep, exhausted from release I finally got after weeks. And see, she is still with me. Of course I now take better care of her, hehe
But sometimes, especially when I come back from a business trip all horny I still act like this, treating her like an object designed to get me off. Women love to be objectified - by the right man.
age: 28
location: Netherlands/Germany
“I just don’t understand why so many guys worry about performing right.”
Don’t get me started on the “men” worried about lasting two minutes. They are faggots and/or pussies. I got so much testosterone in my body that I am sexually primed to dump my goo after the first two or three thrusts. For me, the whole seduction and kissing is way hotter than the sex because I know I got the women “in the cup of my hand”. Who cares, you go for round two, three, etc.
“I didn’t care for her needs, I just lay on top of her gave a few thrusts and grunted in her ear like I bull when I came, rolled over and fell asleep”
I do that all the time and I am not apologetic about it haha
Like you said: Women love to be sexually objectified.
Damn this sucks I really liked porn and all the ridiculously awesome women… but I am noticing the difference haven’t even made it a week yet I don’t have to sleep 8 hours or catch up on sleep.
I never got into weird stuff on porn, started out with weird then picked my favorite section which was pretty vanilla only women that I liked masturbating, endless content in my favorite section though.
My P.head tingles now I did so much I think wonder if it will go away… I think it will, it’s lessened today but could feel it tinglin this morning didn’t realize I’ve never skipped this many days before in a very long time.
This is by far one of the most positive changes I have made in my life. Confidence went through the roof shortly after.
After giving up masturbation completely I have a stronger presence and charisma. Guys respect me more also a lot seen nervous to look me in the eyes. Friends told me that a few girls have mentioned that I am intimidating but in a sexual manner. pretty cool outcome. I find wanking and porn are pathetic.
Thanks for the excellent and brave article Victor. It ends with a concern is always around me when I see success people or people doing amazing things: he/she is there because he/she is not spending half of his day jerking off.
Victor Pride’s writing applies an awesome modern-day followup note to Napoleon Hill’s already solid chapter on sexual transmutation.
(Here’s my long story, but it builds to one simple realization.)
Up until the age of 22 I have always preferred to be a loner. I never did get much accomplished, but I had a lot of time to myself to read, go out with friends, take long drives without directions or just relax. I’m 29 now and have had one girlfriend who I was with for 4 years. It was long distance and we would visit each other a few times per year. Less than a year away from moving in together, our long-term scenario came to a halt.
After the breakup I immediately reverted back to my loner ways. This includes what I thought was totally normal and part of the human condition: Internet porn in the morning, and internet porn in the afternoon.
With the grief over my loss finally gone after about 2 1/2 years, I made my first realization: “You know what? I jack it an awful lot…” Had I made this realization before my first girlfriend, I probably would have had a lot more accomplishments in my 20’s. So that made me come to a second realization: I’m terrible at being a loner, otherwise I wouldn’t disrespect myself by masturbating every day.
I lost on day four just yesterday, but that was the longest I’ve gone without “spilling the seed” since I was a teenager. I will keep trying until I can manage for a week, then two, and so on. I anticipate a defeat here and there, and hope to channel the initial irritability and desire through a solid cardio program which I hope to expand into weightlifting. If it felt that good after just four days, I couldn’t imagine how a month or even a year must feel.
I owe many thanks to Victor Pride, Napolean Hill and to all of the fine folks here who have contributed their real-world experience in the discussion. I hope my story helps others trying to escape this most terrible habit that does nothing more than offer temporary relief while holding you in an uneventful, psychological loop.
So much valuable information and motivation on your site… I don’t masturbate on porn often, I now watch porn maybe once a month or less, I’m sure I’m gonna quit completely. I found that most of the anxiety for me (and I had A LOT of trouble with panic/anxiety/depression) comes from internet porn. I’m 22 now, and I committed not to watch porn about a year ago.
Yet I still have some anxiety about finding a girlfriend, and I wonder it’s related also to masturbating in front of the computer.
I know that healthy sexuality comes from expressing it, but nowadays we are SO obsessed by media/society with the female body that we overuse our sexual organs…that we don’t seem to understand when our bodies truly want us to.
I still feel the need to masturbate and masturbate usually without ejaculating, but sometimes I wonder whether my life would improve if I quit or reduced masturbation to just, say, once a week. I would probably find more motivation and focus to work towards making money
Nice article on reasons why people shouldn’t watch porn! :)
i strtd jrkng off whn l ws 13 nw l am 15 goin to 16,.Man porn is fckd up OverMasturbation is also fckd up, Vic is ryt u cn clearly c the effects if u open ur eyes, u cnt approach gals etc. js try fr 30 days u wll c the results.l thnk u all fr ur comments ey rly helped me, thnk u vic cmn frm a yung zimbbwean great site :-)
One of the single best changes you can make to your life!
I think this is an emerging science, I’ve known about it for like 4-5 years now but have been perhaps too cowardly to speak out about it, or not interested in dealing with the lynch mob (I have other controversies I’m attending to).
The loss of semen is detrimental to health. It is literally a physical energy substance. It is the life that helps to create life in a woman. It is full of healthy proteins and so on. Why would it be good to habitually pour this substance out? A guilt complex is rightly created because this action is morally wrong, which also saps energy, motivation, and self-esteem. Spiritually, graces are lost as these actions are mortal sin (porn/masturbation). It is a waste of time and energy and money sometimes that yields no return and you don’t get it back.
Losing semen makes people weaker in brain and heart. You can’t lift as much, you’re tired, sickly, weaker. The eyes become light sensitive. The brain is less able to focus. One must eat foods, proteins, meats, etc. to recover - but although you can regenerate you’ve done permanent damage. Anyone who has cut sex from their life obviously realizes this. Since you’re destroying yourself in sex, depression develops and anxiety (the latter if you’re unable to cope with life’s stressors, which you might have needed your seminal energy for). You’re less able to fast, and fasting is both a spiritual and physical tool. You make the body have to divert resources towards repairing the damage done.
There’s a reason why athletes used to be told to abstain from sex in the past before competitions. Google “brahmacharya no hatha” as well - while i don’t endorse the false religion at all, they seem to be onto the science of semen loss and how it is detrimental. The book “My Catholic Faith” says that those who commit sins of lust will “suffer a loss of health”. Maybe the “high” of sex is to numb the damage being done to one’s body as well? Undoubtedly, sex has been used to control people and porn is used as a weapon to keep the populace dull and dumb and docile. Fight this grave evil and confidence goes up as you no longer are making God angry in this respect nor beating yourself up for a few moments of worthless pleasure.
Great post. I literally prayed it away. I just kept praying it away. Would fall back, then be extremely convicted by the Holy Spirit to the point I got literally physically ill looking at it.. I hate it. I don’t look at it any longer. Porn is sick, evil, makes you mentally ill, weird around women, no mental FOCUS to improve yourself as a man. People stuck on drugs, booze and porn are a TOTAL mess. Do you see any discipline in such people or happiness?
Great post.
Since Feb this year I decided to battle pornography addiction, and then later withholding ejaculation. The longest I went was 25 days no porn.no ejaculation and it was pretty amazing. Confidence went through the fucking roof. I then watched porn at 25 days and the following day was an absolute shocker. Out of all the habits I have been cultivating over the last few months including the ones in 30 days of discipline, the no porn no ejaculation ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT OF THEM ALL. HANDS DOWN.
“Out of all the habits I have been cultivating over the last few months including the ones in 30 days of discipline, the no porn no ejaculation ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT OF THEM ALL. HANDS DOWN.”
Don’t you mean, HANDS OFF!?!
Seriously though, this is one of the greatest diseases of our day that is attacking men at the emotional as well as physical core of their being, and is no different than many other viruses out there that make you impotent, weak, and unattractive.
I applaud your efforts, and successes.
You will only fail if you quit.
You will lapse. You will fall down. You will fail ‘at times’,
But you will never fail if you never quit.
Last time viewing porn or masturbation was October 14. It’s Oct 20 now. I’m on day 6. One week as of tommrow and I plan to never go back. My attitude is with ejaculation is from now on it will either happen with a woman or it won’t happen at ALL.
G=D help me
i make a promise
to never masturbate
never look at porn
ever again
i feel ashamed
i will try
and i will succed.
if i dont make it will hurt and i will hurt myself additionally.
the end is here.
today was the last porn m- session
Stop YOURSELF you know better (…myname)
i must know better.
help
i believe in a g=d and so this is serious-
NEVER ever- HELP
HELP
i cant
help
i need
help
WILL IT WORK
OR IS MY MIND ALREADY SPOILT
I WILL STOP ONE DAY-
THAT DAY IS TODAY:
Well… i;m 19 and i’ve been masturbating frequently since i was 15. I can tell that it makes me tired. Yet after several breaks of 1 to 3 weeks i’ve noticed that i have more interest in women. But it’s not just that. It’s more like an obsesion. It’s odd to speak lightly with a girl about random thing and then suddenly feel the urge to bite her neck. Really…. theese breaks give me more energy, (mostly physically) yet it makes me feel more anger, frustration,desire to beat up somebody’s ass.(even the girls that give me the boner). I find that it’s better to be dull than to continuesly crave for violence.
Great article. Quitting porn and masturbation is the best antidote for a Man in the 21st century. It is a corrupt, filthy, vile industry that only serves the purpose of exploitation and degradation of human beings. You are a brave man, given that millions of little wankers are everywhere on the internet and are quick to defend their porn addiction, it really does feel like a losing battle sometimes. Pornography, prostitution, strip bars, it’s all wrong. There is no justice in a world where bodies are bought and sold.
I want to ask you Victor, I am a firm believer that Pornography should be banned, for many reasons I can’t even begin. Do you think porn is an aspect of human freedom and should be allowed in society? And do you think porn should be banned?
Regards,
Jasur
“given that millions of little wankers are everywhere on the internet and are quick to defend their porn addiction”
You have no idea how many emails I get from these fiends defending their perversion.
“I want to ask you Victor, I am a firm believer that Pornography should be banned, for many reasons I can’t even begin. Do you think porn is an aspect of human freedom and should be allowed in society? And do you think porn should be banned?”
No, I don’t think it should be banned. I think it should stay in the shadows where it belongs. 12 year old kids certainly shouldn’t have access to it with the click of a button.
Ok, I understand your point of view. I just want to clear something up in case it raises controversy, I am not religious. So my views about pornography are not influenced by religion. (That’s for the other users who may accuse me of being religious)
I see pornography, the porn industry as extremely evil and immoral. I don’t know if you have a daughter, I don’t either, but I’m sure neither of us would want them to join this filthy industry, so as it remains legal, that means that other people’s daughters are going to be part of this. Now, I’m not being a white knight here. But I can’t seem to think that this should be part of society. I can’t see how it is justifiable to film somebodies daughter performing such degrading acts of prostitution. I do not see this as an aspect of human freedom. We would not like it for our women, so why is it ok for others to do it? Observing porn from a scientific perspective is only half way to the point. It has destroyed millions of marriages/relationships. And while you believe it should be kept in the dark shadows, the average age of porn exposure is 11. I’m sure we were all exposed to it before 18.
I want to ask you, are there any other reasons in particular, why you don’t believe it should be banned? Would you support a ban on porn if it was present?
I notice that you don’t appear to answer all questions asked in a post, but I would really appreciate you taking the time to answer all the questions I have raised. I don’t get to have these discussions much. It’s rare to find somebody who condemns porn. Thank You.
Regards,
Jasur
How on earth would you implement a worldwide ban on porn? You can’t and it’s pointless to discuss. All you can do is take care of your house, it’s your neighbors responsibility to take care of their house.
Should we ban employees from working for big corporations as well? Those poor suckers are cogs in a cold hearted, money making machine and they don’t even know it. Those poor young men have fathers, do you not feel empathy for those fathers? How could they let their sons follow such an unfulfilling path in life?
Once a person turns 18, they are free to do whatever they wish with their life.
Your sentiment is understood, but it’s wrongly placed. You’re way of thinking is much like SJW’s in the sense that you wish to ban that which you don’t agree with. That doesn’t increase the freedoms of everyone else, it strips us of them gradually.
I don’t know what Victor will say (if he even replies), but there’s many more important things than porn that a person needs to be worrying about.
If you don’t like porn, don’t watch it, plain and simple.
Out of sight, out of mind.
Live life how you want and as long as other people aren’t taking away your freedoms/interrupting your life, leave them alone.
I had not felt so compelled to respond, but this is all I’m going to say to you:
Judging by your quick response in defense of Pornography, I am going to give you the same consideration as I do to all typical porn addicts, and that is not very much.
Goodbye, and speak to me when your mind is clear.
Jasur, this is all I’m going to say to you;
Mind your own business, idiot.
I didn’t defend porn, much like the same way I don’t defend obesity or laziness. All I said was for you to live how they want and let others do the same.
Find a better way to use your time.
Listen, Mr coolie, no need to act so tough on the internet. All I sense is a die hard liberal moron. You want your porn? Go ahead and be a little wanker all your life. Any man of honor would support the banning of such filth in society. It appears Porn has become so normalized and accepted in your society, you cannot imagine life without it. Because everyone you know is addicted to this shit. You lack the morals to be a decent human being, and you are a manufactured result of your filthy capitalistic society.
” All I said was for you to live how they want and let others do the same.”
No, I won’t live how ‘they’ want me to.
“Find a better way to use your time”
Says the one who responds same day.
Yes, “they” was supposed to be “you”, it was a typo on my part. Also, I have my email connected to these comments, so I get notifications of replies right away.
Anyways Jasur, that’s just to clear up the confusion you seemed to have at the end of your comment.
The rest I won’t bother with. You can’t change stupid.
Watching Porn wil f*** you up. I agree totally with this post. My whole yought teachers/doctors told me it was no problem. They were Wrong!
Your words are gold Victor
This video helped me quit porn for good https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7cxy5iWfYaA. Reprograms your mind to not want it
for me, the best thing that made me quit porn all together and never look back is when I learned that porn + masturbation lowers your androgen and dopamine receptors sensitivity, it blocks those receptors so testosterone and dopamine cannot bind as effectively to it so it makes you less of a men and less motivated. if you were profoundly addicted to porn when you quit you will experience withdrawals and your dopamine will crash, making you feel like shit, so you got to keep going through that period, then you will feel amazing… or use a dopamine agonist for some times, like pramipexole, that shit is awesome. I dont give a shit about the moral aspect of porn, the problem is with health and psychological issues.
this is the best shit ever written!
i was suicidal, i didnt understand what was wrong. now i got part of my head back. i dropped pua and porn. now i talk to girls everywhere and i got bit more laid. now when i lay down bed to dream about girls its comes naturaly. i cant wait to meet girls, i keep thinking about how to make them mine. i want one girl more than others atm. she hates me for some lame things i did. i plan my way and i make her mine.
school = easy
I thank you Victor for help.
Hey !
Porn was my main problem, still fighting. I want to get rid of masturbation to. How ? I know 1 time
a week is good deal because it avoids from have any stuck semen, more is just entertainment. I don’t want to be one of those guys. Usually i have fallen back to masturbation after having sex with a real girls :D
I agree with a lot of what you say in your other posts and think you’re a very smart guy, but you’re wrong on this point, in my opinion. I think for myself unlike most of these posters whose heads are lodged firmly up your ass, who will agree with whatever you say.
I am far from average, am a self made millionaire banker with a sky high IQ and in decent shape. I find masturbating constantly takes away that horny feeling and allows me to stay calm and not have blueballs, and no longer put women on a pedestal. I feel I’m happier and disregard women just like they disregard me cuz I’m shy, socially awkward and not handsome. So I say fuck you to them before they can say it to me. Masturbation is the secret to life.
I’ve been able to keep all my money, no alimony no child support none of that bullshit that most men deal with cuz they didn’t masturbate and got trapped by some cunt due to their unmasturbated dick.
Finally a comment that make any sense here. I was starting to despair with this anti-porn, anti-masturbation, anti-fun zealous here.
Just like you Ram The Banker, I don’t give a fuck about women anymore. I’m a proud self-sufficient pornosexual and never had that much fun without any inconvenient.
No stress! No time wasted! No Money spent!
Just FUN, a lot of FUN!!
Keep at it boys! More women for us..
Victor,
The link to reuniting.info you have in reason #10 is no longer working.
The PDF on reuniting.info is back up. I guess it was taken down temporarily for updates.
Im 6 days porn free nearly banged one out today this thread has stopped me i think,
is masturbating without the porn ok im reallly busting a nut im surprised i lasted this long , i have a partner but shes not interested in me any more im wondering if the porn thing has subconciously caused this,we had sex about 3 months ago for about 10minutes it doesnt feel like making love ibalways believed it was her whos the problem i know shes fine with her vibrator but not interested in me so maybe shes watching porn???? If i dont masturbate i dont get anything weve been together for 10 years byt now have a 5 year old kid and hav only had sex once every 2 to 3 months in last 6 years where as before it was like all night eveynite. Im really stuck i can see porn isnt the way forward but i need a relationship in my life without this it feels pointless my child is the onlything keeping me going
Point 1: Straight and to the point…It’s good that porn is disgusting, but sad that we have to look through so much of it, just to find something that doesn’t make you want to vomit, because if we all loved it, we wouldn’t shut it off the second we blow our loads!
Point 2: I agree on a few points made, but the problem is not US… People make it sound like we’re the disease; Is it any more bad wanting to jerk off to a pretty woman on a computer, because that’s where thousands upon thousands of women prefer to be now days. I agree get the disgusting crap off the internet, but at the end of the day, some guys like myself, aren’t going to get any luckier, whether we’re looking for “Asian Stripteases” , “Asian Nude Catwalks”, than if we turned off our computers and went to a library, bar or club, just to get ignored all the same, assuming you don’t get lucky and end up with a sexually transmitted disease.
Perhaps if women wouldn’t be wagging their tails on the internet for a paycheck, or whatever, people wouldn’t be judging guys for me, because a need in our lives isn’t being met, BECAUSE women aren’t up to the task of being women anymore… I’m so frustrated at times… And I’m sure you guys feel me, and have been there… You spend 45 minutes to an hour looking through one disgusting link to the next, for 5 minutes of just one decent looking female that you are attracted to, and sometimes you spend so much time looking, that you just give up, because your no longer horny, then go to bed depressed.
I hate the porn industry with a passion… but like I say, WE aren’t the problem. They do it willingly, and Social Media advertises it willingly, and it’s next to impossible to find a woman my own age, because everyone teenager in town wants that porn money. So they wag their undeveloped butts on the internet, doing disgusting things, and guys like me have to suffer, while trying not to vomit….
I don’t consider everything on the internet as Porn, but 95% of it is totally disgusting… If they got rid of the sexual acts, I would be totally fine with that… Biology makes me queezy anyway… Anyway, women aren’t exactly interested in relationships now days, so whats a guy to do…
Iam to dying stop.. iam just dying……
I love the lead in paragraph. Truer words have not been spoken. Porn creates a cycle of mediocrity. You waste hours scanning through websites to get that hit, each time trying to find the right video to stimulate you. For whatever reason you opened that incognito window lust, boredom, lonliness you don’t find anything that satisfies. You’ll be back in a couple of days looking for more.
You’ve created an outlet, but it doesn’t do anything for you and it just feeds on itself.
I’d say if you’re trying to kick porn, try to not to masturbate too much either way, till your more in control of your urges.
Hey victor, nice post.
I want to ask you, would you ever befriend anybody involved in the porn industry? I don’t think I would, i.e. the producers, directors, etc…. imagine if one day they came to you and gave you advice on business and stuff, would you be willing to listen to them? if they tried to befriend you, would you become friends with them?
I doubt it.
That is so true… only losers masturbate and m one of them… but not anymore… i was aware of all that u have written but was only confused because majority of the people say it is good.. COOL BLOG KEEP UP
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This sight rocks, since I joined I have gone 7 days and 15 hours no fap and I feel pretty good about it, it really makes sense to stop wasting your seed on the carpet for porn sluts, I hate how this addition makes you feel after the deed is done. I would rather expand the energy trying to fuck real woman. It is really sick when you think about the voyeurism involved in porn masterbation, 5 guys ass fucking a lil tiny slut in front of a camera for a fat rich director saying CUT! If I do masterbation again I will try to just lay in my bed with my imagination of a real women.
“5 guys ass fucking a lil tiny slut in front of a camera for a fat rich director saying CUT!”
Fucking hell dude, you might as well just call that rape porn. No girl would reasonably choose to do such a thing. Getting gang banged by 5 fucktards? WTF. Can you imagine your sister/mother or daughter doing such a thing? I would imagine not. The whole industry is just sexual trafficking. That’s the good thing about quitting porn, you are also no longer supporting an industry that fuels human trafficking and exploits survivors of child sex abuse. Time for a reality check though: If you’re watching that kind of porn you must be really messed up in the head. But good job on you quitting, no need for bullshit like that, I wish you success in your journey to quit porn.
No I’m not messed up in the head at all, you can look at porn now a days and see images of gang bang scenes, that’s normal practice with porn today, and you can’t rape the willing, these women in porn get paid a check, and they drive of in Lamborghinis and benzes. So for you to call it rapes sounds pretty ridiculous.
So you don’t care that the women and girls you’re getting off at were most likely sexually abused as children? Especially in the sick and degrading type of porn you watch? You think it’s normal? What a disgusting person you are, looking to justify your sick perversions. If your sister came home and told you that she wanted to have sex with multiple men while they degrade and abuse her, I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t think that’s ‘normal’. Most porn today has a very degrading theme, it’s about punishing, degrading, verbally and physically abusing and humiliating women for the sake of masturbation and entertainment. If you can’t see what’s wrong with that, then my friend you are truly messed up beyond any help. Instead of justifying your sick perversions, why not admit that your compulsive behaviour is a problem in the first place?
“these women in porn get paid a check, and they drive of in Lamborghinis and benzes. So for you to call it rapes sounds pretty ridiculous.”
The abuse of women in the sex industry is well documented. Many have come out and given their story of abuse and rape. Just because a few big names feel empowered and “drive Lamborghinis”, it does not mean that’s a representation of the vast majority in the industry. If you actually do some research, you’ll find that even the most prominent pornstars (I won’t name them, unless you insist) were raped or gang raped at some point in their lives (usually as children or teen years). And that’s the cycle that most fall victim to. Sexually abused as children > see yourself as an object > do porn or prostitution. Stop contributing to the degradation and exploitation of women, your sisters, daughters and mothers.
The fact that you support an industry that exploits the most vulnerable in society, makes you as evil as the pornographers who lack decency and empathy and respect for others. It makes you and them no different to human traffickers and pimps, because you all have one thing in common: The treatment of women as objects and goods, to be used and abused for entertainment purposes.
If people like you are going to be the future fathers of the American nation, then I’m glad to die before I see the destruction before my very own eyes.
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In theory you are correct and probably a bad ass, but lets be real about it. Lets say you are a guy who never did well with women for a myriad of reasons, the healthy benefits of orgasm dont change. Yeah youd like to have some model or even an average looking woman in your bed but it does not happen. You need to keep your parts working. Staring at internet porn for hours on end is harmful but you still need to cum regularly and it is healthy. Whether it is with a woman or porn or just in the shower, having orgasms is never a bad thing.
If internet porn keeps you from exercising or going outside or talking to women its a problem, but it can be a brief supplement to your life. Using it can actually make a man appear more desirable to women. If I am not getting sex regularly and am trying to talk to a woman, I am more likely to come across as overbearing or desperate, total turnoffs to women. However if I can use porn or whatever to jerk off on occasion it helps me relax and if I act like I dont really care if I get to hook up or meet the woman, she actually finds me more appealing and mysterious. Reverse Psycology.
Anything in volume is a problem. Porn affects marriages families and can make women appear like obects. However, instead of just stopping using it, ask how it affects your life. Orgasms give you more energy and can be a way to make you approach your wife or girlfriend more often.
What we need to ask ourselves is how can we do better with the opposite sex. Most men do very poorly or simply dont want to date piggy fat sloppy women. When we are young there are simply less desirable women when compared to the amount of men out there. This might reverse as we age, but ask any man in his 20s who isnt overwhelmed by pussy because he is a stud, being horny without a release will drive you nuts. Porn can be a good outlet.
Life is about balance and trying to do everything you can to achieve and there is nothing wrong with being reminded that women actually will have sex with me when you arent able to score.
Good article, and it’s true. As one who went from porn to pornless it was true, but then porn returned and never went away and i once again asked myself what in the hell am I doing? Yeah Ive spent many years struggling with this on and off.
Well one day after porn, i googled stuff as has become the habit. I googled circumcision. the sad truth is while Erectile Dysfunction and Premature Ejaculation are problems that porn makes worse, getting half your penis cut in a very traumatic and brutal fashion as an infant, will basically guarantee you that by the age 40 you are having ED and PE problems
It is really not the porn that is causing the ED and PE but rather the fact that half your penis was ripped off. granted porn can cause the problem i.e. Japan, but speaking of America here, our penis problems are not solely due to porn
also because Sex becomes uncomfortable every time without a foreskin, a man will soon realize that he can struggle through sex or masturbate(struggle free). He will also learn that his foreskinless cock, will simply be unable to arouse him physically and mentally enough so he will resort to porn. If he had had his whole penis he would learn, porn is not needed, he would have over 20,000 nerves to stimulate just fine, and sex would also go back to being enjoyable. the wife would never whine about how she is not in the mood as she would orgasm and one can find studies of how orgasms cure headaches.
Also the habit of lubrication that a man might pick up via porn, is solved as the foreskin provides natural God given lubrication
so while your article is right, the reasoning isnt all there.
if Americans stop cutting off half their newborns penis, then odds are he wont find a compelling need nor urge for porn because his equipment will be more than up to the task.
in essence, porn is for the sexually broken man. ripping off half of his penis at birth guarantees said boy will become a sexually broken man. Yes some arise above it, and some like Japan are left whole and still creature “Herbivores”, but overall the deck was not stacked against japanese men, it is however stacked against american men whos very first lesson is “you arent good enough out of the womb, so here have some brain damaging physically damaging painful surgery because I love you. p.s. no anesthesia bitch”
Stay off the drugs. They’re clearly not working for you.
Well today is day 21 for me no fap, I do feel good, I am energized and I feel better over all. My moods are swinging and switching, and my horniness is though the roof, I just keep trying to focus on the benifits, I do see a lil bit of a change in my dick though, it feels rubbery, my balls too. It seems like it hangs more than it use to in the past and has more definition than in the past, honestly. I can’t wait to try it out on a woman, I have not had sex in over a month, but not for the lack of trying, just can’t get no luck so far. Fuck porn though, it is a false sense of gratification, this site and the 10 reasons have taught me that now, I am tired of freaking myself out, I have been doing that since the 6th grade, time 4 change. I Try to look at it in scientific terms now, if you are yanking the cum out of your dick and using porn as an aid to do it you are robbing yourself of energy and true pleasure, I see now why it feels so bad and evil when it is done, it was nights that I felt like pure shit after pmo. My new motto now is NO thurst….No Bust! I will be honest though, if I don’t get me a sweet slice of pussy soon I might have to go buy me a blow*up doll and fuck the shit out of it.lol, hey it’s not Pmo, just to relieve some of this Testosterone.
guys who dont watch porn will put more effort into their relationships and also in trying to meet girls.. simple. if you watch porn and play with yourself all the time you pull that natural drive that makes us men. makes you lazy in dating and pleasing women because you get used to erection=woman pleasing us right away without questions and all we do is sit there playing with ourselves. men who dont use porn are always going to put more effort in the bedroom because they will have a desire to that has not been robbed by internet porn. thus men who dont watch porn = the ultimate women magnets and men who do can watch women slowly become uninterested in them. Devolving dudes! brah up
What a dumb idiot u are. ” thus men who dont watch porn = the ultimate women magnets and men who do can watch women slowly become uninterested in them. Devolving dudes! brah up”.
you really believe in this? Something must be wrong with ur brain.
brain damage? Lol.
I sort of vouch for this. I usually watch normal porn but it just wasn’t doing it this one day, and let me tell you, I watched some shit I deeply regret.
It’s most helpful to me.
One guy write in the comments that now after he stopped masturbating then he started to man up now, especially to his boss and his boss is not happy about it. Lol
lets see when his boos and co workers get tired of him and he get fired from his work. Lets see then how much man u he is then.
Im sure its not because he become more a man from not masturbating. Its because when u dont masturbate for long time then u get easier irritated because u didnt get it out from ur body whats inside u.
but u dumb people on this site u think ur so smart.
and some other guys write that after they stopped masturbating they approach more girls or that the girls notice them more. Maybe its because when they dont masturbate for long time then they feel more horny and then they feel more tempted to look at the girls/women and aprroach them or smile to them.
so its not because they become more man or better looking and not because the girls notice them more. Its just because when they didnt masturbate for long time then they become more horny and more tempted to talk and smile to the women and approach them.
but even this can be good. But it can also give problems in some situations if they keep looking too much at some women who dont like that or if they keep approaching co worker women or look at co worker women in a bad/naughty way.
and its not because they become more man from not masturbating. Its just as i said because they become more horny and more desperate to contact sole women.
but u can also do that even u masturbate, if u just put in ur mind to take chances and contact/approach more women.
If people want to masturbate a lot let them do. Nothing dangerous about it.
and if people want not to masturbate for 1 week or 2 weeks or 1 month or 2 months let them do that.
you dont need to make a big story and deal about this.
i dont believe u become more strong from not madturbating and other things he write in this blog/site.
i lift the same weight if i masturbate or dont masturbate.
yes sometimes its nice not to masturbate for 1 week or more, especially when u have a girlfriend and want to save more energy to have sex with her.
But other times its nice to masturbate more often. Especially when u dont have a girlfriend. And it also makes ur mind relax more and its actually good against depression and other things.
if u dont masturbate for long time u can feel more depressed or sometimes difficult to fall asleep and u also have more hot temper and sometimes u will be more desperate and more pushy talking to girls if u feel to hot because u didnt masturbate for too long time.
Only when u realise what u have lost will u discover a lot u missed out in the real world while u are busy wasting your energy during masturbation try and fight it like I do one day u will get over it
Victor, I am a new man. I am no longer a week and porn slaved animal. I am free and I am living my life to the fullest. it was almost impossible without you,
Thanks brother.
I was a porn and mastubation addict just 40 days ago…last week a male coleague came to me and told another coleague, a female one wanted to talk to me, as she was on leave I had to make a call to her and the first thing she said when she picked up was pleasantly surprising to me:” Americo, what happened to your voice..!.”
You know Vic, this topic is helpful but of course I still struggled a bit with the de-addiction process until I met this catholic priest who is from the redemptorist congregation and he opened my mind further by God’s grace and I believe I also now have this ability to control myself really well. I’m all good now. I feel guys with the wanking and porno problem should not find this embarrassing to read as it may help them too, especially if they want to quit the addiction. Peace bro
I believe that everyone has different reasons to stop watching porn, but lists like this one has the potential to make you think about your porn addiction and whether you consider stopping it or not, which eventually can lead the person to figure out his own reasons, and the longer the list, the better it’s, because some of us are reaaaaly stubborn.
Spot on! I’ve been off porn for over 2 years now and it’s totally changed my life. I walk around like I have the biggest cock in the world.
Men you rock
Thank yoooooouu
Science and psychology say this artical completely wrong https://youtu.be/GU3JqoUDkjA
Nice english. It’s article, dummy.
NoFap will increase your testosterone by 45% after 7-10 days, and the longer you do nofap the more non-resistent your androgen receptors will become to testosterone. Therefore after 7 days when your testosterone will lower slightly your androgen receptors will handle smaller ammounts of testosterone in a way that benefits your superpowers. I would say first go 7 days without masturbating. Then masterbate ONE TIME because your body will peak after 7 days. At that point you won’t have lost all your sperm by ejaculating once. Then wait another 7 days. You will feel more powerful this time. Now ejaculate again. Now keep going forever, and dont ever ejaculate again even during sex say no i wont ejaculate. Because you will have so much power by that point 30 - 60 days from now you will be able to accomplish everything you want to accomplish. Your third eye will also open up better. But what you need to do is cut flouride out of your toothpaste. Flouride in toothpaste is much more pronounced in toothpaste by a shit ton than in your drinking water. Then switch to spring water. Then eat organic foods. They are all stepping stones to make you the manliest man able to get any girl you want because you have confidence and are more invested in yourself and less needy because you don’t have to ejaculate to feel good. You wont be a zombie. Sperm is your life force energy. Dont lose that shit, unless you are trying to create a baby. We are the masters of society. And Women are the nurturers. Women are now starting to become more manly because they accept all of our sperm we feed into their mouths, and that seed spreads. Thats why today men are losing the battle to keep society together. We are pmoing to porn. Hitler wanted to ban all porn because he knew it was bad. He also didn’t approve of alcohol or tobacco. Giving in to these things are definitely whats killing the greater you. Dont be submissive to this shit. Dont give in like your doing now wasting your sperm energy. You will become so great you will have the power to attract forces around you, you had no idea were possible. NOFAP WORKS. Girls are attracted to me like they never have before because they can sense my energy. My energy is profound to them. To other men, I look like I can handle anything. Its not bro science. I told you how this shit works, and if you follow what I said you will feel on top of your life. DO NOT GIVE IN. These are temptations which keep you at the Animal like consciousness. We are not animals despite what mainstream music has been presenting to us. GET REAL. GET HONEST. GET SELF CONTROL. GET DOMINANT.
do you think that only masturbating AT PORN is harmfull or it applies to masturbating in general(even without porn, you know olfd fashion, you know, only you , your hand and your imagination)?
Because if you do not spill your seed at least once per week it increase chances of getting prostate cancer…suposedly
do you think that only masturbating AT PORN is harmfull or it applies to masturbating in general(even without porn, you know olfd fashion, you know, only you , your hand and your imagination)?
Because if you do not spill your seed at least once per week it increase chances of getting prostate cancer…suposedly
so to masturbate or not?
I m very much happyGod still bless u for your good advice to young friends ok thanks 4 your life is sowonderful to ushappy to thank u my friend
Great article…not only from physical and pyschological benefits but also, moral a faithful catholic we know that porn and masturbation are objectively mortal sins as are any sexual acts outside of marriage…
“The access to endless variety of porn causes your to constantly search…”
I think a word is missing.
Victor, you are a self righteous douche nozzle. You ALWAYS speak in absolutes and it makes you seem like a moron, which you clearly are not.
To be honest I make a big difference between “no porn” and “no masturbation”.
When I used to masturbate a lot watching pornhub or redtube, I literally used to give up on my plans for that day and did nothing. Also, I felt like I had no energy and the more I ejaculate, the less pleasant it felt.
I still masturbate, but not on a daily basis as before and I try to use my imagination or read erotica/comics and sometimes pictures. This made me masturbate a lot less and enjoy it a lot more every time. I don´t feel blue balls or end up tired after masturbation.
I still consume a little bit of porn, but now that I read this… doing so is pointless. I has no benefit at all and is not even gonna help you on your sex life, because real sex is so different from porn…
Thanks!
I wish all those lost souls in darkness who are still binded by e spirit of masturbatiom would read and try this and see how it ll incredibly change their lives for the better and live a happily ever after kynda lifestyle
off porn 64 times now. find it easy to talk to people in general better at my job
Thanks Victor been having this issue come up again.
This is so inspiring and encouraging. In fact, i do masturbate 3-4 times in 2hrs every week. BUT after reading this today, totally decided never to masturbates again in my life. Really thank GOD for you out there
Wanking also harms the body strature, like it makes your butt inwards like flat, so it wont be perky and sexy
“Internet porn is a succubus whore from Hell intent on draining you of your vital seed, your testosterone, your energy, and your desire to succeed and conquer.”
Classic.
I could have read just that and there, that would have been enough to stòp me. But I couldn’t help but read the rest of what you do best, tell it as it is in raw truth form.
Nice one Big V..
So true. I’ve been doing nofap for a while now and it’s extremely difficult, but so rewarding.
You literally feel happier. Like I can actually feel an emotional difference when I haven’t jerked off in a week.
It’s great if you’re trying to learn game, too. Nofap will motivate the hell out of you to go out and meet girls, hahaha.
“A naked BLACK man”…
Was this necessary? Could it not just be a guy?
Was it necessary for you to point out, racist?
Why does the guy fucking the dog have to be black though! Christ!
oh yeah it’s quite interesting for me cos I had always thought I couldn’t. but you know it was difficult not impossible, it’s been 35 days since I musterbated. And it really feels good to know that you too have achieved something incredible. life during those times were something else I would get angry, depressed and be wanting more of porn.
but right now lyf z changed more happy and not feeling stupid cos I know I am in control now. I thank God for how far I have come. and for friends like u helping to change lives with your stories
Thank you for information,MAY GOD BLESS YOU
This is the best post I’ve ever read about porn addiction and its negative consequences on real manhood. Porn is awful and sick as hell, an unnecessary piece of waste for your human and masculine improving. God bless you and your site Victor
I found a lot of this argument one sided and not indicative of the whole story. Taking each of your points in turn.
1. saps of you previous energy? Disagree. Wasting an entire weekend getting drunk and going to clubs to try and get laid wastes your time, your health, your energy and your money. Have a wank, get it out of your system. Then 15 minutes later when you are chilled out, continue that much more important business task so that you will one day not be a wage slave working for someone else. Women dont find wankers attractive, just like they dont find horny penniless dudes attractive. Get loaded, get successful, then get all the sex you want. If a wank helps you get more out of your day than chasing pussy, then do it.
2. scare mongering by the establishment. No evidence to support the claim.
3.I dont know about wanking in Japan, but in all other respects japan is an advanced country that is highly populated (has to import food, so its good that their population growth is at maintenance level). They are also the healthiest nation in the world, with their elders living into their 90’s.And they have good community spirit with the older and younger generations still communicating. THey have the highest standard of living in the world, along with switzerland and norway, so they have got somethings right. I cant speak for young dudes that are perhaps annoyed at how difficult it is to get laid with the girls, so they just abandon the concept, but if you are saying Japan is fucked cos they are all wanking, thats rubbish.
4. your voice may become deeper. Or it may not. Either way, if you are relying on your voice depth to get laid, you have no game at all.
5. Fair enough, Im sure this works for some people.
6. Thats a possibility. Testosterone levels also rise after winning a fight.See all the evidence about testosterone levels in the beaten fighter. Anything challenging that took great effort to achieve will give you a psychological and possibly hormonal boost..But its not unique to wank abstination
7.I think a lot of people feel calmer after a wank, and thats why they have one. As a form of natural stress or even pain relief , its quite good. Not to mention the fact that you are reducing your chances of prostrate cancer.
8.In my experience chasing women, they run away from the horny rapist (in their eyes) that wont stop pestering them, and they run to the calmer more collected type. But thats just my experience.
9. I’ll give you that one. Pornsites are full of malware. Always use a…
10. I guess you are talking about a young demographic here. When I was chasing pussy, there was no internet porn, but there was still video and magazine porn.Porn can get you charged up to go out and get some, or it can take the edge off things so that you dont lose the run of yourself and end up in jail. Its a big expensive time consuming hassle chasing women and in most cases they will get away with your money. But if you want kids, its a necessary evil to learn how to get on with women.
Bottom line as i see it? Everything in moderation, including porn,sex, drinking, , work, business, money, family, sport, challenge.
Porn probably gives dudes an unrealistic expectation of what type of bird they can pull, so in that regard its important to be able to distinguish fact from fiction, just like in the movies.Just dont be suckered into thinking that wanking is the route of all your problems. It isnt. Its merely a symptom.. Go watch a Tony Robbins video or something.
Moderation is for the mediocre. Decide what you want and then burn your boat.
I agree with what you are saying. I am 52 years old and am fairly muscular and getting leaner all the time.
Women like muscular men regardless of age and i agree that women typically do not age well.
Glad i found you. Great site.
Really I would say you only need one reason to avoid it and its not a religious reason either its the fact that the woman or should I say whores involved in the porn industry are faking their orgasm. Thus the saying reality bites is not true, unreality is the actual bite.
So while it is true that the impulsive male type will initially be attracted to woman being “wild” this so called wildness which is in itself only a calculated civilized tactical mind assault on actual natural wildness will always reveal its fraudulent being which is inert.
The woman who removes all her clothes is spent which is the agenda being pushed by porn promoters. But as said they are not woman they are whores..
Sorry porn pushers and whores you don’t represent woman you represent the whore and the pimp.
They say trump will ban porn I doubt it but its a good proposition in any case.
When I was dating my husband I noticed some things I didn’t like. Imagine your only sexual desire being your spouse? That’s all he and I wanted, and I wasn’t about to compete with other women for 100% of my man’s eyes. He had to make some choices.
He mentioned this book he was thinking of getting, called: “every man’s battle” (it also can be a woman’s battle). After he said that, I decided I wanted to know every angle of this book. I drove to Barnes and noble and read the book in a few hours. I told him that I had read it, I understood what he was dealing with and that he had my full support. That sort of blew him away.
I recall the book saying, that if you wanted to have release to think of your wife. Or, atleast I would say, the one you love. That anytime you chose to look away from other women (especially in porn) an amazing occurance would procure. That you would become on fire for your woman. Just as God intended. That yes your wife will have flaws just like you do, that beauty does fade, however, those imperfections are OK because they’re yours. She is yours, all of her, including the imperfections compared to fake women who aren’t yours.
The struggle like any addiction takes major dilligance. I love my man and trust him 1000%, but I DO NOT SHARE. And never will! There’s times where it’s hard. Go back to the basics. Stress, illness, trying times are apart of life. People book-it out of trouble before they see the strength and closeness they get once the storm is over.
Hope that helps :-) more power to you on this journey and walk away from the emptiness. You get strong when you train consistently in the gym. Your mind is a muscle too. Way to step up to the plate!!!!
Sincerely,
Happy wife, happy life.
EACH TIME YOU MASTURBATE IT REVEALS THAT YOU’RE WORTHLESS.
Hey Victor,
So I’m on a ‘no-porn’ streak for about 1.5 months. It’s not 100% since I have had a few ‘cheat’ sessions for a few minutes, without going all the way through (you know what I mean) (it’s a bit hard to go cold-turkey, let’s admit it)….And what I’ve noticed is this:
~ I’ve had much more energy in day to day life.
~ Somewhere around day 20-25, I noticed a more ‘dominant’ and ‘masculine’ feeling in my mind. It’s hard to describe but I had that ‘I can take on the world’ feeling.
~ Talking to girls has become more fun; And I mean this in a ‘social’ sense and not a ‘sexual’ sense.
~ Women seem to be far more attractive than usual.
~ You get things done faster.
~ There is a sense of ‘calmness’ and ‘direction’, which is yet another thing that is hard to describe.
I’m going to go full-on cold turkey now and see what happens.
Sam
Even if you have an attractive girl, this will not save you from dependence …
I do want to stop but the whole “making your voice deeper” thing concerns me considering I’m a female.
Does the deep voice thing apply to women too? Damnit.
I am sorry but there is an error you’ve made in this post that you should think over it because they way you explained it doesn’t seems appropriate as it can lead to Racist
So it comes back to one thing. Self Control. Too much can lead to less interest in sex life and erectile dysfunction. Little makes it seems like your life is meaningless. I am happy being in between with internet porn involved.
I just want to say I found this by looking up: “I need something hardcore to masturbate to,” and now I am going to go find what I’m actually looking for.
With all the chicks I see on online dating materials, I don’t even bother to watch pr0n anymore. In fact, I’m beginning to develop a theory that guys who watch pr0n instead of having actual sex are closeted homosexuals.
masturbation is not for men. yeah definetley not for men, we don’t need this anymore, not for me no no no.
Yes.. great article. Masturbating is healthy, but doing it too often sucks.. rather a woman suck than you.. haha
I have been an internet porn and masturbation addict and all I can say is that it was all negative both physically and mentally
Here are some of the negative impacts I noticed in my life as an addict:
1. Low self esteem and lower self confidence
2. Introverted
3. You become needy and clingy due to no social activities
4. Hurried speech, this is caused by low self esteem you tend to talk too much
4. Social anxiety
5. Blurry eyes
6. Lack of energy
7. Low sex drive
8. It may lead to internal bleeding
9. You never get satisfied
10. You waste data and time
11. You may begin to act stupidly due to brain damage issues
All these are more are the results for being an addict of porn and masturbation.
Since I stopped I gained more confidence and high self esteem I now talk less and i’m happy about out i’m no more clingy and a stupid people pleaser I know how many chances I miss with girls due to this i’m still regretting it
I went back though but I’m using this as a point of contact to stop all such acts.
Thank you very much indeed,really,it’s the big solution that I have got from you.I ‘m looking forward to you to be more familiar with you for more achievement.
What a great eye-opener. Thank You so much,
It is really true! when i in back to school[where i don’t have my pc in the hostel] on the first day no talking to girls but as time goes on like a week, the class donates all the girls to me yet at home i even don’t talk to my neighbors daughter
NoFap is the shit that got me onto this path.
I used to indulge, with actual 100+ tabs open, probably for 1-4 hours, 5 days per week and every time when my parents left the house I would do that shit just for the sake of pleasure, I probably had been exposed to porn since 11 or 12, not even sure when I started it all, but when I was 16, I realized that I am a skinny, hypersexualized, perverted, confidence-lacking, disturbing person. I found out that NoFap is a thing. I did it for two or three weeks, but then I started doing PMO again, then I would fall into heavy cycles of relapse, to then start another streak again, I would do it so many times, however now 1 year later I am maintaining a powerfull routine of workouts, pure knowledge of what I desire to achieve, cold showers, constant self-improvement and learning and I feel more control over my consciouss and subconsciouss cravings and I am not joking, but you literally do not crave the shit, the longer you practice NoFap and Semen Retention.
If you are serious about NoFap or SR, you prefferably want to avoid ejaculating forever, AVOID masturbation, edging and any solo play together and any fake visual-sexual images, videos and internet resources. It is the only way you’ll become serious about your life, because when you have something to strive for, work to do, passions to burn energy and gain strength at, you will have no time for thinking about that stuff, it will happen organically and you’ll grow happier with every day, more confident and I can talk to humans like you talk with humans, I can maintain long eye contact with no effort, my mind is progressively becoming calmer, happier and more stable.
When you think about it, naturally the only time we would ever ejaculate was during reproduction and when you were not making babies with a female, your mind and body were focused on hunting, self-presevation, strength gaining, survival and growth and development, therefore by the toxic and poisonous thought of “healthy masturbation and pornography and hypersexual indulgence” people are breaking after every 3rd or 4th day the natural build-up of their existential advancement that was created to be by the nature untill the DNA is successfully spread, therefore your efforts can be slowed down for some days because you have expanded your genes.
I am practicing long-term semen retention and that’s my only goal. I see only good things on the side of the fence where the grass is greener.
The story of my teenage life has been wrapped around porn. Sincere articles like this are the ropes that keep me going and gives me hope. God help us.
thanks
Hi guys. I am now on my 9th day with no Porn, Orgasm or Masturbation. It is quite hard, but I am still going strong at least.
I have no girlfriend though, so I cannot get any sexual experience that way right now. I have had the idea though of healing myself more sexually while also getting some pleasure at least by getting a tantric massage with lingam massage included. Lingam massage is said to help with sexual issues, and it can help with becoming multiorgasmic. What is your take on this? What do you think?
Well Here is my story I’m 24 years old been watching porn and masturbating since about age11 high speed porn since about 13 14 . even though i had many sexual partners in my life somewhere around 80 plus who knows . I still managed to watch hours of porn daily tyll my dick is sore I experienced many issues because of it like the following . loss off energy, unclear thinking, weaker erections, mood swings, trouble communicating I would get bored with the same partner very very fast,my ability to fantasize in my head became non existent, feeling insecure and over thinking sex, i needed crazier porn to get me interested nasty shit that i would be discussed embarrassed if anyone found out in real life, I had numerous relationships where i got very tired of the sex life even though the girls would do anything that i ask and they were great girls. the list goes on and on
But I never though that there was anything wrong with watching porn all day tyll i felt like it was taking a toll on my energy levels and my sex life . life in general . So I hit up Google for answers I found great stuff this page saved my life i’m very greatful also yourbrainonporn.com helped me understand a lot.You Tube Gary Wilson and he explains everything and it makes sense porn wires your brain its like a addiction I believe its worse then some drugs in my opinion its tougher to kick then smoking or alcohol. It took me many attempts I cut down a lot its been few months i been doing a lot research and i cut down big time I still slip up more often then i like but here is what i noticed I spend hours reading blogs like this watching your tube videos Gary Wilson Is the man its not easy but its worth it .
My mood is better, more energy i dont need as much sleep, my dick is hard as its ever been in all positions like never before, sex doesn’t make me nerves i’m confident in my performance , i actually can feel the woman’s soul while looking at her not closing my eyes and thinking about the porn i watched in the past , it just feels more pure and natural like its supposed to be Every time i see other woman i just feel like i can connect with any woman any age race body type with no effort they come to me my aura seems more powerful I feel like I can read them in bed during conversation great feeling i give off better vibe I also work out but my workouts are much stronger i feel like a animal some days I think more clearly better performance at work i been better ppl person . I live by the rule of not wasting the nut. I see the beauty in woman in different ways I get crazy just by looking at a woman or her looking at me light touch little things drive me crazy meanwhile before it would take so much more to get my attention I feel like my eyes are open to the world
So the only way to really find out is to eliminate porn and masturbation get educated and stop getting brainwashed by porn real sex is nothing like porn you will become a real MAN more dominant more assertive confident woman will find that attractive ppl close to u will notice a change for me its a great experience best thing that happened to me for me that was like a drug that i been using since very early age any questions email me [email protected]
Great Article!
I Think Masturbation is one of the major issues men face these days.
Gosh if you could just describe the feeling inside of you when you go 2 weeks with no fapping or even sex, the animal you wake within you is on an entirely new level.
Get Hungry Gentlemen, it is always for the better… then feast on something worth it, not some goddamn pixels
well, it gets me very edgy, irritable and stressed, I prefer to be a calm and poised animal. masturbation and porn induced masturbation is two different thing. sex is much better though.
Gentlemen,
Lay off the porn and make a commitment to just say “hi” to three women every day. Keep doing it daily and you’ll see how eventually you won’t even have to consider porn. It doesn’t make sense now, but it will.
-Alex
http://www.inertiawillhurtya.com