If you want to live a rewarding life beyond the ordinary, average, everyday humdrum that most people cling to you must make your own set of rules.
Following the pre-determined rules will only get you one thing: nothing that you actually want.
There is one absolute rule of the universe: People who follow all the rules never get what they want. People that break all the rules get everything they want and more.
You've heard people cry about it a million times “but I did everything I was supposed to! How come I things don't go my way?! He doesn't do anything he's supposed to and everything goes his way!”
Many think that following the rules is the best way to gain acceptance and respect. That could not be further from the truth. The only people who gain respect and admiration are those who go their own way and forge their own path.
Think about all the hero's you've ever had, all the famous people you have admired and envied, how many of those men followed societies rules? Zero.
No famous man took the course of action prescribed by society. None of them went to college, got a safe degree, got a safe job and then lived life as the international playboy every man dreams of being. They didn't choose the boring path and a boring life as their reward for not daring to be bold.
If you want fame and riches you have to break the rules. No one ever got rich with their human resources job.
If you want a beautiful woman or many beautiful women you have to break the rules. No one ever had the love of a beautiful woman by taking her to dinner and a movie and bringing her plenty of flowers.
If you want a life of adventure you have to break the rules. Taking a cruise every five years is hardly a life of adventure.
If you want happiness you must break the rules. Who could ever be happy following another's set of rules with all the limitations that come along with that?
Break the rules. Make your own rules. Be your own man. Forget everything you have ever read, heard or seen. Everything you have ever been told is a lie. Forget about it. It doesn't mean anything because you don't need any of that bullshit to forge your own path.
Next time someone tells you what the rule is in any particular situation do the opposite and watch the admiration flow your way.
Nice motivational post. I think, taken with a grain of salt, I agree with you. I might not put it in terms of breaking _all_ the “rules.” There can be collected wisdom in certain “rules,” that might not be altogether completely useless or harmful to you. And depending on what you consider “rules,” you may not be able to break them.
I find this post useful because I think most of the rules that need breaking are the ones I subconsciously impose on myself. It can be very hard to recognize them. And even when recognized, it can be very hard to break them.
If you don’t mind me asking, do you have advice for when it comes to a) identifying your self-limiting rules, and (more interestingly) b) getting yourself to break those rules. I understand that a lot of it is willpower … it can be exhausting if you’re out of practice.
You could call me “risk averse”; not debilitatingly so, but given the choice I’d rather be closer to reckless than not. I find I sometimes “hiccup” or hesitate, and thus miss opportunities I know I should have taken. The problem is not so much “just do it”, but I tend to append a tacit “and be ready for the consequences”. It’s often in this that some hidden self-imposed rule lurks … usually manifesting itself as fear (or laziness). I guess if I were always living with full presence of mind it would help … but I dunno … how do you generally try to approach it when your gut clenches and your mind stops, and you’re no longer even dialogging with the rational?
Heck Yeah Victor!!
Completely agree. I am going to graduate high school this year and have decided for multiple reasons that i am not going to attend the biggest money scam ever. I don’t need a piece of paper to make money and even then that degree only gets me a job, which i don’t want to be bound by. I was late for my job the other day for the first time and i realized that i never want to have to be bound by someone else’s schedule. Your site is crazy encouraging! Keep it up man!
Scott
Hey, Vic.
Could you look up this guy’s email and ask him how he is doing?
Great post Victor that spoke to me as I am going through the transition from wage slave to business owner.
Great post as usual. Keep it up!
“Oh, my brother! TESTIFY!”
Agree! And one way of not following the rules is to use them to your advantage.
These words are timless. Breaking the rules is the universal law of success!
Hello? plz i will like to be happy person in live tn’s