Everyone loves a humble guy. That's because no one has to compete with a humble guy. Everyone hates a big ego guy, because a big ego guy points out your own shortcomings, lack of skill, desire, heart, dedication and discipline.
All champions have big egos. Without a big ego they would have never become a champion. They would have been just like Joe Average crying about the ego of Chuck Champion.
Ego isn't a bad thing. Ego is a must. A big ego is just high self-esteem. All champions have egos. It's the ankle-biters at the bottom who cry about “humility being a virtue”.
You cannot be a competitor, and a winner, without ego. The desire to be a winner at all costs is what drives champions. To a champion, losing is worse than anything else. Losing is too damaging to the ego.
When champions lose their ego and become humble is when they start their decline. You know what's humbling? Losing. Losing is humiliating. Winners don't lose. Only losers lose.
Here is the real deal about humility: You show it to your superiors. You do not show it to your inferiors. Champions have no superiors.
Humility is for the humble. They can have it.
Show me a guy who has no ego and I'll show you a guy who's comfortable taking 7th place out of 7 contestants. I'll show you a guy who's comfortable with the taste of shit in his mouth. You cannot be competitive and not have any ego. You can be non-competitive and have no ego, but so what. That means you are a spectator. That means you're a critic.
When you want to learn something that's when you can be humble. When you're already King Shit you can act like it.
If humility were truly a virtue we would turn on our TV's and worship humble and dirty street beggars, on their knees begging and crying for pennies, instead of worshiping big ego sports stars, actors and TV personalities.
Don't confuse braggadocio with ego. Ego is the all-consuming desire to win, to not lose, and pushing yourself past the limit to do it. Bragging is arrogance and empty boasting. Ego is pride.
You've got to have ultra-confidence in yourself in your specific field. You can be humble all day about the shit you don't know anything about, but when it comes to your area of expertise you should be Top Dog, King Shit, Cock of the Walk, A-#1, Big Man on Campus. You can feed the ankle-biters some scraps every now and again, after you've eaten your fill.
Be proud of your accomplishments. Whatever they may be.
If someone complains about your ego just ignore them. Don't let them drag you on down to loser-town.
They say: You're so full of yourself!
You say: Thank you for the compliment.
So I went out with some buddies last night, and I was a complete asshole and got more chicks talking to me and giving me their numbers than ever. It got so ridiculous it became a frikken game to me, my buddy would just point out some chick and I was on it like a lion on a gazelle. I even said this to one chick…”Why dont we just cut through this getting to know you bullshit and let me get your number, because I’m going to get it anyways but let me get it now before I’m actually drunk” like taking candy from a baby. I had one girl look over at me and actually say “guy, that’s too much muscle…” I said oh you like the skinny boys huh? “No, but your just too much, its a little extreme (as she is looking me up and down) then she says “but if I ever need help moving furniture I’d call you” I immediately respond back “First off, thanks so much for the compliment because thats the best compliment I could ever hear from a girl (as some guy overhears it and shouts out “I WISH some chick would tell me I’m too big, nice!!”) and second off, IF YOU WERE EVER LUCKY ENOUGH to have me come over to your house, I’d show you a magic trick and move your fucking couch across your living room with both of us on it. Then I start talking to her friend and completely ignore her, sweet talking her friend “oh yea, we should go out sometime, do you like to eat at such and such” girl is really into me and practically about to orgasm in her pants, friend is now super pissed off and jealous and just looks miserable. I go to leave and tell the bitch “So very nice to meet you, thanx so much for your compliment and we’ll see you later Sally. (didnt know her name so I made one up to add insult to injury) but got friend #2 number. I walked in that place like I was king kong, guys were moving out of the way left and right apologizing to me over nothing ,and girls were drawn to me like flies on shit! I didn’t even buy my damn drinks, all the guys who thought I was such a bad motherfucker bought me drinks all night. So let me break it down for you, #1 -I’m one of the nicest dressed guys in there with clothes on I got from Goodwill #2- I’m the biggest alpha male prick in the bars and get praised for it by other men, and intriguing to hot girls, #3- I had a bitch who was so impacted just by my presence she tells me my physique is too extreme (and I was wearing a long sleeve dress shirt too!!) and eye fucks me up and down, then gets torn apart and her own friend gives out her # to me in front of her #4- I get more numbers than I know what to do with……all because my ego is too big and I’m an asshole!!!
Take note gentlemen. What I say sounds harsh sometimes but it’s the real deal.
Haven’t posted in a while but I’m glad to be back. I diisagree Victor, it would be harsh for you to lie to me, but you don’t. Due to the unbreakable confidence I have right now I have finally become deaf to all haters. That is correct, totally, hopelessly deaf. It took 3 years of practice, but at 20 years of age I can say that I am 100% in control at all times. I feel like batman. As soon as bullshit turns on I am mentally transported to a world I call Samtown. In Samtown I am number fucking 1 whether it is true or not. In Samtown the opinions of lessers means less than the piece of shit pennies lying on the sidewalk. Unless they’re a pro, they are swiftly and rightly thrown kicking and screaming out of my life. I have found myself alone these past few months but I couldn’t be happier. My dog smokey is my best friend now and I wouldn’t have it any other way. The sheep may go to the slaughter but I’ll be the one at the head of the table feasting. I am always indebted to you Vic,
Sam
There’s a big difference between being a half ass with a Big Ego and delusions of grandeur and being someone who has skills, intelligence, and abilities and has a big ego because you can back it up. There are too many half ass big ego idiots out there and not enough alpha male big ego/can back it up Types.
You sir are the fucking man, pin some suspension and role up in that bitch!
Nice work man. Everyguy at one point has said “oh hes such an asshole i dont see what she sees in him.” I use to be one of em and i always knew deep down thats what it takes to get woman but never actually tried it until after I found this site.
What a great story. Proves that EGO is one of the keys to success. thanks for sharing the story, very inspirational.
Don’t be stupid humility actually means that he or she has more self confidence it does not come easily the bigger the ego the more insecurity yes we should all strive for the best but In the end were only human I saw this and was disgusted yes we all have egos even as I read This I I had to keep my ego under control like dude your no more human than anyone else you can’t control anything or anyone unless you wish to be some delusioned biatch I to once had a huge ego and I learned the very hard way
I hear u bro and I agree.
Western Hoes are dumb and superficial. Not a good measure of manhood.
Try impressing a drill sgt with your mouth or body. Or an isis fighter for that matter. Good luck with that.
“”Why dont we just cut through this getting to know you bullshit and let me get your number, because I’m going to get it anyways but let me get it now before I’m actually drunk” like taking candy from a baby.”
Awesome
another good tip for you guys, let the chick talk about herself for a little bit, and right when she is in the middle of it just walk away to go use the bathroom and then stop and talk to a different girl on your way back or your buddies. It’s a total mindfuck to them, and makes you even more desirable
”’d show you a magic trick and move your fucking couch across your living room with both of us on it. ”
THIS
THIS
Ego can work for you if you are to become a Champion or you already are. In other cases, you are gonna come up as an idiot…
I won *in 10th grade) Badminton (1st), chess (1st), and modeling (again 1st) but I had no ego, I was still one of the nicest guys, respectful, got many girls, and I was respected like anything….
I think people who have big egos are sadistic, insecure and are easily hurt…
Often people who have low character will have big egos as soon as they achieve something even if it’s money from their parents * that is not earned)
A lot of them do get a lot of girls and all that but that is short lived…. Their relations don’t last long and they soon have problems like depression….
I have actually seen that happening to about 2-3 friends…
These people with big egos end up being very lonely and sad and when they loose everything, it is only then that they realize what they have missed and their mistake…
For e.g. if u cant handle the truth my comment may never be published or edited…
Badminton and chess? I can see why you don’t have a big ego.
heh
Seriously? Look, I play a ton of chess so I’m not knockin’ your accomplishments but all I heard when I read your comment was you trying to drum up pity for your cause. I’m gonna go out on a limb and say you’re still pretty young and you haven’t been in anything long term. I was in a relationship, years ago. I did exactly what you are advising; I was nice, I was kind, I listened to every little dribble of bullshit that fell out of her mouth. You know what happened? It got worse, she was never satisfied, a miserable human being which made me miserable. She stopped me from hanging out with my friends, redecorated my apartment with all her shit, and made all her problems my fault. The last straw was when my dog, whom I had had for nearly ten years, ended up dead and all the evidence pointed to her. She was a psycho and I let it happen. The next relationship I got into, I went out of my way to not give a shit about what she said. I did what I wanted, laughed at her whenever she tried to argue or tell me what to do, kicked her out of my apartment more times than I can count just because I felt like it. Made her buy me stuff and generally did whatever I wanted. We were together for nearly a year. She’s married now but to this day she still calls me and tries to come over whenever her dweebass husband is at work. Woman hate the pedestal. If you really want to learn something, go google a dude named Gary Brodsky. Probably the best breakdown of what Victor and Robert are talking about I’ve ever read.
I can understand what you are saying. But you were abused and now you have become an abuser. This legacy must stop, there is no need for it. You were in a toxic relationship but now you are making the relationship toxic.
Just like that toxic relation ended, this will end.
And I bet you have tons of dripping pussy telling that story?
No, your bet was wrong.
I forgot to mention, somehow I developed this skill of getting girls in just a click…
Yes I am confident and I have high self esteem but still I am nice with others…
You should read “You can Heal Your Life”
Ah, here it comes. You’re trying to sell some of your bullshit, hippie garbage about “healing”. Go play badminton and don’t come back here.
I was right in thinking, you are damaged, you have anger problems. You anger must be costing you a lot but you wont admit it to yourself let alone publicly admitting it.
I don’t have any problems with anger. I don’t hide my anger, like a little fairy. Like you. My anger is on display for all to see.
Telling some one “dont come back here” just shows you are not competetive. So, you rather not deal with the truth and just want to avoid any debate or anyone else’s view. Ususally that is a trait of people who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Watch in youtube “Body Count - Institutionalized”. You are making some people angry by telling/writing garbage. :)
wow! when i first read this article I was all like “this guy is a total douche bag” but after reading it again I realized to was right. Having an ego ie being confident in your own abilities removes doubt and when you have NO DOUBT you fucking WIN
As in FUCKING WIN
I can’t stand pussy-ass liberaltards who think that being chill is somehow going to get you girls or get you a mother fucking promotion. No sir. Girls love dicks. And being a total dick to a chick is a great way to get dick. Fuck YEAH!
So be a dick to get dick.
get dick? wtf
Only losers talk about ego as if its a completely negative thing! This is right on!
I’m not against people who have a big ego. It’s your life, no one let you tell you how to live it. It’s just not for me. I’m more of a balance type person. I used to be completely against big ego’s though and couldn’t stand to be around anyone who had too high of one. I’ve gotten better with it.
The only thing is that out of everyone I know who has a big ego, when they do fall (have a moment of depression or whatever), they seem to fall much harder than others. (I guess the higher you are, the harder you fall?) Which can be dangerous. I’m sure you already are aware of this though. :P And it may not be the same for everyone of course. But, just be careful. I’m sure you all got friends left and right for support though. x3
Anyways, just continue being you. It’s good to have people like you in this world.
That’s an astute observation. The reason is because it’s not really about ego at all. There is a lot of confusion here in that what is mostly being talked about is not healthy ego but rather narcissistic personality disorder or plain old sociopathy.
The girls you get by having big egos are those who have low or no self esteem. These girls are clingy, a lot of these have other mental issues and disorder such as BPD, BIPOLAR etc. I would never date such a girl, its a waste of time.
Yeah… contrived or humility to please the mediocre is bull.
However… find me a navy seal or sas dude who has seen action , felt fear, seen good men die that is arrogant …. i have met a few and they are not bragerrs.
Lots of ego and arrogance in football stars and such. Realisric it is not. We are all human no matter how tough.
Ego is putting on a show for others or your own looking glass.
Somewhere in the middle of the post I had a big smile on my face.Losers talk behind our backs while we rule.
Being fully ‘altruistic’ is extremely painful, because you feel like youve become aimless. Do you feel the drive to achieve reading this poisonous crap?!! OR WHAT!!! But I think jealousy or ignorance is not the way of the champion, and we can all be that, no matter how good we are at our chosen profession. And hating yourself when your not good at something is wrong too.
BUT! I think there has to be this thing in you, (that can cause evil) and its going to be really confusing what your going to do about your ego, even if its being humble, to please it. (but that didnt work for me) Its no good being racist or sexist either, because black women want to achieve as well, in the way they like.
Hello.
I like your blogs!
I am a woman on my path to becoming more feminine to attract a masculine man.
As a masculine woman, I have a huge ego because of all my accomplishments.
However, I know being more feminine=humility. A huge ego in women is a turn off right?
Anyway, so to “crush” by ego I focus more on my feminine actions (connecting with people, self care, leisure hobbies) than on masculine actions such as achieving/being a perfectionist with work and school etc.
Because of this, my ego is not as big because I am no longer forcing myself to be the perfect strait A student or make 6 figures or refuse help be a strong independent woman lol you get the picture.
Do you think this is wise?
Ego and compassion I feel like go in opposite directions.
When I had (still do) a big ego because of all my hard work, I am very cold to anyone who is a failure just because I get really annoyed by the victim mentality.
Now that I am becoming more feminine and less of a perfectionist myself, I have more compassion and a colorful instead of black and white view on situations. I still despise victim mentality people, but again trying to be a softer more compassionate nice person.
Obviously a masculine alpha man is very important to me! LOL
please respond <3 thanks for all you do!!
If you’re looking for an opinion from someone other than the poster, allow me to share mine. Take it or leave it for whomever is along the same lines of thinking as this female. I literally cringed when you wrote that feminity = humility. Never once have I thought that. My ego is not humongous but it’s pretty substantial. I’ve done well in school and landed a job in one of the top fortune 500 companies; did gymnastics, dance, piano, and judo. Planning on going into parkour. I know I’m competitive. I want to win. Yea I get down when i don’t get what I was aiming for, but I don’t blame others for my failures and I don’t resent them for winning over me. They merely become my rival and someone who I strive to beat next time. I learn their weaknesses, strengths, and see what worked for them and if it’ll work for me and if I can build off of that to get even better. When I do beat them, it’s even sweeter because you’ve proven yourself against them and your former self. I personally don’t care for women that either act or look weak. Have a low.opinion of yourself is downright disgusting in my eyes personally. No one ever changed the world or even had a presence by thinking they couldn’t do something or affect someone. You have a problem with something , don’t fucking complain, what can you do about it? Seriously there’s always something that can be done, even If it’s small. If you think you can do more, I don’t see why you shouldn’t if it’s something you want. The world is your oyster and there are men that furiously love that attitude and will look at you with love, lust, respect, pride and even jealousy because you have what they want and you share yourself with someone they cant hope to measure up to.
Dimure women frustrate me to no end, so do those that have no basis for comments they make that they can’t back up. I hold the same standard for men. I like my men athletic and tall and on top of their shit. Thats my personal preference. And I want to be able to go toe to toe with them whether it be in a professional, social, or athletic (especially in the bedroom) sense. I will never be physically stronger than my bf, that’s just a fact of biology, but I have other traits that tip the scales in my favor and I use them mercilessly and revel in that. I’m sure there are men that like dimure women, but that’s rarely respect, mostly thats control. And I can relate to that because I do get pissed with cats. They don’t listen and will always jump on your shit. You cannot train them like you can a dog which is eager to please and can be broken and instilled with fear (in a disciplinary sense). But I don’t want a lap dog for my man, or a cat who doesn’t care about the words coming out of my mouth. I desire respect and loyalty. They do something for you because you’ve won their love and respect (such a large ego boost :) ), and you may come to expect certain things because of who both of you are. I am a furious person, i am also somewhat manipulative but not in a way that results in physical or mental pain, i cry during some movies, i am caring towards animals (except cats), i tend to think of most people as sheep and have little empathy or sympathy for them spending on the situation (excludes matters of uncontrollable health), but i am not ignorant of their problems or refuse to listen, and I love family, nerds, and competition. Anyway, just my two cents. I don’t take denial of the things I want lightly, because I see no flaw with who I am or intellect to be denied, and there needs to be a really good reason for me to lay down my battering ram. Most of the things I choose to do i do with confidence in my abilities and the confidence that if I’m not good at it now, i soon will be. I’m not perfect, but I damn well will try, will fall on my face, earn my battle scars and show them off proudly when I rise to the top because i know where I started and always prove to myself and others that I know who I am and what I can do. As said, having an ego without backing it up is what made it seem negative. Those who know they are kings and queens and used their own strengths to make it real have to right to an ego.
This is an interesting topic, and a complicated one. I was researching some occult stuff and randomly ran into this dude named Gary and then randomly found you… Before I tell everyone the complicated truth, I’ll start with the uncomplicated truth…
Uncomplicated:
Yes a lot of this CAN be true but there are arguments. However, the same pattern that is absolutely non-argumentative is the fact that this all turns into really, really bad advice once married and especially with children (neither of which I am or have so there is no bias here) I just know 100% from observations. And not surprisingly, blogs like this and guys like Gary appear to have no marriage or children in sight. And if they have those things, then they hide them and are not proud of them. This says a lot about the situation. It’s a good argument that woman like ego maniacs but once in a marriage with children, that changes - fast! Why should you believe me? Well you shouldn’t because it’s the internet but I have dated girls whose fathers and grandfathers were worth deca millions and unbelievably then (but understandably in hindsight) their mothers hated their fathers and vice versa. In fact, my ex even hated her dad. Why? Because they cheated both physically and emotionally on their mothers. You see a lot of woman (the ones that were not brought up by wise parents) don’t care about their emotional needs and yes find it attractive at first when men don’t care, either. But that changes with age and immediately with children. It’s not complicated. If you don’t want to hear that then think twice about marriage and definitely do not have children.
Complicated:
Your argument that ego is necessary to win is true, but the way you talk about it is false. Also, if you ran a real business (a serious one like I do, with advisors, investors, high profile partners and so forth) not only would you delete this blog post but you wouldn’t behave this way in real life. How do I know this? Because I failed in a previous business and I had a huge, massive, out in the open and arrogant ego. And guess what? I did in fact get any girl I wanted. I had lots of sex and I blew their minds in bed. But it turns out that none of them actually liked me because none of them knew the real me. I was only made up from my ego (and sounded very similar to your tone in this post here, although I would never have posted it online) and when I lost my business I lost myself, and the girls essentially left, too. And no, I didn’t lose it because I was weak or didn’t have enough ego, we just simply failed. I have a lot of balls, still do. But I suffered from depression not because of the loss but because it highlighted the fact that nothing was underneath it. It’s a very, very, painful feeling and I can not tell you enough how many successful men do not face it (because all champions will lose at some point) and adjust their attitude. Most will not face it, like my previous partners, and continue thinking/talking like you’re doing here, and all they’re doing is playing with fire. I’ll give you a prime example, previous business partner when losing it all had a huge argument with his wife (because he had to move out of state for another opportunity) and he had not worked on his ego. Because he was actually so hurt, but could not admit it, he turned his pain to “swingers websites” which he may or may not have used, but there’s your fire example. If his wife found out about that, it would be a very very unhappy marriage because in these circles you can’t get divorced and there you have it - life is ruined. So what’s the point in the story here? People that talk like you are talking here, have points but they are grossly misprepsented to reality and also very dangerous. Again I won’t lie, if you play with the fire and never get burnt it can be quite a euphoric feeling, but after my experiences and observing others, I would never advise it. In fact, if I really look at the situation real surgically then out of control ego and pride is another reason the business fell apart. Can’t admit your wrong? Have no humility? Well then get used to playing with fire. Again - you can in fact succeed this way but your chances are much lower when you think like this. You want to use Michael Jordan as an example? Go ahead, he was in fact very arrogant, but remember this is an outlier. We are talking the 1% of the 1% - if you behave like this in a boardroom for the most part people will throw you out or you will make lots and lots of enemies very quick. Donald Trump? Again another exception. Since I went down the rabbit trail I found the wealthiest people actually don’t want to talk about themselves at all - they are seriously humble. They buy big toys and shit of course but even if you didn’t know about that stuff, they wouldn’t advertise it or let you know. It’s the guys leveraged out their ass with fancy shit and no real liquid money in the bank account that have to call the news on themselves. Again, Donald Trump and so forth - an exception, a total outlier. Unfeotuantely, no one knows this because just that - they don’t blog and shit. With that said (again remember this is the complicated post) we can go back to getting woman. I don’t date much right now (choice for now) but I will tell you from prior experience that every single girl I had picked up (and we are talking some smoking hot, wealthy, and those with ambition and good paying jobs) all had DADDY issues! Every single one of them. Is this a coincidence? I think not. You may look out in the world and think “all woman are like this” and might be largely true! Because most have shitty fathers. Probably people like you. No hard feelings here, just being honest both ways. So your lizard brain says “all woman want this” but the logic really should read “all dysfunctional woman want this.” Again, let’s go back to playing with fire. I admit it can be kind of great (it fuels the alpha male ego hardcore) until you lose your business, lose a limb in a freak car accident, or have children etc. Woman don’t give a shit about this stuff after five years of marriage or children. The games only work when it’s a game. Now, understand the alpha male you are right now - you will think this about me: “Another bitch who lost shit and is complaining, another loser, that’s why he even wastes his time posting this.” Right? Well let’s feed your ego here.
I am posting because of one thing. It’s not because I think I’m a loser (even by accomplishments I’m still far ahead of my peers, NO ONE has a business of their own) and it’s not because I lost a smokin hot wealthy girl. It’s actually because I want different for myself and humanity however I am actually skeptical if it’s possible to find a woman who is not boring both in life and in bed, who has zest and sas, and is not ALSO at the core actually dysfunctional. Because see I think I actually do want to have kids, and I don’t want to play with fire (especially with children involved) so therefore I can’t settle for a batshit crazy woman now that I know better. So that leaves this post open ended and now your alpha lizard brain knows why I’m incentivized to vent here. I face a potential dilemma: Either (1) I have and was attracting dysfunctional woman or (2) all the woman, that are also fun, are at the core dysfunctional with daddy issues. Now, being an intelligent person (another reason I’m studying the occult, because it’s real and fascinating) I have to be realistic and ask: out of allllll the woman in the world there is not ONE that is fun, sexy, naughty in bed and does not want to play games or be treated like an object? I believe the answer is that there are, but there’s just less of them, yes… But maybe I’m wrong? Maybe they are in fact ALL like you’ve portrayed. I don’t know for sure, and I think I’m actually afraid of finding out! What a pussy I am! LMAO
You tell me, you’re the expert.
But aside from this, one thing I know as 100% fact is that all of this banter you talk goes right out the window with a marriage and children. And if you continue acting like that with a marriage and children, then expect a divorce, infidelity, or a miserable life ahead. 100% fact.
So is that how this rolls? If yes, then this is all expert advice ONLY IF you add in the details that it probably can’t be practiced in marriage and it definetely cannot be practiced with children.
I would be able to agree with that notion. Although it would still be with hesitancy based on what I’ve experienced and seen but I would not argue with that.
Looking forward to your feedback, if you have the balls to actually allow this to post… Something tells me (is it the spirits?) that you won’t let it run through.
Maybe it automatically does? Let’s see.
Winners are not people who don’t lose or fail, they are the ones that succeed despite their failures and don’t give up.
This reminds me of Arnold Schwarzenegger in the movie Pumping Iron.
He is calm, does everything to win, and KNOWS he’s the undisputed Champion.
This is a bit sad really, I think you boys need a way of self validating that reflects genuinely valued achievements realistically. You might find some self respect.
“You are a spectator. You are a critic.”
You are probably not very popular. Humble competetors attract FANS. That’s what happens, when you build someone up and let them know with enough hard work and determination they could compete with you one day, they grow to love and admire you.
When you’re an ignorant, egotistical asshole about everything, people tend to focus on what you’re doing wrong as a friendly reminder that you’re not perfect and eventually you will fall.
Be humble. Be prepared for the fall.
Yeah, like Floyd Mayweather and Muhammad Ali. Thanks for being a fan!
My ego is my sense of self, It’s what motivates me to just get up in the morning, to continuously better myself and prove my worth. I do know that I must temper my ego in order to avoid hubris. To deny my ego would be to deny my individuality, that what makes me unique and able to provide what no one else can. Those that seek to remove your ego and insist on your humility in order to form a harmonious group, are just pushing groupthink. It used to be that religion pushed this to pacify the masses, now it’s every political, rights or social group that have taken to using it.