My words are dual.
They are swords or they are medicine, that all depends on you.
Many cannot handle the truth, like Jack Nicholson said.
To those silly people who cannot handle the truth my words are like swords through their silly hearts.
Good riddance.
Any male who cannot stand the truth is nothing but a ladyboy and I spit on them… aaaakthooooo!
To the few good men who are true, my red words are medicine. My words heal the souls of the formerly sick.
This is the power of the mighty word of B&D;, it can kill you or it can heal you. Like my concubines always say, up to you.
Speaking of which…
35 years ago today, the God of a Million Red Words was born.
In honor of this great day, I give you my 35 secrets of life, liberty and the pursuit of God status.
Pull up a chair, zip up your mouth and open up your ears because, Dorothy, you aren't in the land of ladyboys anymore.
Where you live truth is but a fairy tale, a distant memory.
Here in the land of the ruthless, truth is an abuse.
And if I were to give you one humble piece of advice before you read these rules it would be this…
Prepare to be abused.
35 Rules for God-Men
Rule #1) Be humble
I've always been very humble.
It's one of my greatest qualities and it has allowed to do great business over many years now.
Like me, the great God of internet business, you must remain humble if you want to stay in business.
Arrogance is fine and fun, but it should be pretend arrogance!
True arrogance turns you into a moron. It stops you from thinking and reasoning.
You lose sight of everything that got you to the dance party in the first place so stay humble (on the inside only).
On the outside, it is perfectly appropriate to show confidence bordering on arrogance.
Rule #2) Be the center of the universe
Now that you're perfectly humble, you need to also become the center of the entire universe.
The world must revolve around you.
“But isn't that, like, not cool man?”
It's not cool for go-nowhere Johnnies.
For the greats aiming for God status, there is only one way to get there - make yourself the star.
YOU HAVE TO BE THE LIGHT.
People must go to you in the dark and return illuminated.
What they cannot see, you must be able to turn on and make them see, like a light-bulb.
Rule #3) Be outrageous
When I describe a day in my life to a normal person their eyes pop out of their head.
When they ask me what I do for a living, the only thing I can say is professional gentleman of leisure.
To them it's outrageous, but to me it's nothing but normal.
And that's exactly where you want to be - the spot where outrage becomes normal.
Rule #4) Never lower yourself to the status of an average citizen
As a God in training you have higher standards now.
You must be more, achieve more, believe more and aspire for more.
This is something that average Joe and Jane do not do and you must never lower yourself to their level.
If you do, you may not ever climb out of that dark hole.
You must always be more and have higher standards, to the point of being conceited.
Rule #5) Be selfish and conceited
You cannot be confident unless you're selfish and conceited.
Do you know what self-confidence really is?
It is a confidence trick and you only have it if you are SELFISH & CONCEITED.
If it doesn't have anything to do with me, I don't care.
I'm the hero of the story, not the innocent bystander, and you should be too.
Rule #6) Make yourself the hero
You have to see yourself as larger. If you don't, no one else will either.
It all starts with the man in the mirror and you have to believe that man is larger than life.
When I look in the mirror I see the greatest man who ever lived.
Rich, handsome, witty and humble. I have it all, and there is a reason I have it all…
Instead of waiting around for a miracle like you do, I decided to take it all.
You must see yourself as the hero of the story, never as the victim and never as an innocent bystander.
YOU ARE THE HERO!
If you are not the hero then you are the zero. Zeros do not get to enjoy heaven.
Rule #7) Reinvent yourself as your own heaven
You can change your reality at will.
You're never stuck with what you “are” because what you are is irrelevant.
Who gives a shit what you “are”! Only losers are bound by what they are currently.
We all start the same. We're all people. I'm a person, you're a person, and that person over there is a person.
No one is more human than human so the only advantage is what you believe.
Losers are so afraid of sounding cliche that they never do anything, they stay paralyzed by that fear of being gauche.
Men of power know that thoughts become reality and we don't give a good goddam if it sounds cliche.
Rule #8) Disregard the rules of others, write your own rules and live by them to the end
Other people's rules do not matter to you.
Rules are for fools unless you wrote the rules. In which case, rules must be followed.
He who is without his own rules is without standards.
He who is without standards blows like a tree in the wind, this way or that way, but going nowhere.
Write your code, publish your code for all to see, live by that code until the very end.
Publish your rules at your own blog which you started with the prestigious Badnet company.
Rule #9) Don't listen to scientists and other experts
Science “experts” exist simply to tell you what you cannot do, and they're always wrong.
Science is a theory and scientists always look unhealthy.
If you saw a science zombie shuffling towards you on the street like Frankenstein you'd punch him in the face and say “get away from me, retard!” so it's crazy to listen to them in the first place.
Look at me with a Tiger.
Rule #10) Kill over-thinking (don't think about it, just do it)
Don't you know what Bruce Lee said? He said stop thinking so much, stupid (I'm paraphrasing).
Thinking too much does you no good.
The problem with thinking is that it never ends until you make it end.
If you don't make it end you get stuck thinking things through for eternity.
How many losers have you met who have read 1,000 self-help books but have never taken a single step in the direction of their goals?
It is only ACTION that gets you from A to B.
Think up your plans then turn off the brain and turn on the action.
Rule #11) Be certain of your ability
There is only one things you need for success and it isn't talent, hard work, skill or any of that.
It's a little thing called C E R T A I N T Y !
You must be CERTAIN of success because if you aren't certain only one thing will happen for you: nothing.
You hear about self-confidence all the time but it's nothing, it's phony.
Self confidence is nothing but a confidence trick, you win when you possess self-certainty.
My body of work gives me the cocky aura of certainty. No confidence required.
Rule #12) Never use words you don't want to come true
Did you ever notice that successful people always talk about success and positivity and never about failure and negativity?
There's a reason for that…
THE WORDS YOU USE BECOME REALITY.
This is why you must always be sure to use POSITIVE self-talk, even to the point of arrogance.
Words are magic and they have a way of becoming physical reality.
2 rules of speech:
- Never use words you don't want to come true
- Always speak the things that are not (yet) as if they are so
A lot of people will not be able to handle these rules of speech and that's why most people are struggle artists and very few people are Success Gods.
Rule #13) Talk less, listen more
Don't talk so much, it is un-masculine and unbecoming of a deity.
Each extra word that escapes your mouth is a chance to lose.
We know words have power so we must use them sparingly and appropriately.
DO MORE LISTENING THAN TALKING.
You only learn when you listen, you never learn when you're running your mouth.
John D. Rockefeller was so notoriously tight-lipped that many of his employees didn't even know what his voice sounded like.
Rule #14) Be completely free of embarrassment
You have to believe with every ounce of your being that you are great.
If you don't believe it, it's phony and the people smell phoniness like dogs smell pee-pee.
If they smell your fear they will turn on you in an instant.
This is why you must never feel embarrassment.
Embarrassment is the same as doubt and doubt is for normal people.
Whatever you desire to be the God of, embrace it and never shy away from it.
Rule #15) Have high testosterone and low estrogen
You cannot be a Success God if you are a whiner. Whining is not allowed if you want to be successful.
But what about the poison environment that makes us hormonal (estrogenic)? Glad you asked…
Estrogen will make a whiner of even the greatest God-man, that is why it is imperative to KILL ESTROGEN! with extreme prejudice.
If you experience lethargy, brain fog, disgusting bloat-body, sour mood, or what my doctor calls every-day general faggotry you probably have high estrogen (from a poison environment) and you NEED TO KILL IT.
Here is what a real God-Man (me) with low estrogen looks like.
Rule #16) Throw away the clock
Nothing will kill progress quicker than worrying about time.
If you want to accomplish anything in this life…
THROW AWAY THE CLOCK!
When you throw away the clock you will realize one thing…
Time is a fraud and clocks are prison guards.
The hours in a day are long, when the clock is thrown away, anything can be done.
Rule #17) Forget ambition, cultivate aspiration
Ambition = the desire to own and accumulate more stuff
Aspiration = the desire to be more
Don't you know the battle cry of the better man? Aspire for higher.
The more you become the less dependent you become on accumulation of stuff.
To be more, get rid of more.
Mastery is about removal of distraction, not addition of stuff.
Rule #18) Master an art or skill
This secret alludes nearly all people who want success, but this is the real secret of success…
You have to be really, really, really good at something.
If you aren't good at something, you will always be nothing and it's as simple as that.
Cry about it or get to work.
Mastery = absolute and complete presence in the moment.
You cannot be distracted and become a master.
How do you eliminate distraction?
Rule #19) Throw your smartphone in the river and live your real life
The biggest killer of creativity in the world is sitting in your pocket right now.
You check it constantly when you're bored or nervous. You check it out of addiction and habit.
You have no control over it, you do it automatically.
And it's killing any ability you ever had to be creative.
What can you do?
Throw your smartphone in the river and live your real life.
Creativity arises from boredom and time alone, spent pondering.
Without boredom, creativity cannot exist, they are yin and yang like peanut butter and jelly.
Rule #20) Live with hardship
They say the current generation suffers from affluenza, a sickness born of an affluent upbringing.
And unfortunately for them, having zero strife in your life makes you crazy.
When things are too easy, men become ladyboys and ladies become dominatrixes.
It is only hardship that keeps you sane, strong, humble and sharp.
It becomes impossible to deal with the slightest inconvenience when you live a life of extreme convenience and comfort, so live hard.
Rule #21) Always look damn good
What do Jesus, Buddha, Shiva, Zeus and Ganesh all have in common?
They all look damn good!
And that's what you need to always do, always look damn good.
Like the Italians say, always be dressed to make love or die.
35 years old, still slender, sweet, and stupid like an 18 year old.
Rule #22) Never admit failure
There is no such thing as failure unless you quit.
If you don't quit all you did is learn from your mistakes.
Failure is not real, you either succeed or you learn so that next time you may earn.
The only way to fail is to permanently quit.
Admitting to failure means admitting you are a quitter.
Don't admit to failure unless you're a quitter who just doesn't care.
Rule #23) Never say “I don't know”
It takes a superbly intelligent man to say “I don't know”.
Unfortunately being a God-man has nothing to do with intelligence and everything to do with self-certainty.
The people in the pulpit never want to hear “I don't know”, they want an answer and to them anyone who “doesn't know” is a fool.
Always have an answer and if you don't know something, the proper response is, “I don't care”.
Rule #24) Give people what they actually want (not what they SAY they want)
Regular people want what they want.
And what they want usually isn't what they say they want.
You have to figure out what they actually want and provide it.
They have to feel good in your presence, that is why you give the people what they want.
Like Master P. said, make sure the consumer is happy.
Rule #25) To beat the competition simply realize there isn't any
Competition is something that 2nd and 3rd place need to worry about.
There is no competition at the very top because competition is nothing but a mindset.
Worry about competing and you will never be able to innovate therefore you will never be able to be at the top.
“Competing” is an endless cycle of mediocrity.
When you compete, you try to out-do your rival.
When you innovate, you correctly realize there is no rival, there is only the product and the customer.
Like Rockefeller said, competition is a sin and like Victor P. said, self-promotion is a win.
Rule #26) Learn the subtle art of self-promotion
If you aren't prepared to sing your own praises it isn't because you are humble, it is because you suck and you know it.
Everybody sucks at one time or another so don't worry about it.
Instead, concentrate on making yourself better.
You want to be at the spot where you feel comfortable saying you are the greatest whatever.
If you can't promote yourself, who else is there to promote? Other people (who you feel deserve it more than you do).
Promotion of others over yourself is for followers, and followers only crave one thing and it damn sure isn't success…
Rule #27) Never crave approval
Followers crave approval because it seems as though approval will help you fit in and be liked.
But that's not how it works.
Seeking approval does the opposite of what you want it to. Like Jim Carrey said…
“Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world.”
Care about people's approval and this is all you will be to them: their prisoner.
Disregard their approval and this is all you will be to them: their master.
Disregarding approval is the way you become wildly famous.
Rule #28) Shun fame
Chasing fame is a one way street to nowhere.
When you chase fame you take time away from doing the work that matters.
Instead of chasing fame, you have to chase great work and self-mastery.
If you're good enough, you will get famous without even wanting to.
If you aren't good enough, get better.
Do the work, fame will come when it comes, and that may be after you die, like Vincent Van Gogh.
The people always find genius, but they find it at their own leisure. Deal with it.
Van Gogh was unsuccessful during his lifetime, and was considered a madman and a failure. He became famous after his suicide, and exists in the public imagination as the quintessential misunderstood genius, the artist “where discourses on madness and creativity converge”.
Good thing he was committed to his work, he could have died and been forgotten like nearly everyone else.
Rule #29) Be committed to the Success God game
It isn't possible for you to work at something long enough and not get it eventually.
Usually pretty quickly actually. If you stick with it.
You marry this game and live with her 'til death do you part.
And like females, the game loves you when you're cold…
Rule #30) Stay cold and brutal
Nice people are nice enough but they're pussies and no one respects them.
That's the way the world works.
Nice = pussy
That's why women break up with males who are too nice.
Niceness is pathetic, it's phony and worst of all, it's apologetic…
Rule #31) Never never never never never apologize
These two words never leave your mouth, “I'm sorry”.
I almost vomited even writing those pathetic words.
The second you apologize is the second you cease to be a God and start to be a mortal (aka a loser).
If that hurts your feelings, well, maybe you should cry about it.
Rule #32) Care about what you can control and nothing else
Worry is unbecoming of a God.
Worry is especially pointless because people only worry about things we cannot control.
If you can control it, you can fix it.
If you cannot control it then you cannot fix it and there is no use worrying.
Worrying will only age you, make you ill and rob you of your Success God status.
“Don't worry, man, be happy.” -Hippie Victor
Rule #33) Always speak the truth
The only difference between a God-man a regular old ladyboy is this: Gods speak truth.
Only a confident man speaks truthfully.
Cowards and ladyboys use half-truths and tell little white lies.
It takes courage to speak the truth and only the courageous achieve God status.
Rule #34) Always be obsessed and patiently impatient
Even if you don't have anything else going for you right now, you'll get everything in the end.
If only you are obsessed to the point of madness and patient to the point of lunacy.
It takes time to be great. You must be prepared to wait (and work) through this time.
Average Joe thinks work needs to be done right now but the reality is this:
Procrastination can be a form of incubation.
All of my greatest articles took days or even weeks to write.
That is because I do not rush, I am obsessively patient. I've repeatedly found that when you rush, you often stumble.
Take your time and get the job done the right way. When you do things the right way you will finally…
Rule #35) Get up off your ass, enjoy your life and get out of the 9-5 jive forever
Jobs are for slobs and slaves and you know it's true.
Leave your job and live an adventure.
The genesis of adventure is here in paperback…
“This book is inspiring and amazing.” -Victor Pride
This is the first volume of Bold and Determined, the most adventurous part of our journey.
WARNING! After you read this book, you will no longer be happy and content with your job.
After you read B&D; Vol. 1 you will want more from life…
AND YOU WILL GET MORE.
But you will only get more if you follow the laws laid out in these 35 rules of the Gods and if you use the motivation dished out in Bold and Determined Volume 1.
That is a goddamn guarantee.
Until next time.
Your man,
-Victor Pride
Fantastic article Victor - I would like to thank you for helping me set up my own mens fashion website http://www.TheVitruvianMale.com through Badnet.
Seriously any Bold and Determined reader should have have their own website and I would highly recommend Badnet to make the whole process so simple.
I look forward to your new book releasing and I will make sure to grab a copy as soon as possible.
Thanks Ehti.
Great piece of work Victor!
Many truths are evident…
Powerful WORDS.
Thank you Nikko!
New post!
More sites Vic is willing to Link to!!
New book announcement!!!!
I could go on about how much I enjoyed having another post, but I won’t say anything you haven’t already said to yourself. I trust you understand how thankful I am.
Also, Rule 13: “world” I think should be “word”.
Thanks Tim!
Follow up: Are these other sites you linked to from other ronin?
Most of them, yes.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY & THANK YOU FOR THIS BIRTHDAY GIFT!
Thank you Ru!
Thought you was dead mate!
GLAD to see a new great guide written. Let’s read it now.
Thanks PJ.
I’m a fan of your writing and books. Looking forward to this.
Thanks Richard.
Happy birthday, Vic.
Thanks for getting another kick ass post out to the B&D Army. Always refreshing stuff, it really puts things into perspective and allows me see things differently. No other blog does it quite like B&D.
Looking forward to the new book. Better believe I’m getting it as soon as the release is announced.
Joel
Thanks Joel.
Thank you for the early morning punch in the face!
Well needed!
Thanks Dwight!
Happy birthday!
Fantastic article for the young gods in training aka New World Ronin.
Thanks Dylan.
So refreshing post! I’m looking forward to read your new book.
Thanks Johanna!
Happy Birthday Vic
Thank you for this one, really enjoyed it.
Haim.
Thanks Haim.
Happy birthday Vic! I was pumped to see a B and D article in my mailbox today! Thank you!
Thanks Nick!
Happy birthday, Victor!
It’s excellent to read another article from you. Can’t wait to grab the new book.
Thanks Vincent!
Do you still workout Vic? And if so what type of routine do you do nowadays? Thank you
Lovely just lovely
Thanks Louis.
Great Badass Article and Happy Birthday Man
Thanks Chris.
Only those who have mastered themselves can control others.
Reinvent yourself as your own heaven!!!!!
U got me with this . I just turned 34 . Had tears in my eyes at 12:00 am . Have wasted past 8 golden years of my life and youth . It hurts man , now i feel that time is slipping . Time is money . Now i know the real value of time .
This article gave me hope ….
Thanks
Thanks Ali.
Just get to it, the only time it’s too late is when you’re dead, and in the ground.
Start your legacy, now.
That is put together well. Solid finish. Nice job.
Thanks Chris.
Happy Birthday Vic!
This is exactly what I needed right now. This is your best post yet and I’m fired up!
Sharpened my focus and brought everything you have taught me together.
Thank you so much for your beautiful words of wisdom.
Thanks Wes.
Thanks again for your inspiring and ass-kicking words as usual. It really helps to read that.
Also, really enjoyed the FCG and hope you will make more videos after your book, your voice is pleasant to my ears. Ear chocolate they call it, it’s like ear steak. Strong, dominant, masculine, and assertive, the exact opposite of the non-sense nancyboy voices of all those 9-5 Johnnies I used to work with. Keep killing it Vic.
Thanks bud.
Once again, this article is pure gold. I’m looking forward to read your book. You inspire me and probably inspire thousands of other people continue your great work Mr. Pride.
Thank you Steven.
Happy Birthday Victor!
It was a long wait but a great article there.
Typo at rule 8- It should be write your code instead of write you code
Have an amazing birthday!
Thanks Sid!
Hey Victor,
I wish you a very, very happy birthday!
You might not believe this but I’m completely honest when I tell you that I’ve been following your blog since high school when I first discovered it. Although in the beginning I had only read your blog very sporadically, as I matured into my early 20s, your articles started to make more and more sense and I had more and more Aha! moments.
YOU were the one who inspired me to pick up the weights and start training. You inspired me to adopt intermittent fasting. It’s only now that I’m starting to look like I even lift, 5 years after starting going to the gym. As you say, IT TAKES AS LONG AS IT FUCKING TAKES and goddammit it feels so good when I look in the mirror and see how busting my ass in the gym pays off.
Although we may not agree on the college thing but thanks to your articles on mindset and aspiration, I have successfully elevated my GPA and I will aim to do so in my remaining semesters as well.
Although I’m not a US citizen, I wish to meet you one day and thank you in person.
Bence
My man. Thanks Bence.
Hey Vic,
Cool list, but, I’m not sure I understand rule #16. What do you mean by not to worry about time? Time is the stuff life is made of.
Could you clarify?
Thanks, Seneca.
Hi Seneca, perhaps I will explain why time is a fraud in a future article. Thanks.
This is almost like a handbook for living the perfect life of success. Follow these rules and you’ll go from joe-bloke to success.
This is what you’ll eventually figure out when you go on this path to self-realization.
Great article as always Vic!
Thanks Dan!
This is a masterpiece if I ever saw one.
Good to see you back in action Vic. And happy birthday.
Thanks Victor.
Happy birthday playa!!
Thanks Dominique!
Men of B&D, I am looking for your feedback on a very difficult question I’m facing right now. I’m really deeply torn between my two options & I keep vacillating back & forth like a little bitch. Please, read on & tell me what you’d do in this situation.
I recently left my cushy mid-level corporate desk job, to take over as the production & sales manager of a small specialty food company — a job with an EXTREMELY modest salary and ZERO benefits. I did this because A) I could take great pride in mastering a beautiful craft, and B) the potential to grow my income through high sales was there.
However, I didn’t know how badly the business was struggling. This week I had to lay off my 2 apprentices, so now I must run the entire department myself. That’s going to cost me about 80 hours a week, if not more. On top of this, the owner is adamant that he will NOT make the changes to our brand image & marketing campaigns that will lead to increased sales. So the growth potential has all but disappeared.
Now I’m basically stuck with a low paying job with no benefits, no free time, and no ability to grow my earnings. You all know the importance of self development, gym time, and time spent building your OWN empire — and yet you also all know the importance of earning a paycheck til you get there, and paying your bills on time.
Obviously, I need to move on. The question is, do I submit my resignation now, with no new job lined up?
Or do I continue working 10-12 hour days for peanuts, 7 days a week, and maybe squeaking by, sending out a couple resumes a day, and never getting to the gym, taking good care of myself, or building my side hustles into money generating machines?
I trust the insight of the kind of men who frequent this blog. So guys, tell me what YOU’D do if you stood at this crossroads.
Ricky Bobby,
Cut sling and move on! Don’t waste your time trying to change something you can’t control.
Victor,
Great article!
Thanks Mark!
Already done, Mark. I’m a slave to one man only. Myself.
Amazing work as usual Victor.
Vic, have you ever heard of Jordan Peterson? He’s a highly intelligent personality/clinical psychologist that places huge emphasis on study of the big 5 personality traits (OCEAN=Oppenness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism). He really goes deep on the many facets of human psychology and I find his work deeply fascinating but you know what’s really interesting is that he tends to believe certain rigid truths that come from scientific study. Like he often says that although people often say that everyone is creative, it isn’t true at all. He believes that true creativity is actually rare.
After being a fan of yours for years, I tend to believe that a man makes himself, regardless of his natural born abilities. He makes himselft through his own sweat, self-reliance and determination. And in the end, whether he’s a massive success or just another one of the normies, he has only himself to blame.
Thanks as always man.
Thanks Cody, I’ll have to check him out.
Amen.
I would love to see Red PCT available one day in Germany.
We’ll see what we can do, Hercules.
Happy birthday Victor!
Thanks Israel!
Really enjoyed the duality of Rule 1. Remaining humble on the inside while displaying confidence to the point of arrogance on the outside. It’s a concept many seem to have trouble understanding, including myself in the past.
The past few months I’ve been drifting a bit. Lots of activities going on with the wife and kids, getting over a 3 week illness that’s had me dragging, yada yada yada. I’ve lost focus and needed a slap in the face like this to get things back on track.
Happy birthday, Vic. Wishing you continued success.
Jak
Thank you Jak.
Happy birthday brother…live long and strong!
Thanks Rich.
Where can i buy that book?
There will be an article detailing it soon.
Victor how do you get over something highly embarrassing, a serious regret for example? I’m embarrassed of things I’ve done in the past and can’t seem to get over it. Am I being a pussy? Best article I’ve read of yours btw.
That’s a great question Fred, I’ll see if I can cover it in an upcoming article.
I’m not Vic, but I will say that I’ve been in embarrassing (and even some traumatic) situations and what helped me was that I just made fun of myself. We’re conditioned to take ourselves seriously and be snowflakes about every little thing. We’re also conditioned to believe that anything less than perfect = failure which is real stupid because as Vic said, the only “failure” is giving up.
That being said, amazing article Vic! I’m seriously considering getting your book and especially the professional blogging book of yours as well.
Thanks Joelsuf!
Brilliant, excellent, impeccable intent, indomitable will
Thanks Robert.
Happy birthday, Victor!
Excellent post. Hit home hard. well worth the wait. Thank you.
Thank you Hozzy!
Great stuff. I like how you’re building your network of Ronin with links to their articles.
I particularly found the point about not trusting scientists funny. I am a man of science myself having studied Molecular Biology in college and one thing that I learn is how little western science actually knows. I mean there is a lot of cool stuff from science, but what is accepted often changes and flip-flops so if you solely rely on it you are limiting yourself.
Thanks as always for your excellent work.
All the best,
D
Thanks Derek.
Congats Victor !
Among the top-10 articles in this blog.
Realism, bluntness and no-bullshit filler words.
Take those rules, study them and start implementing them in your real life, and slowly+steadily you will vamoose from the ordinary life of the average nobody out there.
And guys, I want to tell you something:
When I am talking about the “average nobody” I don’t say it with hatred or with the ambition to take revenge on the world…..”Average Nobodys” are probably our family, friends, the poor guy in the super-market who replenishes the shelves with the 600$ monthly salary, the delivery guy who brings the coffee in my office, 80% of people out there to be honest.
These people are not evil, rogues or nasty people, they just are “average”, perpetually stucked in “nothingness”, they don’t have any ability to add any kind of value to your life.
The bitter truth is that from a period of your life and after, i would say 25+ years old, you need to start to politely eliminate these people from your life (apart from your family), much as it sounds emotionless or “brutal”, and replace them with people who truly add value to you and uplift you.
Αnd again Victor, congrats for the superb article !
P.S. : and my Rule #36) when you are polite and humble there will be the few “smart guys” that will try to capitalize on you and make you look like you are their servant. In my “Average Nobody” period (first 28 years of my life), I would be nice to them. In my non-average period (the last 2 years) I apply the “Insta Nice-Guy Elimination” policy: “Get lost !”…..and they stop taking me as a nice guy. This is the only time you should be arrogant, rude and asshole.
Thank you George!
A new kickass masterpiece of old school art, rushed out of B&D badassery forge! Powerful points - especially the one where you talk about keeping on working and being really good at something are the key to a break through in any business. Can’t wait for the release of your new bible, so this is where we have to exercise impatient patience I guess.
Thanks Aleks.
Great article Vic. Truly inspired. Fire every time. Ladyboys 😆
Thanks Mike.
Hey man, this article was gold and I resoundly agreed with most of it. There were just a couple of points that I wanted to ask for your clarification.
Point 23: I do agree that being confident is key, and no one will respect a weak leader. However, many times shit have hit the fan when people pretend they know something, rather than admitting, they don’t know something right away and going out to find the answer.
Point 31: You brought up a great point, in the sense that people will apologize when no apology is due (ex. you call out your gf on something SHE DID, then she starts crying, and you beg for forgiveness). That is a cancer that needs to be eliminated. However, I believe on times WE screw up, it would be valid to apologize and move on from a clean slate.
Not sure what your thoughts are.
Thanks Sergio. Regarding my thoughts, I said everything I wanted to in the article. Perhaps another commenter would like to add his thoughts.
Well, a God will never apologize, but He may regret having done something. Like when the Lord regretted having created mankind. What did He do then? He sent the flood, to correct His previous action, but He didn’t apologize, actually.
Do you know what is the trick to the “Never Apologize” rule ? I think Victor has said this in the past in some other article.
To never do something that you need to apologize for. Get out of your head the “I don’t apologize” and embrace the “I will never do something that I will need to apologize for (aka DO WHAT THE FUCK YOU WANT providing you don’t break the law and do not cause harm to someone else).
And whenever a “smart guy” tries to lord it over you, or bring you down, you can spit a “Get the fuck outta here” and feel awesomely good.
I can feel you voice again when I was reading this article. #32 is the one that really talks to me. You only control on what’s under your control. Fuck the rest, that’s out side of you and you can’t do nothing about it.
#33 is always right no matter where you go. The truth always comes out sooner or later.
Looking forward to buy one of your books.
Thanks Christian.
I like what you said about competition. I dont believe I am competing with anyone. I believe in domination. I heard a saying “Dont be a little bitch, champions dominate”
Thanks Colten.
Happy birthday to the greatest God that ever lived!
Thanks Marius!
Hi
It’s a deeply serious text, yet I couldn’t help laughing or rather smiling most of the time.
I’m Brazilian. I wonder if you would allow me to translate the piece into Portuguses so I can share with a few friends who really care.
Take care and thank you for the masterpiece.
José
Thanks Jose. You can translate it to Portuguese but you must credit and link the original article.
Thank you, Victor. I’ll do that, but it may take some time before it is ready.
I’ll let you know. How do I get in touch with you? Is there an available e-mail for this?
José
You can use the contact page here: https://boldanddeterminedarchive.com/contact/
Great article Victor!
I have a question for you:
How to be cold and brutal and in the same time being always happy?
Thanks Lukas. To answer your question, paradox is the art of life. All is balance.
Indeed - life is a paradox, humor and change.
But everytime I am cold and brutal I feel like I hurt other people. After that, sometimes I have pangs of conscience. Any advices to remedy those feelings?
Absolute Masterpiece! Victor, a little more insight on testosterone again and will be highly appreciated
Thanks Umer!
Holy Shit
Indeed.
Gods always speak the truth? What if a self crowned God stands to gain a hell of a lot from selling a lie and taking advantage of the average men he sees as nothing more than cattle? Can you really tell him he’s wrong? With a Machiavellian state of mind, there’s no reason not to.
“That’s not nice. That’s not noble. That’s not honorable.”
Nah, I call bullshit. A self absorbed God who truly worshipped himself would have no qualms with lying, cheating, stealing, and taking advantage of whatever people or situations stand between him and his goal. I know that’s not a pretty, goody goody thing to say in the name of “self improvement”, but it truly is the end of the road for all who fully commit to crowning themselves as Gods.
Look at the rulers of our world. They truly do think of themselves as Gods and their wealth and power extends far beyond our imagination. By their sociopathic logic, its fair game for Gods such as themselves to do as they wish to cattle such as us.
What would little God Vic do if one day he stands in the way of a superior God with no moral limits and a level of power and success that little God Vic could never even dream of attaining? Would he cry foul play to being mercilessly trampled? Or would he accept defeat for not being good enough?
Would be interesting to see how that would play out.
Cry more.
Vic does say in the article that his humble on the outside. I doubt his walking around pushing people and getting in their faces.
I wasn’t referring to outward mannerisms. I was referring to the long term effects on the world if everyone, particularly powerful people, behaved in a way that solely benefited them while being destructive to everyone else under the justification of, “Well its good for me. I’m being selfish and alpha. I’m going to do whatever it takes to improve my standing in this world with no moral limits.”
Although he doesn’t outright say it (cause that would be “bad”), that is the end of the road when men deem themselves to be gods. The effects are limited on a micro level if you’re just an average person. But when you throw more money and power into the equation, the effects become catastrophic on an increasing larger number of people. At the highest levels where this philosophy is practiced, the elite view the rest of us as expendable cattle and have no qualms with starting wars, destroying economies, and murdering millions to line their pockets and increase their power. After all, they believe “I am a God.” So who are you to say what they’re doing is wrong or unfair?
The reason you’re able to enjoy all the good things in a first world country without worry of being looted and exploited is because most people don’t view themselves as Gods and live like it. They view themselves as mortal men and equals in worth, whether you’re a top tier businessman or a janitor. As more and more people adopt the philosophy of self-deification and remove themselves from moral boundaries (after all, “I’M A GOD. Morals are for plebians)”, society will inevitably collapse on itself. It won’t happen overnight. Its a slow death over the course of decades. Just look how drastically America has changed over the past half century from this ideology becoming more pervasive in the mainstream culture.
👽👍Alien agrees, anyone who objects should see me to get your free frontal lobotomy.
The fact that you call yourself humble in an article about being like a God is quite ironic. Nevertheless glad to see you brought fire after leaving us hanging for so long.
Thanks Regan.
This was a kick ass post and just what I needed.
Being British we have a problem with apologising all the time. No more. I will not succumb to that poison any longer.
Thanks Peter.
Another great article Vic! Nobody writes like you. nobody.
I have a problem following #13(Talk less).
I love talking, and it gets me amped up and energized when I get in a good conversation
with people, the more people looking the better!(although shy at first).
I always like starting conversations with total strangers.
I enjoy trying to gain power through conversation.
I enjoy talking loudly, but have noticed this is startling and may be a turn off to some people(woman esp.).
This must mean I am extroverted but does anyone have thoughts on this? Is it impossible to talk up a storm and be masculine?
Thank Eric. Always remember the unspoken rule: there are no rules.
Thanks for all the articles and lessons over the years, Victor.
I started reading your posts back in middle school. I was overweight, a bit awkward, and all the typical American teenager stuff.
It’s my last year of high school now and I’m making more money than my parents by copywriting online in the marketing and advertising niche. It’s still only low-middle class money, but it’s what I’ve built up to in the past few months.
I just hated the idea of working for someone else, despite everyone — my teachers included — saying that I just needed to get over that.
I’m still not sure if I’m going to hit up college, but if I do it’ll be in a field that I want to learn about and that will help me with my own endeavors.
It’s a hell of a grind, especially with school, but I’m making it.
I’m now fit, an athlete, still somewhat quiet, but I have an amazing gal who I’ve been with for almost two years now. Life is solid and good.
Hopefully, after I lay some groundwork, I’ll be able to move away from working directly for clients and segway into providing products to consumers and really make life grand.
I grew up without a dad and I honestly feel like I probably wouldn’t be here without your advice.
Keep fighting the good fight for as long as it does it for you because you’re making an impact on some of us.
- Brian
Thanks Brian.
Great post as usual, I’ve learnt how not to use the shitty word “Sorry “
thanks victor to help mortal be gods.
Nice way to think, humans can be God.Good job done Victor!
This is a masterpiece Uncle Vic. It helped me understand myself much better.
I have a doubt from this article… how shall one be “Humble” and “Cold & Brutal” at the same time?
Your point about never apologizing is in direct contradiction with the idea of always being honest. If you actually fucked up, you should be the first to own it.
Wow those abs! Looks like a lot of hard work! Could you post a before picture