How To Meet Like-Minded Friends

From the desk of Victor Pride
Subj: 11:11, make a wish and it will come true
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Years ago I would spread the good gospel of B&D; (pre B&D;) to acquaintances in my city.

To my non-surprise, all they liked to do was argue about why my philosophies wouldn't work (even though they actually did work).

I decided to start Bold & Determined for that very reason.

I was tired of wasting my time talking to go-nowhere losers who had excuses about why things didn't work instead of excitement and vigor to go and and accomplish great things the likes of which the world has never seen.

I decided then and there to never waste my time walking to one person who may or may not listen.

I decided to put my message on the internet where anybody who shared my vision could find my message and act on it.

In the process, I ended up making a lot friends and business partners I would have never met otherwise. 

It worked like a charm, but it was not always a charmed life I lived and I spent my share of time in purgatory.

Here's how it happens in the beginning…

On your journey of a thousand long miles you start to grow away from the normal people.

Your average friends and family are still stuck on the journey of a single step. With each step you take, you grow further and further apart.

At first it is like you keep drifting out to sea all alone.

You grow wealthier, cooler, calmer, and more confident and they grow lazier, more lethargic, more sedentary, and more negative.

And. You. Have. To. Get. Away.

You're leaving the normals behind but you're having trouble replacing the ordinary people you once called your friends with extraordinary people you wish to call your friends.

The long journey can feel lonely, like you're the only one who is walking the path. 

It is lonely for a very specific reason..

It is because you are in the in-between stage of ordinary and extraordinary.

This is the stage I call…

PURGATORY.

It takes courage to go out on your own and no one is going to follow you yet because you are still untested in battle.

Everyone says they'll go out and do great things, but until they actually do, all they are is a dreamer. 

No one believes in dreamers, they believe in doers. That is why they leave you alone to go accomplish something on your own.

The dreamer has to make it through purgatory and reach heaven before any winners want to befriend him.

The great news is that after you do something great, achieve something spectacular, accomplish something extraordinary, other people who have done the same will flock to you.

It is great that extraordinary people will flock to you because ordinary people will become afraid of you like they are afraid of Zeus.  

Normal people never go anywhere and think it isn't possible to succeed big because they believe limits are real.

So when you break through these limits, they treat you like royalty instead of friends and family. Because of their fear, they become impossible to be around.

To break through purgatory and into heaven, you have to break through limits.

If you want to meet people on this journey into the unknown, you have to think like the extraordinary people.

Extraordinary poeple on the journey know that there are no limits but what is self-imposed.

It is important to discuss business and life with extraordinary people because these are the people who are headed the same place you wish to be headed (straight to the top) and they can give you valuable advice and encouragement (if you need it).

But how do you meet like-minded friends and business partners?

This is a question you have asked me many times…

Do you want the simple answer or the complicated answer? 

That's a trick question, there is only one answer…

To meet extraordinary friends:

Get in motion and they will come to you. 

If you cannot meet the people you wish to meet, perhaps it is not them but you who is not living correct.

People who are in motion are not going to go anywhere near you unless you are in motion too.

If you stay standing still you will attract nothing but other people who are standing still.

If you are still in purgatory, in the shadows, in-between ordinary and extraordinary, it is difficult for extraordinary people to find you.

Make it easy for them to find you.

I meet great people every day and I don't even try to meet people.

I get emails from all corners of the world from friends I didn't even know I had. They say they found Bold & Determined and they have so much in common. 

They want to meet in New York City, Los Angeles, Ho Chi Minh City, Montreal, Sydney, Singapore, Moscow, New Delhi, Lagos, Dubai, Bangkok, and Timbuktu. 

How did I do it?

I put myself and my philosophy on the internet and then I let them come to me.

If you wish to find friends who are on the same wavelength as you, you have to make it easy for them to find you.

The way you make it easy for them to find you is by starting a blog, vlog, or podcast and letting your personality and philosophy be known.

When they understand your personality and relate with you, they will come running to you. 

Put yourself in motion and other people in motion will be attracted to you.

Meeting like-minded friends really is as simple as that.

If this is too difficult to believe, you can think of the cat and the yarn…

Ever seen a cat with a piece of yarn?

When you pull the yarn, the cat chases after the yarn with all it's might. It is excited for the yarn and is waiting with baited breath for it to move again so it can chase after it.

What about when the yarn is sitting still on the floor?

When the yarn is sitting still, the normally active cat is bored and does nothing with it, it could not care less about the yarn. The yarn is not in motion and because the yarn is not in motion, the cat has absolutely no interest in it.

Pull the yarn and the cat springs into motion, chasing after it. The cat was there the whole time, it just didn't care about a piece of yarn that was going nowhere.

When the yarn started going somewhere, the cat became interested,

Do you want like-minded people to come chasing after you?

Pull the damn yarn.

Until next time.

Your man,

-Victor Pride